Nuggets Of Nikki

Ep. 12: Okay, so you're uncomfortable opening up to others...is it because you were taught that being vulnerable was a weakness?

You can ask and pray all you want for your ideal relationship, your perfect partner, the kind of family you'll raise, the shared goals you'll accomplish in your relationship. But if you're not open to putting in the effort to recognize, invest in, and sustain a committed relationship, then it ends before it begins. The pursuit of your desired relationship begins with intention. What does your heart want? ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Ep. 11: [Coaching Call] Okay, so you have avoidant tendencies… how can you be more present during relationship conflict?

Avoidants tend to get a bad rap—they’re perceived as emotionally available or averse to closeness and intimacy. The truth is, they crave connection too, but it’s a delicate dance they need to work on to accommodate a relationship. In this coaching call, Shin is an avoidant who’s trying to learn tools and conversation starters to help him communicate his needs to his partner in a kind and loving manner. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Ep. 10: Okay, so you haven't moved on from a breakup...were they really that great or did you put them on a pedestal?

It's absolutely valid to grieve the end of a relationship...or situationship: the loss of a potentially shared future, the plans you hoped to happen, the milestones you hoped to celebrate with them. You can ruminate about all the what ifs and what could have beens...OR you could think about how to push through with future plans and milestones you desire for yourself. When you're ready, confidence coach Myrza Sison can help you rediscover your power and remind you that your value doesn't diminish when someone decides to walk out the door. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Ep. 9: Okay, so being in a relationship triggers you...is it your partner who makes you feel unsafe, or do you just have an insecure attachment?

Fun fact, it's actually not always a bad thing when your partner triggers you—if anything, they mirror parts of you that you still need to heal from. Conversations on attachment styles have gained popularity over the years, revealing the inner world of secure, avoidant, and anxious attachers. While it's valuable insight, it's important to remember that this is merely one aspect of an individual, of you—and yes, even your exes. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Ep. 8: Okay, so you don't want to be “difficult” to your partner… Does having needs make you feel “too much”?

If you were criticized for showing big emotions during your childhood, you might have grown up into someone who distracted themselves from feeling fear, anxiety, anger, even sadness, so you wouldn’t seem “too much” or “difficult” as a partner. Neglecting your needs means abandoning yourself, and abandoning yourself leads to unhappy relationships. Listen to this coaching call with Achilles, who’s working on becoming more vulnerable so she can have the relationship she wants. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.