Jollof and Kompa

My Wife Says I'm Not Romantic... After This Conversation, I Get It.

I always thought I was showing love in the right ways. My wife disagreed. In this episode, we unpack why Alexis thinks I'm not romantic, how we define romance completely differently, and why couples can unintentionally miss each other's efforts. From flowers and date nights to food, quality time, and feeling truly seen, this conversation challenged a lot of my assumptions about marriage. Have you and your spouse ever realized you were speaking different love languages without knowing it? Let us know in the comments.

Alexis Wants to Move to Japan for an $800/Night 'Birth House'

In this episode of we’re diving into some big life updates and a concept that completely changed how Alexis views postpartum care: the Japanese "Birth House." 🇯🇵👶 After researching the culture of postpartum support in Japan—where mothers can stay in a dedicated "birth house" for around $800/night to focus entirely on recovery—Alexis is ready to pack her bags! We discuss the importance of mother-centered care, why the U.S. might be missing the mark, and whether we can actually justify the cost (Augustus has some thoughts on that!). We also get into: 💃 Our Salsa Journey: The "cross-body lead" and why it almost caused a fight. 📱 New Morning Habits: Augustus is finally leaving his phone downstairs! 💰 The Money Debate: Are you a "cushion" or a "couch" person when it comes to savings? 🛠️ The Bike Rack Saga: How a simple car upgrade turned into a lesson in community (and why you need the right tools!). Questions for the Community: Would you consider "birth tourism" or a birth house for $800/night? Are you a sleeper who wakes up to check your phone, or can you sleep through the night like Alexis? In your relationship, who is the "saver" and who is the "spender"?

My Nigerian Husband Thinks Crying During Arguments Is “Manipulation”

In this episode, we talk about crying during arguments and why we see it so differently in our marriage. My Nigerian husband believes crying during conflict can feel manipulative because it shifts the focus away from the conversation, while I see tears as a natural expression of vulnerability and emotion. We unpack how culture, upbringing, and communication styles shape the way we handle conflict as a couple — and why emotional expression during arguments can feel so complicated. What do you think? Is crying during arguments manipulative, or is it a healthy expression of emotion?

Do Nigerian Men Find It Hard To Be Vulnerable In Marriage?

This episode turned into a much deeper conversation than we expected. We talked about emotional vulnerability, growing up in different households, why some men struggle to express emotions, and how those experiences show up in marriage. From family dynamics to painful personal moments, this was one of the most honest conversations we’ve had on the podcast.

My American Wife Asked Me To Wash The Toilet

In this episode of Jollof & Kompa, we talk about what “Head of the House” actually means in a modern marriage — and why we don’t completely see it the same way. From chores and leadership to gender roles and expectations, this conversation started small… and turned into something much deeper. We unpack the cultural ideas we grew up with, the roles men and women are expected to play, and how marriage forces you to redefine a lot of those beliefs in real time. Let us know in the comments: What does “Head of the House” mean in your relationship?