#34 Embodied Boundaries — The Discomfort of Doing Something New (And Why That's Actually Okay)
Have you ever set a boundary — or tried to — and immediately felt like you were doing something wrong? You are not alone. And here's what most people don't tell you: that discomfort is not a sign you're doing it wrong. It's a sign you're doing something new.
In this episode, we're digging into what boundaries actually are at a body level — not just as a concept to understand, but as something you can feel.
We also talk about the difference between what is yours to carry and what belongs to someone else — and why putting down what isn't yours is one of the most loving things you can do for your own healing.
Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing
If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.
Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:
Join me at a Retreat or Intensive
If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.
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If you and your partner are ready to move beyond survival mode and reconnect on a deeper level, the Rise and Renew Couples Retreat [https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/rise-and-renew-couples-retreat/] offers an immersive healing experience in Costa Rica designed to help couples restore connection, regulate their nervous systems, and create a more grounded, intentional relationship. Through breathwork, experiential healing practices, and guided support, couples are invited into a space of renewal, intimacy, and transformation.
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The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive [https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courage-to-thrive-betrayal-trauma-intensive/] takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.
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Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.
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Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal
If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.
This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system.
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Listen to My Other Podcast
If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust.
👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal [https://open.spotify.com/show/5zV0oep3zEx178Vrcn0xQM]
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