Ladies Get Paid

Betting on Yourself, the Universe, and Learning to Let Go

What does it actually mean to bet on yourself? In this episode I share what I've learned about showing up fully for what you want, why trying to control outcomes can backfire, and the difference between directing the universe and dancing with it — including what happened when life humbled me completely and what it taught me about success, surrender, and starting over. If you're in the middle of a big bet on yourself right now, this one's for you. Read the accompanying post:https://open.substack.com/pub/ladiesgetpaid/p/why-you-should-bet-on-yourself-even?r=1b87me&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

She Left Corporate and Then Her Husband Got Cancer

Liza Wyles built a successful career in entertainment — then got laid off, retrained as an intimacy coordinator, and watched her husband be diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. In this first-person episode, she gets honest about undercharging, guilt, scarcity, and what it finally took to stop building other people's empires. Part of an occasional series amplifying real women's stories. 📩 Read Liza's full essay on Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/ladiesgetpaid/p/she-left-corporate-and-then-her-husband?r=1b87me&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true 🎙️ Share your own story (anonymously if you want): https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScuAW24y_g-pqXCw6xVUD-pVa0smP6NHKw0_t-HKCX9Ua01gw/viewform?usp=dialog

How to Get Out of a Perfectionist Spiral

Ever finish something and immediately spiral into everything that went wrong? In this episode I share a recent spiral of my own and the exact process I used to move from self-criticism to clarity — including a nervous system reset you can use in the moment, how to work with your inner critic instead of against it, and the reframe that changed how I think about success entirely. If perfectionism or self-criticism is something you wrestle with, this one's for you. For key insights and journaling prompts, check out the accompanying Substack post: https://open.substack.com/pub/ladiesgetpaid/p/when-your-inner-critic-takes-over?r=1b87me&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

Your 401(k) Is Funding War. Here's What You Can Do About It | Former Finance Insider

Most people have no idea what their 401(k) is actually invested in. Amanda Holden spent years working in finance, and she's here to tell you: if you're invested in an S&P 500 index fund, you own pieces of weapons manufacturers, oil companies, and AI surveillance tech. This isn't a conspiracy theory. It's how the retirement system works. Amanda tripled her salary at 24 working as an investment counselor for wealthy clients. She walked away four years later because she couldn't stomach helping rich men get richer. Now she teaches regular people how to invest—and she's brutally honest about the cognitive dissonance of building wealth in systems that fund war, climate disaster, and surveillance. We talk about: * What's actually in your 401(k) and S&P 500 index funds * Why you can't fully opt out of capitalism (even if you want to) * How to use index funds that screen out weapons and fossil fuels * What a Roth IRA actually is (most people get this wrong) * The real percentage you need to save for retirement * Why she charges $15 for workshops instead of $5,000 * What it costs to run a business aligned with your values * Why your labor is also an investment in the system Amanda doesn't have a perfect solution—because there isn't one. But she offers something better: honesty about what we're all participating in, and practical steps for navigating it without pretending it's clean. Head to my Substack for the complete breakdown of this conversation—including all the key insights and tactical action steps you can take today. Whether you're opening your first investment account or rethinking what "enough" means, I've got you covered. Amanda Holden is the author of HOW TO BE A RICH OLD LADY (https://www.amanda-holden.com/book) and founder of Invested Development, where she's taught 25,000 students how to invest. Follow her @dumpster.doggy.

The Real Reason Women Struggle to Know What They Want

Many women who come to me for coaching say they don't know what they want. But in my experience, that's almost never true. They DO know. They just don't trust it. In this episode I break down why desire is so complicated for women specifically, how to tell if a desire is actually yours, and three practices you can start using today to hear yourself more clearly. Because the more you do this work, the more you find yourself exactly where you're supposed to be. For a full breakdown of insights + exercises, check out the accompanying Substack post: https://open.substack.com/pub/ladiesgetpaid/p/what-do-you-actually-want-c4e?r=1b87me&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true