The lonely queers

#47 'Self-worth - the foundation of everything'

#47 SELF-WORTH - THE FOUNDATION OF EVERYTHING The Final Episode of 2025. Happy New Year. This is it - the last episode of 2025. And what a year it's been. I hope this year brought you closer to who you truly are. Even if just a little. Even if just in moments. Because that's the real work, isn't it? Not becoming someone new, but remembering who you've always been beneath all the layers of conditioning and expectation. Today, I want to talk about something fundamental. Something we often confuse but desperately need to understand: The difference between self-esteem and self-worth.  In the last episode I talked about self-esteem and this time I include self-worth. Self-worth is the unshakeable knowing that you have value simply because you exist. Not because of what you do. Not because of what you achieve. Not because of who loves you or how you look or what you contribute. But because you ARE. Being the spiritual entity having a human experience.  Not the other way around. You're not a human trying to become spiritual. You're spirit - eternal, infinite, divine - temporarily clothed in human form. And spirit has inherent worth. Always. Unchanging. Your soul doesn't earn its value. Your spirit doesn't prove it deserves to exist. It simply IS. And therefore, it's worthy. In the episode I will take you into an altered state of mind for a very short while so you can sense what I am talking about. We go through the same themes again and again and most of our experiences with love and relations  is connected to our lack of self-esteem due to unhealed childhood traumas and experiences: The same lessons, the same patterns, the same struggles - but each time, we spiral deeper and expand IF we choose to look inward and work with ourselves and heal. Each time you encounter self-worth issues, you're not "failing" or "not getting it." You're meeting the same lesson at a deeper layer. With more awareness. With more capacity to see and integrate and heal - remember that. My words for you is to inspire you to sense the meaning of my words about self-worth.  Thanks for listening // ASH This podcast is made for inspiration and entertainment only.

#46 'Awareness, self-esteem & breaking the projection cycle'

#46 AWARENESS, SELF-ESTEEM AND BREAKING THE PROJECTION CYCLE Have you ever been in the middle of a fight with your partner and suddenly realized - this isn't really about them? That feeling when you're upset about something they said or did, but the intensity of your reaction feels... bigger than the situation deserves? When you hear yourself saying things or feeling things that seem to come from somewhere ancient and wounded inside you? That's your inner child projecting. And here's what most of us don't realize: We're doing this constantly. All of us. Every time we enter into love- into intimate relationship, into vulnerability, into opening our hearts to another human being - we bring our whole history with us. And I don't just mean the conscious history, the stories we know and tell about ourselves. I mean the wounds we carry from when we were small and powerless. The times we weren't seen. The moments we weren't held when we needed it most. The love we didn't receive in the way our little hearts needed it. The messages we internalized about whether we were worthy, lovable, enough. All of that lives in us. Waiting. And then we fall in love. We open our hearts. We let someone in. And suddenly, that wounded inner child wakes up and starts projecting all those old, unhealed traumas onto this person we love. And here's the painful truth: They're probably doing the same thing to you. When they snap at you over something small, when they shut down emotionally, when they criticize or withdraw or cling - that's their wounded inner child projecting their unhealed trauma onto you. So we end up in this dance - two wounded children in adult bodies, projecting our past onto each other's present. No wonder relationships are hard. But it is not all that dark - there are ways around it and it takes awareness. Self-esteem is the foundation and goes hand in hand with awareness. When you genuinely know your own worth and who you are as a being,- not as an intellectual concept but as a lived, embodied truth - you don't need to fall into that rabbithole all the time. Changing habbits, live THE self-love and self-reflect is some of the keywords in this episode. Thanks for listening // ASH This podcast is made for inspiration and entertainment only.

#45 'Is it really true?'

#45 IS IT REALLY TRUE? What is Christmas to you? No, really - pause for a moment. Take a breath. What does this season actually mean to you? Maybe it's the warmth of twinkling lights cutting through winter darkness. Maybe it's the bittersweet ache of nostalgia - memories of Christmases past, people no longer at the table, versions of yourself you've outgrown. Do you recognize that particular cocktail of emotions this time of year brings? That strange mixture of melancholy and happiness, hope and heaviness? The joy of connection tangled up with the stress of expectations. The longing for peace while drowning in distractions, the shopping lists, the obligations, the endless noise telling you what this season should be. But what if we used this time differently? What if, instead of getting swept up in the chaos, we paused? We reflected. We turned inward instead of outward. Just for a moment. Could Christmas time be a moment, where we reflect and wake up a little as we realize that nothing is as we really think? This season - right now - offers you something precious: Permission to slow down. To sense the power that lives within you, humming quietly beneath all the holiday noise. To remember something we so often forget in our rushing, striving, disconnected modern lives. We are not separate. Not from each other. Not from the universe. Not from the divine mystery that breathes through all things. We're all here together. Spiritual beings. Creative forces. Gloriously odd entities having this strange, magnificent human experience. We're on this trip together - each of us experiencing, growing, stumbling, and rising again. So before this year ends, before you get lost in the should-dos and have-tos around Christmas, I'm inviting you to remember: You are powerful. You are connected. You are exactly where you need to be. Thanks for listening // ASH This podcast is made for inspiration and entertainment only.

#44 'The Great Distraction: Forgetting you're a Powerful Being'

#44 'THE GREAT DISTRACTION: FORGETTING YOU'RE A POWERFUL BEING' Do you also feel disconected sometimes? From yourself, from others, from your intuition, from your power. Not really knowing what the meaning of life is?  This episode is about the distraction that keeps us dis-connected in life and somehow it has become our truth. But is it really a truth we shall live? Being distracted to be dis-connected? For many it is a truth... if not all of us.  Here's another truth: We are inherently connected. At the soul level, we were never separate. This connection is our natural state. Everything telling you otherwise? We find distractions everywhere and we loose focus and live as blind sheeps sometimes, and the endless distractions are keeping you from your inner wisdom and shaping our reality. But it doesn't have to be bad an dark as we realize we live in a world of super distractions. We can stay aware and stay with the light. By choice. When you remember who you truly are - when you reconnect with your essence - you realize you are infinitely powerful. Distractions or not - the light in you growing stronger as you realize that is unbeatable.  So I'm asking you: What would change if you stopped believing the false idendity of separation? What becomes possible when you remember that you're connected to an infinite source of power, wisdom, and love? What do you need? What opens up when you realize that every woman you meet is an extension of the same divine feminine energy that flows through you? This is the remembering. This is the awakening. This is coming home to your truth. You are not separate. You have never been separate. And you are far more powerful than you've been allowed to believe. It's time to remember, beloved. It's time to reconnect. It's time to reclaim what was always yours.  Thanks for listening // ASH This podcast is made for inspiration and entertainment only.

#43 'Do you dare to expose yourself?'

#43 DO YOU DARE TO EXPOSE YOUR SELF? This episode is an inspiration for you too sense. To let go of the emotions of the past and the control of your life for a moment and sense into your natual powers. There is a truth that many of us don't want to admit: We have a shadow side that's obsessed with control. And as women, we've often been conditioned to become masters of it - managing everyone's emotions and the future, orchestrating every detail, ensuring nothing falls apart on our watch and we are not a fan of the unknown and unforeseen. We control our schedules down to the minute. We control how we're perceived. We control our environments, our relationships, our bodies. We even try to control outcomes that were never ours to control in the first place. What are we really controlling and do we know? or dare to expose? This episode is an invitation to get uncomfortably honest with yourself. What if the very thing keeping you safe is also keeping you small? What if your need to control everything is actually preventing the magic, the flow, the beautiful surprises that life wants to bring you? Exposing yourself - truly seeing yourself and the crying inner child - takes immense courage. It means looking at the parts of you that aren't pretty or polished. It means asking difficult questions: * What am I really afraid will happen if I'm not in control? * What do I need? * What do I want? When we dare to expose ourselves - to look inward with raw honesty - something miraculous happens. We discover that our needs are not weaknesses. Our longings are not shameful. Our vulnerability is not something to hide but something that connects us to our authentic power and to each other. But once we turn inward and truly see ourselves - all of ourselves and the shadow side CONTROL - we can finally create lives that actually nourish us instead of depleting us. Lives where we can ask for help without feeling like failures. Lives where we honor what we need instead of constantly sacrificing ourselves on the altar of everyone else's comfort. And here's the beautiful ripple effect: When you stop trying to control everything and everyone around you, you give your loved ones permission to be themselves too. You model what healthy boundaries look like. You show them that it's safe to be human, to be imperfect, to need support. Your healing becomes their healing. Your freedom becomes their freedom. So I'm asking you again: Do you dare to expose yourself? This episode will challenge you, trigger you, and hopefully set something free within you. We're going deep into the shadow side of control - not to shame you for it, but to help you understand where it comes from and how to transform it into something healthier, something that serves your highest good. And it takes awareness. And discernment. The most powerful thing you can control is your relationship with yourself. Thanks for listening. //ASH  This podcast is made for inspiration and entertainment only.