In Service To Love

015: Are You Having Good Sex? A Deep Dive w/ Michelle Vogel

What is good sex and how do you know if you’re having it? Is sex required to have a healthy, successful relationship?  Are there other forms of intimacy?    This is a juicy one today folks and you won’t want to miss it! I’m welcoming Michelle Vogel, a fellow marriage and family therapist, on the show today to talk ALL things sex.    If you’re wondering if you need sex to be happy, listen up! If you’re curious about polyamorous relationships, tune in!  Are you feeling unfulfilled sexually in your monogamous or open relationship, then come join the conversation!    Michelle has so much expertise to help YOU get your groove back, so let’s get into it!   We’re diving into:  * Consent culture & sex positivity: Where have they helped and where do they fall short? * How to begin to access vulnerability & why it’s important * What to ask yourself before exploring new sexual avenues  * Polyamory & ethical non-monogamy: Do we really know what those are? * How to engage in sexual media with a critical eye & what tools can be useful * Why consent doesn’t mean the sex will be good * And so much more with Michelle!    Read more about Michelle’s work: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/michelle-vogel-valley-village-ca/746675 [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/michelle-vogel-valley-village-ca/746675] Email Michelle:  michellevogeltherapy@gmail.com [michellevogeltherapy@gmail.com]   Connect with me: Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/ [https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/ [https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/] FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy [https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy] Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com [Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com]

014: How to Deal With Cultural Differences in Your Relationship

How can you enter into and continue to show up in your multicultural or multiracial relationship?    How can you approach your partner’s culture & background with curiosity and love?    If you’re in this type of relationship (or you just want to be!), listen up!    I'm going over 5 questions to ask yourself so you can honor your background as well as your partner’s. I’m getting into how you can support your children in their experience and how you can stay curious and learn to love the diversity that your relationship holds. This is important stuff and you chose your partner on purpose! So, let’s dive in!    I’m diving into:  * If opposites really do attract & how this usually plays out  * How you can blend the cultures you each bring & start new traditions together * Why finding core values within the diversity is crucial  * My background & how it’s informed my work as a therapist supporting blended families * If diversity allows for more assumptions or less * Why we all need to broaden how we define culture * And much more!  Connect with me: Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/ [https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/ [https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/] FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy [https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy] Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com [Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com]

013: Stress & Anxiety 101: When it’s helpful & when it hurts

Are you taking steps to deal with it or release it? Or has it taken over?    In today’s episode I’m getting into why we feel stress and anxiety, what’s happening in our body when we do, and what we can do about it moving forward. And you’re not alone, I feel it too.    But we don’t have to live in a constant state of stress or panic. I repeat - You DON’T have to live in a constant state of stress or panic.    Stress has its purpose in our life at times and I won’t even say anxiety is bad, but it shouldn’t be with you all day, everyday. So, join me for today’s episode and let’s learn what stress and anxiety can teach us about ourselves. Let’s learn how to be present, find safety within, and start living with less stress, less anxiety, and a lot more joy & pleasure!    I’m diving into:  * Fight, flight, freeze, fawn: What they are & how they show up * The difference between stress & anxiety * Why rest, breath, & grounding exercises can help (Plus easy ways to ground yourself!) * My experience with anxiety & hypervigilance  * What anxiety is telling you & what happens when you ignore the message * When anxiety shows up as drive & the need to achieve (But when is it enough?)  * My advice with anxiety medication * How to find your peace, your balance, & your limits * And much more!    Connect with me: Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/ [https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/ [https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/] FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy [https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy] Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com [Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com]

012: Boundary Setting 101: Know Your Worth

Are you struggling to set boundaries in your life - in your partnerships, your friendships, your family, or maybe at work?   Are you stuck in a pattern of people pleasing thinking that if you’re just good enough, people will respect you and boundaries won’t be an issue?    Listen friend, the rules of engagement must be set. And YOU have to set them.  Yes, it’s hard. Yes, it’s uncomfortable. But, it’s SO worth it and it DOES get easier.    Join me today as we look at boundaries: why they’re necessary, how to define them, where to set them, and what it looks like when we don’t. I’m walking you through ALL of it because I want you to feel safe and confident. I want you to step into your power and draw the lines and I want you to enjoy your life! So, let’s get into it!   I’m diving into: * What to do with boundary crossers * Guilt around boundaries: Why do you feel bad defining them?  * What needs to happen BEFORE consent can be given  * Why defining consequences of broken boundaries is just as important * Examples of boundaries at home, at work, at play, with visitors & friends * Why establishing the rules helps build trust in yourself * And much more!    Connect with me: Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/ [https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/ [https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/] FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy [https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy] Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com [Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com]

011: How to Know It’s Time to Divorce

How can you know if it’s time to separate, get divorced, or recommit to working on your partnership? How can you know if you need to change or if they do?   Tricky questions, right? But, I can help!   Today’s episode is all about the process of making these decisions. I’m walking you through how I knew it was time to separate from my Ex and how you can decide for yourself. I’m breaking it down into a few simple steps and they’re packed full of practical questions so you can better know what it is you want and how to get it. As 2022 ended and your New Year began, were you taking stock of your relationship? Were you questioning if your partnership was worth committing to still? If so, this episode is for you! Let’s get into it.    I’m diving into:  * Why I suggest you talk to a lawyer and how soon (It doesn’t have to break the bank!) * Questions to ask yourself to evaluate your relationship & your role within it * Abusive relationships: Why separation is key even if hope for change exists  * Why you deserve time apart from your relationship in your life NOW * How to accept your ex-partner’s new life & my take on my Ex getting remarried * Why intimacy is a MUST in your relationship * How to decide what’s worth fighting for in YOUR life * And much more!   Connect with me: Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/ [https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/ [https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/] FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy [https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy] Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com [Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com]