Is Sex an Expectation or Demand in Marriage?

Is Sex an Expectation or Demand in Marriage?

Communication in one area of marriage often flows over into another. But what if your sex life is laden with hidden hurt and your typical language seems too harsh? If you want an easier connection to healthy sex and a marriage that feels close and NOT selfish, you need to give your spouse accurate feedback about their sexual requests. In this episode, Mary Whitman Ortiz and Rachel Landin break down selfish tendencies in sex and how to boldly say, “I’m uncomfortable participating in our sex life until it feels more respectful. What would you like to do about it?” Get the books: “Why Can’t I Talk to Him about Sex?’ “Why Can’t I Talk to Her about Sex>” https://marywhitmanortiz.com/store/ Your marriage has been given a great gift from God. It’s sexual intimacy with your spouse. If you’ve never addressed selfish patterns in your sex life, then today’s episode is for you. SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION FOR THE PODCAST: https://marywhitmanortiz.com/intimacymadesimplepodcast/ TAKE OUR INTIMACY QUIZ TO FIND OUT WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOUR SEX LIFE AND HOW TO FIX IT: https://marywhitmanortiz.com/free-resource/ GET RELATIONSHIP COACHING: https://calendly.com/mary-19/relationship-breakthrough-session [https://calendly.com/mary-19/relationship-breakthrough-session] FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/marywhitmanortiz [https://www.instagram.com/marywhitmanortiz] FOLLOW US ON FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MaryWhitmanOrtiz [https://www.facebook.com/MaryWhitmanOrtiz] The Intimacy Made Simple podcast unpacks how being deeply known and loved meets the act of sex, so you can have true intimacy and make your marriage strong!

Sexless Marriage Deconstructed: Don't Become a Statistic

Conflict happens in every marriage. Resisting it or choosing to be unaware only makes it worse. Could this be the very thing that's robbing your sex life? In this episode, Mary Whitman Ortiz and Rachel Landin define sexless and low-sex marriage. Plus, they share the ‘magic’ number: How many times a healthy couple should have sex.  Use their top ten list to identify where your sex life drain is happening and what you can do to refuel the missing parts. for the ‘number’ you both want. Your marriage has been given a great gift from God. It’s sexual intimacy with your spouse. If you’ve never seen your sex life as a measure of the overall health of your marriage, then today’s episode is for you. SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION FOR THE PODCAST: https://marywhitmanortiz.com/intimacymadesimplepodcast/ TAKE OUR INTIMACY QUIZ TO FIND OUT WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOUR SEX LIFE AND HOW TO FIX IT: https://marywhitmanortiz.com/free-resource/ GET RELATIONSHIP COACHING: https://calendly.com/mary-19/relationship-breakthrough-session [https://calendly.com/mary-19/relationship-breakthrough-session] FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/marywhitmanortiz [https://www.instagram.com/marywhitmanortiz] FOLLOW US ON FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MaryWhitmanOrtiz [https://www.facebook.com/MaryWhitmanOrtiz] The Intimacy Made Simple podcast unpacks how being deeply known and loved meets the act of sex, so you can have true intimacy and make your marriage strong!

How is Sex Playful and Pure?

Do you think of your sex life as a solution to your marriage problems? If you know how to make your intimacy healthy, it will bring closeness and unity, so you can work on issues together. But if you have unresolved issues with sex, you’ve lost your secret solutionizer. In this episode, Mary Whitman Ortiz and Rachel Landin talk about the timeless aspect of sex. On one end, you want the playfulness and childlike sense of exploration. On the other end, you want a commitment that says, we will adapt to each other’s maturing bodies and find new ways to express in intimacy. This is a way to make your sexual intimacy healthy. Your marriage has been given a great gift from God. It’s sexual intimacy with your spouse. If you’ve never seen sex as a powerful way to make your marriage better (more than the physical pleasure), then today’s episode is for you. SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION FOR THE PODCAST: https://marywhitmanortiz.com/intimacymadesimplepodcast/ TAKE OUR INTIMACY QUIZ TO FIND OUT WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOUR SEX LIFE AND HOW TO FIX IT: https://marywhitmanortiz.com/free-resource/ GET RELATIONSHIP COACHING: https://calendly.com/mary-19/relationship-breakthrough-session [https://calendly.com/mary-19/relationship-breakthrough-session] FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/marywhitmanortiz [https://www.instagram.com/marywhitmanortiz] FOLLOW US ON FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MaryWhitmanOrtiz [https://www.facebook.com/MaryWhitmanOrtiz] The Intimacy Made Simple podcast is about when being deeply known and loved meets the act of sex, so you can have true intimacy and make your marriage strong!

How is Sex Like Super Glue?

So many couples feel bored, just going through the motions in their marriage and sex life.  Day after day, they keep trying to do the right thing, but when the passion fades, the walls go up, and misunderstanding increases. How do you get past the busyness of life to focus on your intimacy in a fresh way? In this episode, Mary Whitman Ortiz and Rachel Landin discuss the bond that happens during sexual intimacy, which makes you closer and closer. It’s a great way for you to face life’s bumps together, to make your marriage STRONG.  Mary gives a Top Ten list to help you refocus on each other. Your marriage has been given a great gift from God. It’s sexual intimacy with your spouse. If you’ve never seen sex as a powerful way to make your marriage better (more than the physical pleasure), then today’s Limitless Intimacy truth is for you. SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION FOR THE PODCAST: https://marywhitmanortiz.com/intimacymadesimplepodcast/ TAKE OUR INTIMACY QUIZ TO FIND OUT WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOUR SEX LIFE AND HOW TO FIX IT:  https://marywhitmanortiz.com/free-resource/ GET RELATIONSHIP COACHING: https://calendly.com/mary-19/relationship-breakthrough-session [https://calendly.com/mary-19/relationship-breakthrough-session] FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/marywhitmanortiz [https://www.instagram.com/marywhitmanortiz] FOLLOW US ON FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MaryWhitmanOrtiz [https://www.facebook.com/MaryWhitmanOrtiz] The Intimacy Made Simple podcast unpacks how being deeply known and loved meets the act of sex, so you can have true intimacy and make your marriage strong!

Why is intimacy scary?

To be intimate is to be deeply known and loved. That sounds really special but it takes a lot to invite your spouse: in-to-me-see. Wow! That’s true authenticity. How is that incorporated in marriage? Well, when we look at Genesis 2:23, we see how Adam calls Eve, bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh. She was a part of him, both in how God formed her and in how he saw her as belonging with him. Proverbs 30:18-19 says the way of a bridegroom with his bride is a marvelous mystery, almost too amazing for words. It’s a beautiful place, safe to be open, connect, touch, playfully engage, and even act foolishly in love. Three Reasons Couples Struggle with a Deep Knowing of Each Other 1. Trust requires vulnerability. 2. Strong self-esteem helps you take risks. 3. Low self-value shuts you down. Three Reminders of Why Being Intimate Matters 1. Treasure- You value you the process 2. Creative- You playfully engage 3. Sacred- You sense God’s honor Still have questions, and we hope you do, please record and share them here and we will answer them in an upcoming episode.  https://marywhitmanortiz.com/intimacymadesimplepodcast/ At Intimacy Made Simple, we help couples overcome roadblocks in communication, so you can reconnect with your spouse and create a sex life you enjoy. We offer proven methods as a relationship coach and Christian sex educator; you can start implementing right away. We encourage you with hidden secrets to Great Intimacy to know and unwrap God’s G.I.F.T. to marriage. If you’re ready to see sexual intimacy as a wonderful way to connect deeply (and have fun) with your spouse, you’re in the right place! We pray you enjoy this episode of Intimacy Made Simple, and if so, rate and review! Want even more guidance and support? Women can join the Intimacy Made Simple for Christian Marriage community https://www.facebook.com/groups/IntimacyMadeSimpleforChristianMarriage [https://www.facebook.com/groups/IntimacyMadeSimpleforChristianMarriage] Say hi! and help us grow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/marywhitmanortiz [https://www.instagram.com/marywhitmanortiz]Check out our Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/MaryWhitmanOrtiz [https://www.facebook.com/MaryWhitmanOrtiz] Or book a free, 30-minute relationship consultation https://calendly.com/mary-19/relationship-breakthrough-session [https://calendly.com/mary-19/relationship-breakthrough-session] For hope-filled loving relationships, Mary Whitman Ortiz Rachel Landin, co-host The Intimacy Made Simple podcast unpacks how being deeply known and loved meets the act of sex, so you can have true intimacy and make your marriage strong!