Abdulfattah Adeyemi

WHAT HAVE YOU BEEN TELLING YOURSELF?

What have you been telling yourself in the privacy of your own mind? What is that constant, often unnoticed stream ofinner speech that shapes your reality, your emotions, your relationships, and your relationship with Allah?   This comprehensive lecture explores the philosophical, psychological, and spiritual dimensions of self-talk throughthe lens of the Qur'an and Sunnah. You will learn to recognize the voice of the Inner Critic, distinguish it from the conscience, understand how your past, present, and future narratives shape your life, and discover practical, Qur'an-basedtools to reclaim your inner speech.   WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:  1. The Nature of Self-Talk — Why the voice never stops and what it really is 2. The Language of the Inner Critic — Where harsh self-judgment comes from 3. The Stories We Tell Ourselves — How narrative shapes identity 4. The Qur'an on Inner Speech — What Allah reveals about your hidden whispers 5. The Hadith on Thoughts and Intentions — The sacred space of the inner world 6. Affirmation vs. Toxic Positivity — When encouragement becomes denial 7. The Words We Speak About Our Past — Freeing yourself from regret 8. The Words We Speak About Our Present — Living in the now with presence 9. The Words We Speak About Our Future — Breaking the cycle of anxiety 10. The Path to Reclaiming Inner Speech — Practical daily practices   KEY TOPICS COVERED:  • What is self-talk and why does it never stop? • The Inner Critic vs. The Conscience (Nafs al-Lawwāmah) • How inherited stories shape your identity • Qur'anic verses on inner speech (50:16, 114:4, 7:205, etc.) • Hadith on forgiven thoughts and the power of intention • The difference between healthy affirmation and toxic positivity • How to speak to yourself about past failures, mistakes, and trauma • Breaking free from comparison, overwhelm, and stagnation • Transforming "what if" anxiety into trust in Allah • Practical daily practices: muraqabah, dhikr, and istighfar • The Five Gates of Inner Speech • Qur'anic replacement phrases for common harmful self-talk   SOURCES REFERENCED:  • Qur'an: Surah Al-Baqarah, An-Nisa, Yunus, Yusuf, Maryam, Al-Furqan, Qaf, etc. • Sahih Bukhari & Sahih Muslim • Sunan Abi Dawud, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah • Tafsir Ibn Kathir • Classical Islamic scholarship on nafs, qalb, and rūḥ    SUBSCRIBE for more Islamic reflections on psychology, spirituality, and personal growth!   Book for Counselling/Therapy session here: https://calendly.com/abdulfattahadeyemi/counseling-therapy   Download the Adeyemi App from Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kwickapp.panel.android665e0fb9ed2fa   Visit: www.adeyemi.ng⁠   Join Abdulfattah Adeyemi’s Community: https://t.me/+Gz7wGuTsRLRmNzU0⁠   FOLLOW ME ON:   Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1Ve9GDn0C01bVIffD9D8sS?si=-4hvd8wRQRGuX3uWsuiwQA   Instagram:@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi Facebook:@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi TikTok:@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi YouTube:www.youtube.com/@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi   #SelfTalk #InnerSpeech#IslamicPsychology #QuranAndSelf #InnerCritic #ToxicPositivity #IslamicSpirituality #HealingInnerWorld #Nafs #Tazkiyah #Dhikr #Muraqabah #IslamicReminder #MentalHealthInIslam #QuranReflection #PersonalGrowth#IslamicWisdom #HealingFromWithin #TrustAllah #Repentance #Tawbah #HopeInAllah #QuranicHealing#MuslimMentalHealth #IslamicSelfHelp

THE SPOUSE AND THEIR IN-LAWS

Marriage not only unites two people. It often connects two families, two cultures, and two emotional worlds. But one important question remains: How much involvement should in-laws really have in a marriage?   In this insightful and balanced lecture, Ustaz Dr. Abdulfattah Adeyemi explores: * the rights of a spouse upon their in-laws * healthy family boundaries * emotional protection in marriage * respecting parents without damaging the marriage * and how wise in-laws become a source of peace instead of pressure.   THIS LECTURE DISCUSSES: * family interference in marriage * emotional safety for spouses * healthy communication with parents and in-laws * Islamic balance between marriage and family * protecting the dignity of one’s spouse * and the role of wise, supportive in-laws. You will also hear a heartfelt tribute to “The in-laws from paradise” — those beautiful souls who support marriages with wisdom, mercy, and maturity.   KEY REMINDER: * Parents deserve honour. * Marriage deserves protection. * The goal is not family separation, but healthy closeness with healthy boundaries.  Subscribefor more deep reflections on love, marriage, emotional healing, and spiritual growth. Share this with someone who needs clarity and peace with their in-laws today.   Book for Counselling/Therapy session here: https://calendly.com/abdulfattahadeyemi/counseling-therapy   Download the Adeyemi App from Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kwickapp.panel.android665e0fb9ed2fa   Visit: www.adeyemi.ng⁠   Join AbdulfattahAdeyemi’s Community: https://t.me/+Gz7wGuTsRLRmNzU0⁠   FOLLOW ME ON:   Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1Ve9GDn0C01bVIffD9D8sS?si=-4hvd8wRQRGuX3uWsuiwQA   Instagram:@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi Facebook:@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi TikTok:@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi YouTube:www.youtube.com/@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi   in-laws and marriage, marriage advice islam, family interference in marriage, islamic marriage advice, mother in law problems, healthy boundaries marriage, spouse rights in islam, muslim family lecture, relationship advice,marriage counseling, husband and wife issues, protecting marriage, emotional intelligence marriage, family and marriage balance, in-laws in islam

THE A-Z OF MARRIAGE: WHAT THE SCHOOLS NEVER TAUGHT US

When we were children, we learned A for Apple…B for Ball…C for Cat… But nobody taught us A for Affection, B for Boundaries, and C for Communication Yet, these are the very letters that build or break marriages. In this emotional, practical, and reflective lecture, Ustaz Dr. Abdulfattah Adeyemi explores The A–Z of Marriage — an insightful look into love, communication, trust, mercy,forgiveness, emotional intelligence, and building a peaceful home.   From Affection to Zeal, Mercy to Patience, and Trust to Understanding, this lecture combines Islamic wisdom, relatable humour, emotional insight, practical marital advice, and timeless relationship principles.   Whether you are married, preparing for marriage, struggling in your relationship, or helping others build healthy homes… this lecture will transform how you see marriage.   TOPICS COVERED: Emotional intimacy Conflict resolution Preventing divorce Healthy communication Emotional maturity in marriage Trust and loyalty Kindness and mercy The spiritual side of marriage Building lasting love   Happy homes are not built by perfect people…they are built by people who learn the language of marriage well.   Book for Counselling/Therapy session here: https://calendly.com/abdulfattahadeyemi/counseling-therapy   Download the Adeyemi App from Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kwickapp.panel.android665e0fb9ed2fa   Visit: www.adeyemi.ng⁠   Join AbdulfattahAdeyemi’s Community: https://t.me/+Gz7wGuTsRLRmNzU0⁠   FOLLOW ME ON:   Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1Ve9GDn0C01bVIffD9D8sS?si=-4hvd8wRQRGuX3uWsuiwQA   Instagram:@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi Facebook:@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi TikTok:@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi YouTube:www.youtube.com/@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi   marriage advice, islamic marriage lecture, muslim couples, marriage communication, relationship advice, marriagemotivation, emotional intelligence marriage, conflict resolution marriage, happy marriage tips, islamic relationship advice, husband and wife lecture, family life islam, preventing divorce, love and mercy in islam, marriage counseling

YOU WANT MARRIAGE, BUT ARE YOU READY FOR IT?

Many people want marriage… but very few truly understand what it requires. And many people are preparing for the wedding day… but not preparing for married life.   In this powerful and eye-opening lecture, Ustaz Dr. Abdulfattah Adeyemi explores the reality of marriage beyondthe dreams, emotions, and societal expectations. Are you ready for marriage… or just interested in it?   THIS LECTURE WILL HELP YOU: Understand the difference between the idea and the reality of marriage Identify why people rush into marriage—and why others delay it Evaluate your true readiness (emotionally, spiritually, psychologically, and financially) Avoid common mistakes that lead to marital breakdown Prepare yourself properly before entering marriage Learn where and how to find a suitable spouse the right way   Whether you are single, searching, or preparing for marriage, this message will guide you toward making wiser, moreintentional decisions.   Like & Share this lecture to inspire others.   Book for Counselling/Therapy session here: https://calendly.com/abdulfattahadeyemi/counseling-therapy   Download the Adeyemi App from Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kwickapp.panel.android665e0fb9ed2fa   Visit: www.adeyemi.ng⁠   Join Abdulfattah Adeyemi’s Community: https://t.me/+Gz7wGuTsRLRmNzU0⁠   FOLLOW ME ON:   Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1Ve9GDn0C01bVIffD9D8sS?si=-4hvd8wRQRGuX3uWsuiwQA   Instagram: @dr.abdulfattahadeyemi Facebook: @dr.abdulfattahadeyemi TikTok: @dr.abdulfattahadeyemi YouTube: www.youtube.com/@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi   marriage readiness, islamic marriage advice, before getting married, relationship advice islam, marriage preparation,muslim singles advice, how to prepare for marriage, marriage reality, why marriages fail, choosing a spouse islam, premarital advice islam, marriage lecture islam, relationship readiness, emotional maturity marriage, marriage expectations   What stage are you in right now?   Not ready yet Preparing myself Actively searching Already married (learning)   Let’s learn from each other.

EI: WHAT EVERY HUSBAND MUST KNOW

Dear Husband: This Is Why YourMarriage Is Struggling  A man can provide everything… yet still struggle to build a peaceful home. In this powerful and practical lecture, Ustaz Dr. Abdulfattah Adeyemi explores one of the most overlooked aspects of marriage—emotional intelligence in husbands. Why do many marriages experience tension, distance, and repeated conflict? Often, it is not about money or provision… It is about how emotions are handled.   This lecture will help you: Understand what emotional intelligence truly means in marriage Learn how to listen, respond, and lead with wisdom Avoid common mistakes that damage relationships Build emotional stability and connection in your home Create a peaceful, respectful, and loving environment   You will also discover: Practical ways to manage anger and reactions How to understand your wife’s emotional needs A message of encouragement for husbands who are trying but struggling A powerful du‘ā for peaceful and successful marriages   A man can provide everything… but still fail to create a peaceful home. This is not just advice… It is a guide to building a home filled with sakīnah (tranquility).   Subscribefor more deep reflections on love, marriage, emotional healing, and spiritual growth. Share this with someone who needs clarity and peace today.   Book for Counselling/Therapy session here: https://calendly.com/abdulfattahadeyemi/counseling-therapy   Download the Adeyemi App from Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kwickapp.panel.android665e0fb9ed2fa   Visit: www.adeyemi.ng⁠   Join AbdulfattahAdeyemi’s Community: https://t.me/+Gz7wGuTsRLRmNzU0⁠   FOLLOW ME ON:   Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1Ve9GDn0C01bVIffD9D8sS?si=-4hvd8wRQRGuX3uWsuiwQA   Instagram:@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi Facebook:@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi TikTok:@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi YouTube:www.youtube.com/@dr.abdulfattahadeyemi     marriage advice for husbands,emotional intelligence in marriage, islamic marriage advice, husband and wiferelationship, conflict resolution marriage, muslim husband responsibilities,marriage tips for men, how to be a good husband, relationship advice islam,emotional maturity men, peaceful marriage islam, communication in marriage,marriage problems solution, love and respect marriage, family life islam