Flourishing After Adversity

S2:E20 Victor, Not Victim: How to Reclaim Your Power in the Middle of Hard Times

From Victim to Victor: Reclaiming Agency After Adversity Host Laura Mangum Broome welcomes listeners to the Flourishing After Adversity podcast and shares a free guide, “Reframe the Spiral,” for coping with negative thoughts after setbacks. She explains that a victim mindset is a human coping response to pain but that staying there keeps focus on what was done to you and drains agency, while a victor mindset focuses on what you can do next by shifting from “Why me?” to “What is this asking of me?”  Drawing from her own experiences with bilateral breast cancer, chemo-related heart failure and heart transplant, her son’s suicide, divorce, and her father’s death, Laura offers three steps: name what happened and process it without rehearsing it, ask better questions centered on control, and give pain a purpose by serving others. She highlights Nick Vujicic as an example and provides journaling prompts and a 48-hour next-step challenge. 00:00 Feeling Powerless 01:11 Victim Mindset Explained 02:24 Laura Story Shift 03:29 Victim vs Victor 04:17 Nick Vujicic Example 05:45 Step 1 Name It 07:36 Step 2 Better Questions 08:17 Step 3 Purpose 09:11 Pushback and Small Steps 09:59 Exercise and Recap 11:37 Final Encouragement 12:06 Outro and Resources Nick Vujicic's Website: https://nickvujicic.com/ [https://nickvujicic.com] * Free Resource: Reframe the Spiral: 5 Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day: https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe [https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe] * iCope2Hope 3-Step Resilience Framework: https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap [https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap] * Website: iCope2Hope: From Hardship to Hope: https://www.icope2hope.com [https://www.icope2hope.com] * Move Beyond Adversity Blog: https://www.icope2hope.com/blog [https://www.icope2hope.com/blog] * Free Newsletter: Wednesday’s Resilient Recharge: https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter [https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter] Schedule a free 15-minute Clarity Call with Laura: https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB [https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB]

S2:E19 You Don't Have to Feel Hopeful to Choose Hope

Choose Hope Before You Feel It: Taking Action After Adversity Host Laura Mangum Broome welcomes listeners to the Flourishing After Adversity podcast and offers a free guide, “Reframe the Spiral,” for managing negative thought loops after setbacks. Using a gardener watering bare soil as a metaphor, she explains that waiting to feel hopeful often keeps people stuck because action typically precedes motivation.  She distinguishes hope as a conditional feeling versus a deliberate choice, then provides a framework to identify waiting patterns (listening for “when” language, noticing how long you’ve been waiting, and asking what you’d do if you already felt ready). She shares steps to choose hope through a tiny unconditional decision, consistent “watering” before results appear, and tracking daily instances of choosing action over feelings, plus tips like a “Before I feel like it” alarm and a proof-of-choosing list. 00:00 Waiting To Feel Ready 01:02 The Gardener And Hope 02:38 Hope Feeling Vs Choice 04:01 Spot The Waiting Pattern 06:20 Choose Hope In Action 09:20 Reflection Prompt 09:57 Everyday Resilience Tips 11:26 Recap And Encouragement 12:29 Closing And Resources * Free Resource: Reframe the Spiral: 5 Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day: https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe [https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe] * iCope2Hope 3-Step Resilience Framework: https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap [https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap] * Website: iCope2Hope: From Hardship to Hope: https://www.icope2hope.com [https://www.icope2hope.com] * Move Beyond Adversity Blog: https://www.icope2hope.com/blog [https://www.icope2hope.com/blog] * Free Newsletter: Wednesday’s Resilient Recharge: https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter [https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter] * Schedule a free 15-minute Clarity Call with Laura: https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB [https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB]

S2:E18 Fear vs. Anxiety: Why Knowing the Difference Changes Everything

Fear vs. Anxiety: How to Tell the Difference and Take the Next Right Step Host Laura Mangum Broome explains that fear and anxiety are different experiences requiring different strategies, using her own experiences with bilateral breast cancer, chemotherapy-related congestive heart failure, and waiting for a heart transplant to illustrate both. Fear is a response to a real, present threat and is specific; anxiety is a response to a perceived or future threat and is often vague and driven by “what-ifs.”  Laura offers three steps to identify which you’re facing—name it out loud, look for the source, and check the timeline—and three steps to move through it: use a control map (what you can/can’t control), regulate the nervous system with paced breathing (inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 6), and take one micro-step in the next ten minutes. Additional tools include treating anxiety as a messenger, using a daily worry window, and separating facts from the story. 00:00 Fear vs Anxiety Intro 00:34 Show Welcome and Free Guide 01:23 Why One Strategy Fails 02:26 Personal Story Cancer to Transplant 03:58 Clear Definitions That Matter 04:48 Identify What You Feel 06:39 Move Through It Three Steps 08:56 Three Bonus Anxiety Tools 12:26 Try This Guided Exercise 13:12 Recap and Encouragement 14:21 Closing and Call to Action * Free Resource: Reframe the Spiral: 5 Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day: https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe [https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe] * iCope2Hope 3-Step Resilience Framework: https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap [https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap] * Website: iCope2Hope: From Hardship to Hope: https://www.icope2hope.com [https://www.icope2hope.com] * Move Beyond Adversity Blog: https://www.icope2hope.com/blog [https://www.icope2hope.com/blog] * Free Newsletter: Wednesday’s Resilient Recharge: https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter [https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter] Schedule a free 15-minute Clarity Call with Laura: https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB [https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB]

S2:E17 How to Reinvent Yourself After Life-Changing Events

Reinventing Yourself After Adversity: Three Steps to Your Next Chapter Laura Mangum Broome welcomes listeners to the Flourishing After Adversity podcast and offers a free guide, “Reframe the Spiral,” for coping with negative thought loops after setbacks. Using Olympic champion Scott Hamilton as an example of reinvention after identity shifts and major health battles, she highlights how he turned adversity into purpose through speaking and founding Scott Hamilton Cares and the 4th Angel Mentoring Program.  Laura teaches three steps for personal reinvention: accept the facts of your situation without approving the pain, remember your self-worth by inventorying skills, strengths, passions, and values, and imagine your next chapter through a small experiment rather than a full blueprint. She adds resilience tips—name what you’re grieving, choose a seven-day identity anchor statement, and run a tiny confidence-building experiment—then closes with a legacy question and a prompt for taking one doable next step. 00:00 When Life Derails 00:20 Podcast Welcome 00:44 Free Reframe Resource 01:08 Scott Hamilton Reinvents 02:32 Why Reinvention Hurts 03:14 Step 1 Accept Reality 03:51 Step 2 Remember Worth 04:49 Step 3 Next Chapter 05:27 The Legacy Question 06:27 Resilience Tips 08:21 Recap And Encouragement 09:06 Closing And Next Steps * Free Resource: Reframe the Spiral: 5 Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day: https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe [https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe] * iCope2Hope 3-Step Resilience Framework: https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap [https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap] * Website: iCope2Hope: From Hardship to Hope: https://www.icope2hope.com [https://www.icope2hope.com] * Move Beyond Adversity Blog: https://www.icope2hope.com/blog [https://www.icope2hope.com/blog] * Free Newsletter: Wednesday’s Resilient Recharge: https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter [https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter] * Schedule a free 15-minute Clarity Call with Laura: https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB [https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB]

S2:E16 Roots, Disruption, and the Tiny Experiment That Got Me Unstuck

Tiny Experiments: Turning Disruptions Into Forward Motion Laura Mangum Broome hosts the Flourishing After Adversity podcast and explains how unexpected disruptions can become opportunities to move forward faithfully and intentionally. She shares a recent plumbing crisis caused by tree roots that required jackhammering her bedroom closet floor, forcing her to empty and reorganize her room, reschedule appointments, and choose between spiraling or finding the good.  Using this experience, she contrasts a goal mindset (“did I succeed or fail?”) with an experiment mindset (“what did I learn?”), especially after adversity when people crave certainty and control. She offers three steps: pick one area you feel stuck, turn the goal into a tiny experiment with a simple hypothesis and small daily action, and review what you learned. She closes with a reflection prompt, an action step, and resources including her free guide “Reframe the Spiral.” 00:00 When Life Disrupts 00:36 Podcast Welcome 01:01 Free Reframe Guide 01:23 Plumbing Chaos Story 02:50 Finding the Good 03:42 Goals vs Experiments 04:56 Why We Crave Certainty 05:38 Three Tiny Steps 07:31 Reflection and Action 08:05 Recap and Next Steps 09:11 Final Encouragement * Free Resource: Reframe the Spiral: 5 Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day: https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe [https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe] * iCope2Hope 3-Step Resilience Framework: https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap [https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap] * Website: iCope2Hope: From Hardship to Hope: https://www.icope2hope.com [https://www.icope2hope.com] * Move Beyond Adversity Blog: https://www.icope2hope.com/blog [https://www.icope2hope.com/blog] * Free Newsletter: Wednesday’s Resilient Recharge: https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter [https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter] Schedule a free 15-minute Clarity Call with Laura: https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB [https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB]