The Change Effect - Inspiration and Strategies for Creating Success on Your Own Terms

E151: Anger as Fuel: What Your Frustration Is Telling You

What if your anger isn't a problem to solve? What if it's information? In this episode of The Change Effect, we explore one of the most misunderstood emotions women experience and why so many of us have been conditioned to suppress, soften, or explain away our anger. In this episode you'll learn: * Why anger is often a signal, not a flaw * How women are taught to disconnect from their own frustration * The difference between suppression, explosion, and healthy processing * What recurring anger may be trying to show you * How to turn frustration into clarity and action * Why anger often reveals important values and boundaries When we stop treating anger as something to avoid and start viewing it as information, it becomes easier to understand what matters, where our boundaries have been crossed, and what may need to change. This episode offers a practical way to work with anger rather than against it. Download The Anger Inventory Exercise HERE [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1S5KeW6oCMoG8pmvp31TwmMVp6w22Z4hA2J2p-uvaO38/edit?usp=sharing] Connect with Noelle: https://www.noellevan.com [https://www.noellevan.com/] https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv [https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv] https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond [https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2097487/support]

E150: Caru Jones: SoulFULLness and Defining Ambition on Your Own Terms [Pros Who Pivot Series]

One of the themes that comes up often on The Change Effect is the idea that success is not a fixed destination. The definition of ambition that serves us in one season of life may not fit the next, and sometimes the bravest thing we can do is give ourselves permission to redefine it. In this episode, I sit down with Caru Jones for an honest conversation about burnout, identity, intuition, and the evolving nature of ambition. Caru Jones is an executive coach, leadership expert, and founder of Soulfulness Philosophy. With more than two decades of experience across coaching, HR, leadership, and talent development, she helps accomplished women and leaders create success that feels sustainable, aligned, and deeply fulfilling. Drawing from her own journey from a successful global HR career into entrepreneurship, Caru shares the pivotal moments that led her to realize that external achievement alone wasn't enough.  In this episode, we discuss: ·      The importance of understanding our personal values and using them as a compass for both our professional and personal lives. ·      How fear and excitement can feel remarkably similar and why choosing which voice to listen to matters. ·      The concept of "Ambition Without Self-Abandonment" and what it means to pursue meaningful goals while staying connected to yourself. ·      Why success doesn't have to look the same in every season of life, and how giving ourselves permission to evolve creates space for greater fulfillment. Together, we explore what happens when high-achieving women begin asking deeper questions about fulfillment, sustainability, and what they truly want for their lives.  If you are looking for inspiration at the soul level, this is a must listen! Connect with Caru: https://www.carujones.com/ [https://www.carujones.com/] https://www.linkedin.com/in/carujones/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/carujones/] https://www.instagram.com/carujones/ [https://www.instagram.com/carujones/] Stay Connected with Noelle: Website: www.noellevan.com [http://www.noellevan.com/] Instagram: @noellevanbeyond [https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond] YouTube: @noellevanv [https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv] Linkedin noellev [https://www.linkedin.com/in/noellev/] If you enjoyed this episode of The Change Effect, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may be navigating their own next chapter.   Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2097487/support]

E149: Outgrowing Friendships During Change: How to Know What's Worth Saving

As we evolve, our relationships often evolve with us. In this episode of The Change Effect, we explore what happens when personal growth, career transitions, and major life changes begin to reshape your friendships. Why do some relationships deepen while others become strained? How do you know the difference between temporary friction and a friendship that has run its course? And how do you let go of relationships that no longer fit without creating unnecessary conflict? In this episode you'll learn: * Why change often creates tension in friendships * How your growth can unintentionally trigger others * Signs a friendship is worth investing in * Red flags that a relationship may have reached its natural conclusion * How to create distance without drama * Why loneliness during transition is often part of the process Change often asks more of us than a new plan or a different path. It asks us to examine the relationships surrounding that path as well.  If you've been feeling disconnected, questioning a friendship, or wondering whether you're simply in a season of transition, this episode offers a thoughtful framework for understanding what's changing and why. Download the Friendship Audit Exercise Here [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1d5GvCoPPH-JG6z3WHtI5CxIlnFiRCEDJn2Pv0M0sg34/edit?usp=sharing] Connect with Noelle: https://www.noellevan.com [https://www.noellevan.com/] https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv [https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv] https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond [https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2097487/support]

E148: Stop Waiting for Permission: Learning to Trust Your Own Decisions

Have you ever delayed a decision, opportunity, or next step because you were waiting to feel more ready? You may not be waiting for the right moment. You may be waiting for permission. In this episode, we explore the hidden pattern many successful women carry throughout their careers—the habit of waiting to be chosen, promoted, invited, approved, or validated before making a move. In this episode you'll learn: * Why the permission pattern develops * How high achievers unknowingly outsource their confidence * The difference between seeking input and seeking approval * Signs you're waiting for validation instead of acting * Practical ways to strengthen self-trust * How to stop giving away your authority Many women spend years gathering credentials, experience, and evidence before allowing themselves to move forward. At some point, the next step requires something different: trusting your own judgment.  If you've been sitting on an idea, delaying a decision, or waiting for certainty to arrive, this conversation may help you recognize what you're truly waiting for. Download The Permission Puzzle Exercise Here [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1axRFC52_jsMBcin_V9CkivtRo1lTQGqpZVIoo7Q-MzE/edit?usp=sharing] Connect with Noelle: https://www.noellevan.com [https://www.noellevan.com/] https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv [https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv] https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond [https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2097487/support]

E147: Encore Episode | Sarah (Brown) Brooks: Failing Forward and Turning Setbacks into Transformations

This week's encore episode is a listener favorite for so many reasons. Sarah (Brown) Brooks shares with us how the highs and lows in life can help shape who we are and how having the grace to accept what comes our way, can't help but usher in more of the good stuff.  Change can upend us in ways we never expect, yet so often, our toughest seasons become the fertile ground for our greatest growth.  Sarah (Brown) Brooks life path has been marked by profound transformation through sobriety, the loss of an 18-year marriage, surviving breast cancer and finding love again through manifestation and the unwavering belief in a new chapter.  Drawing from her work as an executive coach, her journey along the Camino de Santiago, and her guiding philosophy of amor fati—to love one’s fate—Sarah has emerged not just as a survivor, but as a voice of compassion, wisdom, and hope for others traveling through their own storms. Get 20% off your Day by Daybook®  with the discount code NEW20 here. [https://livedaybyday.com/products/classic-day-by-daybook?variant=21259891376187&selling_plan=673808418]  In this episode, Sarah and I discuss: * Sarah’s journey of sobriety, the end of her marriage, surviving breast cancer and finding new love.  * Walking the Camino de Santiago as a spiritual pilgrimage that mirrored her own healing. * The role of intuition and how listening to her body, even amidst doubt and trauma, shaped every pivotal decision. * Navigating “the gifts inside suffering,” and how adversity became her soil for new beginnings in love, purpose, and work. * The power of vision boards, synchronicity, and trusting in the unknown when dreaming a new life into reality. Whether you’re walking through a difficult chapter, seeking to reframe your pain, or searching for wisdom in your own process of becoming, Sarah’s story is a testament to resilience, radical acceptance, and the healing that comes with embracing our story—no matter how it unfolds. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you. Connect with Sarah: Website | Sarah Brown Coaching [https://www.sarahbrowncoaching.com/] Failing Forward Podcast  [https://www.sarahbrowncoaching.com/failing-forward-podcast] Connect with Noelle: https://www.noellevan.com [https://www.noellevan.com/] https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv [https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv] https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond [https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2097487/support]