The Healing In Progress Podcast

How to Stop Your Mother Wound Ruining Your Relationships

The mother wound affects your relationship with yourself, your self-worth or self-esteem. Its hard to have a good opinion of yourself if your mothers love was conditional (until you heal of course). However it doesn't just affect how you feel about yourself. Your relationship with your mother forms a blueprint - teaching you how to love and be loved. Showing us what connection means and how to relate to other people. Not getting enough of what you needed from your mother as a child, or not feeling emotionally safe with her during childhood tends to create gaps that make it difficult to have full and close adult relationships. The most prominent gaps it tends to create are: ➡️ Authenticity ➡️ Boundaries ➡️ Safety / Trust After all, it's difficult to be your authentic self if your relationship with your mother relied on you having to adapt and edit yourself based on your mothers moods or needs or requirements of you. It's also a tall order to be able to set boundaries clearly and without guilt if your boundaries were ignored, or triggered rejection from your mother as a child. Annnnd trust. The biggie after any form of childhood trauma. Not feeling 100% secure in your mothers love is going to make it challenging to feel safe with other people, and to trust that they won't hurt you. In this episode I'm talking about this in more detail and discussing ways you can heal in these 3 core areas in order to have better relationships. Enjoy! Sian ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Being triggered by your kids: The feelings you had to shut down as a child

If you find yourself being triggered by your child and want to understand why certain things that they do or say create an emotional reaction for you, this episode will help you. Children tend to trigger the parts of us (feelings, behaviours, reactions) that we weren't allowed to feel or express as a child. As a psychotherapist and mother of 2 I have experience of finding certain parts of mothering difficult and I have developed my own style of conscious parenting over the years. This episode will discuss how to navigate parenting in a way that will set your child up for emotional health, and it explores the differences between conscious, emotionally mature parenting versus more traditional, emotionally immature parenting. You will learn strategies for working through your own triggered emotions as a parent so that you can stay calm and steady as a parent. Main Topics Discussed - Defining what it means to be "triggered" by your child's behavior (00:02:23) - How emotionally immature parenting leads to suppression of emotions and behaviors (00:05:37 - 00:08:51)   - Example of how the host's own childhood experiences trigger her when her daughter rejects her (00:11:16 - 00:14:22) - Practicing conscious parenting by holding your own emotions while also attending to your child's needs (00:14:51 - 00:18:00) --- Where to Find Sian Crossley * IG Breakthecycle_coaching * Conscious Parenting Bundle: [healinginprogress.co.uk/conscious-parenting](https://healinginprogress.co.uk/conscious-parenting) --- Key References - Conscious parenting - Emotionally immature parenting - Suppression of emotions and behaviors - Triggered emotions - Healing childhood wounds - Parenting your inner child ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

How To Grieve Someone Who Is Still Alive

Grieving isn't just reserved for bereavement. It's part of life and healing and is what needs to happen when relationships end or change. In this video I will talk you through the times when grieving is needed in order to move forward. Whether that's going no contact with someone, a relationship ending, or someone becoming different and in need of a different dynamic. We will talk through HOW to grieve and what needs to happen to facilitate this process. Enjoy! Sian ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Feeling disloyal for talking about your family as a child

In this episode we're discussing the common experience of children in toxic families or with emotionally immature parents, not being allowed to talk about their home life with anyone. I'll be talking about the impact of this as a child and as an adult, and the way in which learning to pretend can lead to it being difficult to live authentically as an adult. Hope it helps! Sian ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Let's talk about perfectionism

Perfectionism affects so many of us; wanting to do well, trying our best, aiming for high standards. It's hard to pull away from, especially when society praises high achievers and excellence of any kind. BUT perfectionism takes a toll on our emotional health, sooner or later. It becomes exhausting and robs us of relaxation and enjoyment. In this show I'm talking about 3 ways perfectionism shows up that isn't often talked about and will get to the root of what causes perfectionism in the first place. Happy listening! Sian ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.