Rewired & Desired Podcast: Where Intimacy, Mindset and Disability Intersect

Is an Ostomy an Invisible Disability?

What if the hardest part of disability is that nobody can see it? In this episode, we talk honestly about ostomy life, invisible disability, chronic illness, medical trauma, and the exhausting pressure to prove you are really struggling. Today on Rewired and Desired, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards discuss whether having an ostomy can be considered a disability, why the answer is not the same for everyone, and how underlying illness, fatigue, dehydration, pain, leaks, food restrictions, bathroom access, and medical dismissal can deeply affect daily life. We also talk about the emotional side of invisible illness: being told “but you look fine,” being judged for using disability accommodations, being dismissed by doctors, feeling like a burden in relationships, and trying to live your life while managing symptoms other people may never see. This conversation is honest, personal, and a little raw because invisible disability is not always about what the world can see. Sometimes it is about everything you are quietly managing just to get through the day. 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbXFJZE41ZkdrTWl2TEI3ZElXN0tVMlJ6T1FzQXxBQ3Jtc0trZTZ2VUNRWEFSZ05vSXV2XzZNQ19xRDAtWGFuYU85NWlsUDhxY3NOQnhKanpaSWcxd2hzckg1eEpKLTBkbUJwYmlKSzg1ZnV4MzdPOVVhLXZpaWpzUUxxTldXT0lnSlg1U1YxVmFoV1BBVHlnOXhydw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fintimateostomate&v=xZFnQwGQ5eg] Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTbk5Rh7YxySmV6G4fd6l6A] Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbjNSWDNPN0lXMUpvaUg0R0Y2bXVxRWYzYXoxQXxBQ3Jtc0tuS2trQ0dSMmNPVS1PX3JkZEJ4ekF5aVFHQjB0dzFKZldJR3pKZ2FibThvUFNiczV4OXA2dUZlMVNvMGM4WTJld2tkZV91czhVbVBVNVJfS21QUnJiNTBiakxJVllYaE1rRk8tR1NBczhLS0FDelBmdw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fostomyinnovations%2F&v=xZFnQwGQ5eg] Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1tE419n85ZG37bfXfElzHQ] Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

The Impact of Porn on Intimacy After Surgery

Porn. Fantasy. Desire. Addiction. Emotional intimacy. This episode goes way deeper than “porn bad” takes. In this honest conversation, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards unpack how porn culture may be shaping real-life intimacy, relationships, attraction, confidence, and expectations around sex, especially for people navigating disability, ostomies, surgery, body image, and emotional vulnerability. From erectile dysfunction and emotional disconnection to unrealistic expectations and online entitlement culture, this episode explores the growing gap between performance-based sexuality and genuine human connection. Trina also shares her unique perspective from years in the adult entertainment industry, while both hosts discuss: ●      porn and reward centers in the brain ●      intimacy versus performance ●      emotional connection during sex ●      desensitization and compulsive scrolling ●      “nofap” communities ●      consent and entitlement culture ●      fetishization within disability and ostomy communities ●      why awkwardness in real intimacy is normal ●      the difference between fantasy and connection This is not a shame-based conversation. It’s a nuanced discussion about awareness, moderation, consent, emotional safety, and what healthy intimacy actually looks like in the real world. 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbXFJZE41ZkdrTWl2TEI3ZElXN0tVMlJ6T1FzQXxBQ3Jtc0trZTZ2VUNRWEFSZ05vSXV2XzZNQ19xRDAtWGFuYU85NWlsUDhxY3NOQnhKanpaSWcxd2hzckg1eEpKLTBkbUJwYmlKSzg1ZnV4MzdPOVVhLXZpaWpzUUxxTldXT0lnSlg1U1YxVmFoV1BBVHlnOXhydw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fintimateostomate&v=xZFnQwGQ5eg] Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTbk5Rh7YxySmV6G4fd6l6A] Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbjNSWDNPN0lXMUpvaUg0R0Y2bXVxRWYzYXoxQXxBQ3Jtc0tuS2trQ0dSMmNPVS1PX3JkZEJ4ekF5aVFHQjB0dzFKZldJR3pKZ2FibThvUFNiczV4OXA2dUZlMVNvMGM4WTJld2tkZV91czhVbVBVNVJfS21QUnJiNTBiakxJVllYaE1rRk8tR1NBczhLS0FDelBmdw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fostomyinnovations%2F&v=xZFnQwGQ5eg] Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1tE419n85ZG37bfXfElzHQ] Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

Dating After Trauma, Disability & Time Away

She hasn’t dated in years… and now everything feels intense. Connection, nerves, trauma, attraction… and the fear of messing it up. In this episode of Rewired and Desired, we unpack what it really looks like to step back into dating after time away, past trauma, and living with an ostomy. This isn’t surface-level advice. This is real conversation about: ●      Feeling attraction again after years ●      Navigating fear of rejection or being “too much” ●      Dating with an ostomy and being fully seen ●      Green flags vs. emotional blind spots ●      Timing, intimacy, and not rushing what matters You’ll hear a live coaching-style conversation as Nicole shares her current dating experience… and the deeper mindset shifts that matter more than any “rules.” If you’ve ever thought:  “I don’t want to mess this up…”  This episode is for you. 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbXFJZE41ZkdrTWl2TEI3ZElXN0tVMlJ6T1FzQXxBQ3Jtc0trZTZ2VUNRWEFSZ05vSXV2XzZNQ19xRDAtWGFuYU85NWlsUDhxY3NOQnhKanpaSWcxd2hzckg1eEpKLTBkbUJwYmlKSzg1ZnV4MzdPOVVhLXZpaWpzUUxxTldXT0lnSlg1U1YxVmFoV1BBVHlnOXhydw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fintimateostomate&v=xZFnQwGQ5eg] Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTbk5Rh7YxySmV6G4fd6l6A] Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbjNSWDNPN0lXMUpvaUg0R0Y2bXVxRWYzYXoxQXxBQ3Jtc0tuS2trQ0dSMmNPVS1PX3JkZEJ4ekF5aVFHQjB0dzFKZldJR3pKZ2FibThvUFNiczV4OXA2dUZlMVNvMGM4WTJld2tkZV91czhVbVBVNVJfS21QUnJiNTBiakxJVllYaE1rRk8tR1NBczhLS0FDelBmdw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fostomyinnovations%2F&v=xZFnQwGQ5eg] Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1tE419n85ZG37bfXfElzHQ] Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

How to Rewire Fear Before Ostomy Surgery (Proven Method)

What if you could remove fear before it ever takes over your life? In this episode of Rewired and Desired, we dive into the real-world power of visualization—not as a vague “positive thinking” tool, but as a structured, repeatable process that can shift your mindset fast. Trina shares her personal experience preparing for ostomy surgery, facing overwhelming fear around intimacy, body image, and identity… and how a simple daily visualization practice changed everything in less than a week. This conversation explores: ●      How visualization actually works (without the fluff) ●      Why most people fail to get results from it ●      How to use it to prepare for surgery, life changes, or fear-based situations ●      The role of repetition, emotion, and clarity ●      How to rebuild confidence—even when your body changes If you're navigating fear around intimacy, health, disability, or identity… this episode gives you a tool you can actually use. 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbXFJZE41ZkdrTWl2TEI3ZElXN0tVMlJ6T1FzQXxBQ3Jtc0trZTZ2VUNRWEFSZ05vSXV2XzZNQ19xRDAtWGFuYU85NWlsUDhxY3NOQnhKanpaSWcxd2hzckg1eEpKLTBkbUJwYmlKSzg1ZnV4MzdPOVVhLXZpaWpzUUxxTldXT0lnSlg1U1YxVmFoV1BBVHlnOXhydw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fintimateostomate&v=xZFnQwGQ5eg] Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTbk5Rh7YxySmV6G4fd6l6A] Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbjNSWDNPN0lXMUpvaUg0R0Y2bXVxRWYzYXoxQXxBQ3Jtc0tuS2trQ0dSMmNPVS1PX3JkZEJ4ekF5aVFHQjB0dzFKZldJR3pKZ2FibThvUFNiczV4OXA2dUZlMVNvMGM4WTJld2tkZV91czhVbVBVNVJfS21QUnJiNTBiakxJVllYaE1rRk8tR1NBczhLS0FDelBmdw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fostomyinnovations%2F&v=xZFnQwGQ5eg] Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1tE419n85ZG37bfXfElzHQ] Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

Why Hard Lives Create Deeper Love

Why Hard Lives Create Deeper Love  What if the hardest moments of your life didn’t break you… but rewired how you love? In this episode of Rewired and Desired, we go beyond surface-level advice and talk about the real, lived lessons that come from illness, caregiving, heartbreak, and rebuilding your life from nothing. From losing everything… to redefining what actually matters… to learning how to love again without losing yourself. This isn’t theory. This is what happens after life humbles you. 🧠 In This Episode: ●      Why “nothing matters except the people you love” becomes real after loss ●      How illness reshapes your standards in relationships ●      The difference between needing love vs. being ready for it ●      Why attraction is about energy, not entitlement ●      The hidden danger of negative partners (and how to spot it fast) ●      How to maintain desire and intimacy in long-term relationships ●      Why being happy alone is the foundation of healthy love 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbXFJZE41ZkdrTWl2TEI3ZElXN0tVMlJ6T1FzQXxBQ3Jtc0trZTZ2VUNRWEFSZ05vSXV2XzZNQ19xRDAtWGFuYU85NWlsUDhxY3NOQnhKanpaSWcxd2hzckg1eEpKLTBkbUJwYmlKSzg1ZnV4MzdPOVVhLXZpaWpzUUxxTldXT0lnSlg1U1YxVmFoV1BBVHlnOXhydw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fintimateostomate&v=xZFnQwGQ5eg] Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTbk5Rh7YxySmV6G4fd6l6A] Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbjNSWDNPN0lXMUpvaUg0R0Y2bXVxRWYzYXoxQXxBQ3Jtc0tuS2trQ0dSMmNPVS1PX3JkZEJ4ekF5aVFHQjB0dzFKZldJR3pKZ2FibThvUFNiczV4OXA2dUZlMVNvMGM4WTJld2tkZV91czhVbVBVNVJfS21QUnJiNTBiakxJVllYaE1rRk8tR1NBczhLS0FDelBmdw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fostomyinnovations%2F&v=xZFnQwGQ5eg] Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1tE419n85ZG37bfXfElzHQ] Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing