On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Riz Ahmed: How to Silence Your Inner Critic (And Build REAL Self Worth)

The inner critic doesn't just disappear with more success. Academy Award-winning actor, writer, and artist Riz Ahmed shares why success, recognition, and achievement can never replace self-worth. He opens up about identity, shame, the inner critic, and the pressure to perform, revealing how life can start to feel like one long audition when your value depends on other people’s approval. Through a deeply personal health crisis and years of chasing validation, Riz discovered the power of vulnerability, gratitude, and self-acceptance. This conversation is a powerful reminder that true freedom begins when you stop proving yourself to the world and start defining your worth for yourself. In this episode you'll learn: How to Stop Seeking Constant Validation How to Quiet Your Inner Critic How to Find Flow Instead of Chasing Success How to Let Go of Who Others Expect You to Be How to Stay Grounded Through Life’s Highs and Lows How to Build Self-Worth Beyond Achievement How to Find Freedom in Vulnerability How to Live More Fully in the Present Moment Growth isn’t about becoming someone else; it’s about having the courage to be fully yourself. Keep showing up, keep learning, and trust that who you are is already enough. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:33 Rooting for Others Without Comparison 04:01 The Danger of Seeking External Validation 07:02 A Childhood Memory That Shaped Everything 11:42 The Secret to Finding Flow 18:29 Life Feels Like One Big Audition 22:31 The Gap Between Who You Are and Who You Present 25:05 Finding Freedom in the Imperfection  27:49 One Story Does Not Define You 32:07 When Life Falls Apart Overnight 39:15 Facing Your Darkest Moments Alone 46:44 Breaking Free from the Alpha Male Myth 50:08 When Your Inner Critic Becomes Your Identity 52:56 Managing the Voice Inside Your Head 56:21 Why Does Time Go By Faster as We Grow Older? 58:42 Home Is the People You Love 01:01:55 Setting Boundaries to Protect Your Creativity  01:04:29 Finding Where You Truly Belong 01:10:04 Growing Up in Northwest London 01:12:32 Riz on Final Five  Episode Resources: YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/rizahmed [https://www.youtube.com/rizahmed]  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/RizAhmed/ [https://www.facebook.com/RizAhmed/]  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/rizahmed [https://www.instagram.com/rizahmed] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Coral Santoro: The #1 Reason Most People Never Reach Their Goals (Use THIS 1% Rule to Keep Making Progress When Motivation Disappears)

Many of us feel pressured to keep up with timelines, expectations, and the highlight reels we see online, but this conversation offers a different perspective. Coral Santoro shares how success is less about reaching a destination and more about who you become through resilience, patience, and self-belief. From navigating failure and uncertainty to building meaningful relationships and staying true to your vision, she reminds us that there is no universal timeline for achievement. This episode is a powerful reflection on purpose, courage, and the importance of continuing to build your life, even when progress is quiet, slow, and unseen. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Comparing Your Timeline to Others How to Keep Going When It Stops Being Exciting How to Turn Failure Into Useful Data How to Stay Patient While Chasing Big Goals How to Find Success in the Boring Work How to Surround Yourself With Supportive People How to Communicate Better in Relationships and Business How to Keep Building Even When No One Believes in You Every challenge, setback, and uncertain moment is shaping you into someone stronger, wiser, and more resilient. Keep showing up, keep learning, and keep building. The life you want is not created in a single breakthrough, it’s built through the small, consistent choices you make every day. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:32 Why You’re Not Falling Behind 03:25 How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others 08:35 The 3 Traits That Drive Success 13:19 The Secret to Staying Patient 16:50 Focus on Your Own Path 26:37 Building the Right Circle Around You 29:32 Finding Beauty in Life’s Quiet Moments 36:59 Simple Ways to Train Your Brain for Success 42:41 Hearing More, Listening Less 45:22 This or That: Entrepreneurial Mindsets 50:59 How to Grow a Social Media Following 54:41 The Power of Choosing the Right Partner 01:03:36 Why Great Communication Changes Everything  01:07:57 Coral on Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://www.coralsantorogroup.com/ [https://www.coralsantorogroup.com/]  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8WGOzdnEcNaYioYrP132Gg [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8WGOzdnEcNaYioYrP132Gg]  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/p/Coral-Santoro-61570173779394/ [https://www.facebook.com/p/Coral-Santoro-61570173779394/]  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/coralsantoro/ [https://www.instagram.com/coralsantoro/]  LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/company/coralsantoroventuresinc [https://www.linkedin.com/company/coralsantoroventuresinc]  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@coral.santoro [https://www.tiktok.com/@coral.santoro]  X | https://x.com/coralsantoroo [https://x.com/coralsantoroo]  See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Stop Waiting to “Figure It Out!” (Do THIS In The Next 48 Hours to FINALLY Take the First Step in Finding Your Purpose)

Jay taps into the question so many people quietly carry: “Is this really what I’m meant to do?” With honesty and clarity, he challenges the myths we’ve been taught about purpose, that it’s a single calling, that passion comes first, or that clarity arrives before action. Instead, Jay reframes purpose as something you build through curiosity, experimentation, and small, consistent steps. He reminds us that most people aren’t lost, they’re avoiding what they already know because of what it might cost. Jay offers a practical framework for finding direction. He points to the things that come naturally, what deeply moves or frustrates you, the challenges you’ve lived through, and even who you envy as signals worth paying attention to. These aren’t random, they’re clues guiding you toward the work that’s truly aligned with you. The message is simple but powerful: stop waiting for certainty, start moving, and trust that clarity comes through action. In this episode you'll find: How to Find Your Purpose How to Turn Passion Into Purpose How to Start Before You’re Ready How to Overcome Fear of Failure How to Build Confidence Through Action How to Become More Yourself The quiet ideas you keep returning to, the things that light something up inside you, the dreams you keep pushing aside, they matter for a reason. Start where you are, with what you have, and trust that clarity often comes after action, not before it. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  00:00 Intro 01:21 The Biggest Lie About “Following Your Passion” 02:20 The Myth of Having One True Calling 03:25 Why You Won’t Feel Certain When You Find It 04:06 Your Purpose Doesn’t Have to Be Your Job 05:36 4 Real Places to Look for Your Purpose 11:02 4 Hidden Obstacles That Keep You Stuck 14:50 Stop Trying to “Find” Your Purpose — Start Testing It 16:25 The 1% Rule That Changes Your Direction 17:44 Stop Talking About It, Start Doing the Work  18:43 Your Environment Shapes Your Future 19:39 Discomfort Means You’re on the Right Path 20:27 The One Action to Take in the Next 48 Hours 22:26 The 3 Paths That Lead You to Purpose See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Miles Chamley-Watson: #1 Mindset Shift That Changes Everything (Try THIS to Stay Sharp, Focused, and In Control)

In this conversation, Jay sits down with Olympic medalist and world champion fencer Miles Chamley-Watson to explore the mindset behind true resilience. Miles opens up about how fencing became his anchor through a difficult childhood, and the lessons shaped by failure, racism, family trauma, and the pressure of competing on the world’s biggest stages. Together, they unpack how confidence is earned through competence, how adversity can be turned into fuel, and why real success is staying rooted in who you are while creating opportunities for others. Throughout the episode, Miles shares the principles that helped him turn setbacks into purpose and use his platform to inspire the next generation. In this episode you'll learn: How to Turn Setbacks Into Fuel for Success How to Perform Under Extreme Pressure How to Build Resilience Through Adversity How to Stop Letting Fear Control Your Decisions How to Create a Life Bigger Than Your Achievements How to Be the Person Others Can Look Up To No matter where you are in your journey, remember that you don’t have to be perfect to move forward. Keep learning, stay true to who you are, and trust that growth often happens in the moments that test you the most. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:39 Why Is It So Hard to Fit In? 03:28 How Fencing Changed My Life 04:47 The Power of the Right Guidance 06:59 Why Every Great Athlete Needs a Mentor 09:09 Learn to Lose Before You Learn to Win 10:28 Bouncing Back From Your Biggest Defeat 13:58 Breaking Barriers in a Traditionally White Sport 16:19 Turning Anger Into a Competitive Advantage 18:22 What It Takes to Train Like a World-Class Fencer 20:47 Preparing for Competition Day 21:57 Reading and Anticipating Your Opponent 23:06 The Tragic Incident That Changed Fencing Forever 27:50 The Road to Olympic Success 33:00 Reconnecting With an Estranged Parent 39:15 When Life Leaves You Feeling Helpless 44:50 Staying True to Yourself Through Success 46:38 The Role Models Who Shaped My Life 51:01 The Importance of Strong Male Friendships  53:20 What is Inside a Professional Fencer’s Gear Bag? 57:17 Miles on Final Five  Episode Resources: Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/fencer [https://www.instagram.com/fencer] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Sara Al Madani: Stop Falling for “Potential” (Look for THIS Instead So You Don’t Waste Months on the Wrong Person)

In this deeply honest conversation, Jay sits down with Sara Al Madani where she opens up about surviving toxic relationships, rebuilding her identity, and learning that love should never require abandoning yourself. Through pain, healing, and radical self-awareness, Sara shares how inner work became the foundation for every part of her life, from relationships to faith to self-love. Jay and Sara explore why we often confuse chemistry for compatibility, why we repeat familiar relationship patterns, and how healing starts the moment we stop blaming others and start taking responsibility for our choices. This episode is a reminder that love isn’t about chasing validation or fixing people, it’s about knowing yourself deeply enough to stop settling for less.  In this episode you'll learn: How to Stop Settling for Less How to Heal Before Dating Again How to Tell The Difference Between Want and Need  How to Break Toxic Relationship Patterns How to Choose Compatibility Over Chemistry How to Rebuild Self-Worth After Heartbreak How to Become the Love You Seek The moment you stop chasing validation, stop settling for breadcrumbs, and start choosing your peace, your life begins to change in ways you never imagined. Grab a copy of Sara’s book, Dear Narcissist: F*ck You, a bold, direct, and unfiltered guide to understanding narcissists in real life, just visit https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Narcissist-Spotting-Escaping-Narcissistic/dp/B0F54NB6LP [https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Narcissist-Spotting-Escaping-Narcissistic/dp/B0F54NB6LP]  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:07 The One Question to Ask Before Dating 04:15 Are You Looking for Love or Filling a Void? 05:57 What Are Your Dating Non-Negotiables? 08:56 Chemistry Is Not the Same as Compatibility 12:01 What Does Inner Work Actually Look Like? 15:41 The First Step Toward Healing 19:25 How to Raise Your Relationship Standards 22:33 Don’t Ignore These Dating Deal-Breakers! 27:37 Knowing When It’s Time to Leave 31:32 The Cost of Staying in a Toxic Relationship 34:42 Finding the Courage to Walk Away 39:10 Healing Through Your Relationship with God 42:49 What to Do When Someone Suddenly Ghosts You 45:58 Stop Falling in Love with Potential 47:00 You Can’t Force Someone to Change 49:51 Stop Waiting for Someone to Become Better 53:05 Don’t Abandon Self-Love For a Relationship 57:58 Manifestation Starts with Surrender 58:54 Is There Truth to These Popular Love Clichés? 01:00:52 Forgiveness Is Essential For Healing 01:03:13 How to Rewire and Train Your Mind 01:05:28 Sara on Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://saraalmadani.com/ [https://saraalmadani.com/]  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/iamsaraalmadani/ [https://www.facebook.com/iamsaraalmadani/]  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/saraalmadani/ [https://www.instagram.com/saraalmadani/]  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@saraalmadani [https://www.tiktok.com/@saraalmadani]  X | https://x.com/sara_almadani [https://x.com/sara_almadani] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.