#58: The Wheel of Needs 4: How Our Needs Drive Our Habits, Choices and Relationships
If you want to change a habit, change your needs structure. Kelly was sobbing inconsolably, the deep heavy cry that occurs when a person can't even catch their breath. I sat down in front of her and waited; the box of tissue was in front of her, and she was already nursing her tears. I tried to remain calm, not knowing what she would say. I had never seen her before and had no clue as to what was happening in her world. My old self would have hoped for a way out, my new self knew a way to help her improve herself. Every habit, good, bad or indifferent is driven by three of the six human needs.
In this episode, I’ll share how I’ve used it to help a person dependent on alcohol overcome his addictions by applying human needs psychology. I’ll also share how I was able to help Kelly understand why her husband was not returning her texts and not coming to see their children, which he adored. I think you’ll find it interesting which sentence from Kelly triggered his departure.
Learn how you can realign habits, choices and relationships by understanding the six human needs. This is part four of a four-part series of the six human needs framework. This framework will help you understand, with greater clarity, why people do what they do. It will also help change your behaviour and help others do the same. You’ll see why people’s relationships continue and why they decline.
This teaching has helped so many of my colleagues, medical learns, and patients, and they have found it one of the most important things they've ever learned.
Why? Because six human needs psychology helps us understand our decisions and behaviours, which then helps us develop awareness about the choices we are making. So often we are unaware of why we do what we do. I've used this to help individuals improve their relationships with their partner, "troubled teenager," improve their financial situations, change a habit, and so much more. The best part is that it is a profoundly simple framework that helps create change.
I promise you these lessons are critical in understanding human behaviour. I've broken it up into four episodes because the lessons in each are valuable and profound. I'm sure you won't be disappointed.
Everyone must meet these needs, and as you'll see, we meet them in different ways.
Welcome to The Introverted Doctor, the podcast that uncovers myths, mistakes, and misconceptions that hold healthcare professionals back from living their best life at work, home, and play. Each week, Dr. Lalit Chawla will present tips and strategies that you can begin applying right away! He's a full-time Family Physician, Adjunct Professor of Medicine, International Lecture and Writer.
In his former life, he was a professional Illusionist and still uses his skills in his workshops, lectures and in the clinical setting. He incorporates magic and illusions in his lectures and teaches healthcare professionals how to use magic in a clinical setting and in the rehabilitation setting.
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