Sex Worth Having

How Mindfulness Makes Sex Better

What does a raisin have to do with better sex? More than you might think. In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare Sente [https://www.linkedin.com/in/claresente/] explores how mindfulness can deepen pleasure, connection, and desire in long-term relationships. Most of us spend much of our lives on autopilot, moving through our days without fully noticing what's right in front of us. The same thing can happen in our relationships. We stop seeing our partner with fresh eyes and begin relating to them from memory rather than curiosity. Using the classic raisin mindfulness exercise, Clare shows how slowing down and paying attention can transform everyday experiences, including intimacy. You'll learn: * Why pleasure can only happen in the present moment * How familiarity causes us to stop noticing our partner * Why attention is one of the most attractive gifts you can offer * How mindfulness helps keep erotic energy alive * Why mindfulness may be the opposite of taking your partner for granted * A simple experiment to help you reconnect with curiosity, desire, and pleasure If you've ever felt like your relationship has become routine, this episode offers a practical way to bring more presence, connection, and aliveness back into your partnership. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE * The Raisin Mindfulness Exercise * Episode 13: The Need to Feel Wanted Sex Worth Having Website [https://www.sexworthhaving.com/] Book a Free 30-Minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare [https://calendly.com/clare-sente/30min]

Curious About Kink? with Faith Laux

Many people hear the word kink and immediately think of something extreme. But what if kink has less to do with whips, chains, or dungeons and more to do with communication, trust, curiosity, and connection? In this episode, intimacy coach Faith Laux joins Clare to explore what kink really is and why so many people are curious about it. They discuss how healthy kink relies on clear communication, strong boundaries, consent, and self-awareness, and how these skills can strengthen any relationship, whether you're interested in kink or not. You'll learn why novelty matters in long-term relationships, how to talk with a partner about fantasies or desires, why self-acceptance is the first step toward vulnerability, and how expressing both your yes and your no can build deeper trust. If you're looking for ways to bring more honesty, playfulness, and connection into your relationship, this conversation offers practical insights that extend far beyond the bedroom. In this episode you'll discover: • Why kink is often misunderstood • How novelty and curiosity help keep desire alive • A simple approach to discussing fantasies with a partner • Why boundaries create safety, trust, and intimacy • What every couple can learn from the communication skills practiced in healthy kink communities Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! RESOURCES & LINKS KINK CURIOUS WEBSITE: https://www.faithlaux.com/kinkcurious1 [https://www.faithlaux.com/kinkcurious1] Kink Curious Waitlist: https://links.ivorey.io/widget/form/coYxJvfvPEIcFH6mEHE6 [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/form/coYxJvfvPEIcFH6mEHE6] 10% off Code for Kink Curious (if you miss the early bird deadline): Sex Worth Having Sex Worth Having Website [https://www.sexworthhaving.com/] Book a Free 30-Minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare [https://calendly.com/clare-sente/30min]

The Need To Feel Wanted

When was the last time your partner felt unmistakably wanted by you? And when was the last time you felt wanted by them? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores one of the deepest human longings in long-term relationships: the need to feel desired. Many couples still love each other deeply, but somewhere along the way, they stop expressing desire. The relationship becomes focused on schedules, responsibilities, and daily logistics while the erotic connection slowly fades into the background. You'll learn: * Why love and desire are not the same thing * How couples unintentionally drift from lovers to roommates * Why "evidence of desire" matters more than most people realize * How resentment can quietly block attraction and connection * A simple question that can help you understand what makes your partner feel wanted If you want more intimacy, passion, and connection in your relationship, this episode will help you understand why feeling wanted remains essential at every stage of love. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! RESOURCES & LINKS https://youtu.be/-qgpewMCVjs?si=RerjC8DCX8xlnmdE [https://youtu.be/-qgpewMCVjs?si=RerjC8DCX8xlnmdE] - Cheap Trick performing I Want You to Want Me https://cheftova.substack.com/ [https://cheftova.substack.com/] - article by Tova on Substack demonstrating the difference between feeling cared for vs wanted Sex Worth Having Website [https://www.sexworthhaving.com/] Book a Free 30-Minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare [https://calendly.com/clare-sente/30min]

Early Ejaculation: Why Slowing Down Changes Everything

What if early ejaculation isn’t really about lack of control… but a nervous system that has learned to rush, brace, and panic during intimacy?   In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores the hidden anxiety, shame, and nervous system patterns behind early ejaculation—and why so many successful men silently struggle with it. Instead of focusing on numbing creams, distraction tricks, or performance hacks, this conversation takes a different approach: slowing down, becoming more present, and learning how to regulate arousal through awareness and full-body connection.   You’ll learn: * why anxiety and hypervigilance often make early ejaculation worse * how the body becomes conditioned for speed instead of regulation * why mindfulness and presence-based approaches are gaining research support * how slowing down changes both arousal and connection * what it means to expand pleasure beyond just the genitals * and why many men regain control by becoming more connected to their bodies—not less   This episode is about much more than “lasting longer.”   It’s about helping men stop dreading intimacy and start feeling calm, connected, and confident during sex again. Download the Free 10-Minute Guided Pre-Intimacy Meditation: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033 [https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033] Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

Menopause, Hormones, and Intimacy: What Men Need to Understand

What happens to intimacy when hormones, sleep, stress, and a woman’s nervous system all begin to change during peri-menopause and menopause? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores one of the most misunderstood topics in long-term relationships: how hormonal changes in midlife affect desire, arousal, orgasm, emotional connection, and a woman’s ability to relax into intimacy. You’ll learn: * the difference between perimenopause and menopause * why stress and cortisol directly affect desire * how changing estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone levels impact the body * why responsive desire becomes even more important during midlife * how menopause affects sleep, anxiety, vaginal tissue, orgasm, and nervous system regulation * why many women feel dismissed by the medical system * and how couples can adapt their intimacy instead of turning against each other This episode is not about blaming or “fixing” your partner. It’s about understanding what may really be happening in her body… so you can approach this chapter with more compassion, teamwork, and connection. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! Here are the treatments by MD's who specialize in Menopause; * Listed Resource and Links: Dr. Lauren Streicher: https://substack.com/@DrStreicher [https://substack.com/@DrStreicher] * Dr. Kelly Casperson: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329] * Dr. Mary Claire Haver: https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/ [https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/] * Dr. Rachel Rubin: https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/ [https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/] * Dr. Amy Killen: https://dramybkillen.substack.com/ [https://dramybkillen.substack.com/] * Dr. Sarah Szal: https://saraszalmd.substack.com/ [https://saraszalmd.substack.com/] * The Menopause Society: https://menopause.org/ [https://menopause.org/] * Book a Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033 [https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033]