How to Be a Person

The Psychology Behind Mass Violence | Robert Mahoney

What causes someone to go down the path of violence? Are acts of mass violence truly random, or are there warning signs most of us simply don't know how to recognize? In this conversation, Giuliano sits down with Robert Mahoney, leading expert in Behavioral Threat Assessment and Founder of TVTP Solutions, to explore the psychology behind mass violence and what communities can do to prevent it before tragedy occurs. Rather than focusing on security cameras, metal detectors, or active shooter response plans, Robert explains why true prevention starts much earlier. He shares how many acts of violence are preceded by years of emotional distress, behavioral changes, isolation, loss of purpose, and missed opportunities for intervention. The discussion challenges the common idea of a "random act of violence" and examines why seemingly disconnected life events can sometimes contribute to a much larger story unfolding beneath the surface. The conversation explores the role of identity, purpose, and community in human behavior, why people become vulnerable to destructive paths, and how feelings often drive behavior long before logic enters the picture. Robert also explains how schools, law enforcement, mental health professionals, and community organizations can work together more effectively to identify people who may be struggling before a crisis develops. Along the way, Giuliano and Robert discuss empathy, human nature, why many people who commit terrible acts were often showing signs of distress long beforehand, and how a culture of genuine care may be one of the most powerful tools we have for creating safer communities. They also explore the difference between protection and prevention, why many modern systems are designed to respond rather than intervene early, and how small moments of attention and human connection can sometimes alter the trajectory of a person's life. This is a thought-provoking conversation about violence prevention, mental health, human behavior, community responsibility, and what it means to look beyond the headlines to understand the deeper causes behind some of society's most troubling problems. And if you enjoy this episode, hit subscribe to drop in on more of these conversations. https://tvtpsolutions.com/ [https://tvtpsolutions.com/] How to Be a Person: ⁠https://howtobeaperson.co [https://howtobeaperson.co] Support the show: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno⁠ [https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno⁠] Life insurance: ⁠https://life.howtobeaperson.co [https://life.howtobeaperson.co] Want to be a guest on How to Be a Person? Send Giuliano Grimaudo a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b] Please note: Links may be affiliated and may pay the creator a commission.

Can a Deck of Cards Reveal Your Life Purpose? | Alexander and Viki

Can a deck of cards reveal your life purpose? According to Alexander and Viki, the answer is yes. In this conversation, they explain why they believe an ordinary deck of 52 playing cards contains an ancient system for understanding personality, purpose, relationships, life lessons, and the unique path each person is here to walk. What starts as a conversation about playing cards quickly turns into a much bigger exploration of consciousness, free will, destiny, spirituality, religion, personal growth, and the nature of reality itself. Alexander and Viki share the unlikely journey that led them to this work, from spiritual awakenings and energy healing to years spent searching for deeper answers about who we are and why we're here. They explain the origins of what they call the Source Cards, how a standard deck of playing cards mirrors the calendar year, and why they believe each person's date of birth reveals a specific set of cards that shape the themes and lessons of their life. Along the way, the conversation explores some of life's biggest questions. Are we here to follow a predetermined path, or do we have free will? Did we choose our experiences before we were born? Why do some people seem naturally drawn toward certain gifts, talents, and challenges while others walk a completely different road? And what happens when we stop trying to live someone else's life and start embracing our own? Giuliano and his guests also dive into the relationship between religion and direct spiritual experience, the difference between belief and knowing, why so many people feel disconnected from themselves, and how personal fulfillment may come from learning to play the cards we've been dealt rather than wishing for someone else's hand. Whether you're deeply spiritual, highly skeptical, or simply curious about different ways of understanding human nature, this conversation offers a fascinating perspective on identity, purpose, and what it means to live in alignment with who you truly are. Alexander and Viki are Sacred Strategy Guides for the Game of Life who use the Source Cards to help people uncover patterns, gain clarity, and better understand the unique path they're here to walk. Their work blends coaching, healing, and personal development to help individuals move beyond old limitations and create a life that feels more aligned and meaningful. If you enjoy this episode, hit subscribe to drop in on more of these conversations. https://www.thesourcecards.com/ [https://www.thesourcecards.com/] How to Be a Person: ⁠https://howtobeaperson.co [https://howtobeaperson.co] Support the show: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno⁠ [https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno⁠] Get the book: https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Person-Gems-Living/dp/B0H155R7JL/ [https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Person-Gems-Living/dp/B0H155R7JL/] Peaceful Profits: https://author.howtobeaperson.co [https://author.howtobeaperson.co] Want to be a guest on How to Be a Person? Send Giuliano Grimaudo a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b] Please note: Links may be affiliated and may pay the creator a commission.

Why So Many People Are Leaving Life on the Table | John Salzwedel

Why do so many people feel unfulfilled, even when they’re doing everything they’re “supposed” to do? And what does it actually mean to live a life that feels like your own? In this conversation, Giuliano sits down with John Salzwedel, coach, speaker, and author of STOP Leaving Life on the Table, to explore why so many people feel stuck, disconnected, or like they’re simply going through the motions of life. John spent nearly three decades in the insurance industry before stepping away to pursue work that felt more aligned with who he had become. That decision serves as a launching point for a conversation about purpose, fulfillment, responsibility, and the difference between living intentionally versus living according to expectations that were handed to us by family, culture, religion, work, or society. Together, they discuss why modern life often leaves people overwhelmed by problems they have little control over, how social media and algorithms can distort our perception of reality, and why carrying the weight of the entire world may be keeping people from fully engaging with their own lives. The conversation explores the tension between caring about what’s happening around us while still taking responsibility for our own experience, relationships, priorities, and personal growth. They also dive into the idea of “leaving life on the table,” a concept inspired by the business phrase “leaving money on the table,” and examine how people often sacrifice experiences, dreams, opportunities, and fulfillment without even realizing it. Along the way, they explore work-life balance, the importance of identifying what truly matters, why many people struggle to feel aligned with their own values, and how small decisions can create major shifts over time. This is ultimately a conversation about perspective. About recognizing that life isn’t something to simply endure until the weekend arrives. It’s something to participate in. Something to experience. Something to engage with while we still have the chance. Whether you're feeling stuck, questioning your direction, struggling to find fulfillment, or simply looking for a different way to think about what it means to live a good life, this conversation offers plenty to reflect on. And if you enjoy this episode, hit subscribe to drop in on more of these conversations. https://www.thecoach.vip/podcast [https://www.thecoach.vip/podcast] How to Be a Person: ⁠https://howtobeaperson.co [https://howtobeaperson.co] Support the show: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno⁠ [https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno⁠] Get the book: https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Person-Gems-Living/dp/B0H155R7JL/ [https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Person-Gems-Living/dp/B0H155R7JL/] Want to be a guest on How to Be a Person? Send Giuliano Grimaudo a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b] Please note: Links may be affiliated and may pay the creator a commission.

Can Human Design Actually Help You Make More Money? | Hannah Becker

Most people build their business by following someone else's blueprint. They find a successful entrepreneur, copy the strategy, follow the steps, and hope for the same result. But what if the reason it worked for that person is because it was aligned with who they are... and not necessarily with who you are? In this episode, business strategist Hannah Becker breaks down Human Design and explains why understanding yourself may be one of the most overlooked business advantages available. Hannah combines traditional business strategy with Human Design to help entrepreneurs create businesses that feel aligned while still producing meaningful financial results. The conversation explores what Human Design actually is, why Hannah was initially skeptical of it, and how it eventually became a framework she now uses both personally and professionally. Topics include intuition versus logic, why some people thrive following proven systems while others burn out trying to force themselves into someone else's model, and whether trusting yourself can sometimes produce better results than following conventional advice. The discussion also branches into personality frameworks, spirituality, religion, manifestation, personal agency, and the role beliefs play in shaping the way reality is experienced. Hannah shares how Human Design influenced her approach to decision-making, relationships, health, business, and wealth creation, while also offering a perspective that doesn't require blind belief or spiritual certainty to find value in the framework. Specific Human Design concepts are explored throughout the conversation, including generators, manifesting generators, authority, alignment, networking, visibility, and why certain sales strategies may feel natural for one person but completely draining for another. The episode also examines the difference between forcing success and creating it through a business model that feels more natural and sustainable. Whether you're deeply interested in Human Design, completely skeptical of it, or simply curious about the connection between self-awareness and success, this conversation offers an honest exploration of identity, fulfillment, business, and what it means to trust yourself in a world full of competing advice. And if you enjoy this episode, hit subscribe to drop in on more of these conversations. https://www.threads.com/@_thehannahbecker [https://www.threads.com/@_thehannahbecker] How to Be a Person: ⁠https://howtobeaperson.co [https://howtobeaperson.co] Support the show: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno [https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno] Get the book: https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Person-Gems-Living/dp/B0H155R7JL/ [https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Person-Gems-Living/dp/B0H155R7JL/] Business funding: https://funding.howtobeaperson.co [https://funding.howtobeaperson.co] Please note: Links may be affiliated and may pay me a commission.

Internal Family Systems, Shadow Work, and Human Darkness | Tina Estrella

What happens when the parts of yourself you’re trying hardest to suppress are actually the parts running your life? In this episode, Giuliano sits down with Existential Kink coach and Internal Family Systems practitioner Tina Estrella for a conversation about shadow work, self-sabotage, nervous systems, trauma patterns, and the darker sides of human psychology that most people avoid talking about openly. The conversation explores the core ideas behind Internal Family Systems (IFS), including the concept that we’re not just one singular personality, but a collection of “parts” shaped by childhood experiences, emotional survival, fear, desire, shame, protection, and conditioning. Tina explains how many of the behaviors people consciously want to stop (procrastination, addiction, toxic relationship patterns, emotional shutdown, self-sabotage, rage, insecurity, people-pleasing, even destructive impulses) may actually be unconscious strategies designed to create safety, belonging, or control. Giuliano and Tina also get into the idea of “Existential Kink,” which suggests that some part of us may unconsciously enjoy or identify with the very patterns we say we want to escape. That leads into a much larger conversation about human darkness, repression, shadow integration, religion, social conditioning, trauma, BDSM, nervous system regulation, and why trying to become a purely “good” person may actually create more fragmentation internally instead of less. The second half of the conversation moves into topics most people are too uncomfortable to discuss publicly. They explore how shame, suppression, and disowned parts of the psyche can distort human behavior, including conversations around addiction, violence, sexual pathology, and collective outrage culture online. Rather than approaching these subjects from a simplistic “good vs bad” lens, the episode looks at the deeper psychological mechanisms underneath destructive behavior and why honest conversations around human nature matter. The episode also touches on feminism, patriarchy, social media discourse, collective nervous system dysregulation, communication breakdowns online, and the growing tendency for people to reduce nuanced conversations into black-and-white thinking. This is one of those conversations that gets philosophical, psychological, uncomfortable at times… and very human. Whether you’re already familiar with Internal Family Systems and shadow work or hearing these ideas for the first time, this episode will probably challenge the way you think about identity, healing, accountability, and the hidden parts of yourself that may be shaping your life more than you realize. And if you enjoy this episode, hit subscribe to drop in on more of these conversations. https://linktr.ee/tinaestrella [https://linktr.ee/tinaestrella] How to Be a Person: ⁠https://howtobeaperson.co [https://howtobeaperson.co] Support the show: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno [https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno] Life insurance: ⁠https://life.howtobeaperson.co [https://life.howtobeaperson.co] Want to be a guest on How to Be a Person? Send Giuliano Grimaudo a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b] Please note: Links may be affiliated and may pay me a commission.