Suburban Black Girl Podcast

You Can Be Confident and Still Have Low Self-Worth | Why We Accept Less Than We Deserve

In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are breaking down something that a lot of high achieving women have felt but could never fully name. You can be the most confident, accomplished, successful woman in the room and still not believe you deserve the things you have built. That is the difference between self-esteem and self-worth. And in this episode they get deeply personal about where that gap comes from and what closing it actually looks like. We got into: • The real difference between self-esteem and self-worth and why you can have one without the other • Why high achieving women often have the highest self-esteem and the lowest self-worth at the same time • How achieving becomes the substitute for worth and what happens when the wins stop coming • Blake asking herself what a less qualified white man would ask for in a salary negotiation and doing it anyway • How toxic relationships and corporate environments both slowly rewrite how you see yourself • Ashlyn opening up about a toxic relationship that took years to recover from and the stool that got moved • Why your blessings are sometimes blocked by the dead weight you haven't let go of yet • The mantra Blake gave herself in January that reframed everything Mantra Moment: I am worthy not because of what I do but because of who I am. The work is closing that gap. If this resonated drop a comment and let us know if you have ever realized you were confident on the outside but still accepting less than you deserved. 📩 Email us: SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com [SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com] 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!

The Dating Insecurities You Have When You Grew Up Invisible | Black Girl Dating Experience

In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are getting into something deeply personal and rarely talked about. The dating insecurities that come from growing up invisible. They talk about what happens when you grow up as a Black girl in predominantly white spaces, how not feeling chosen early on shapes your confidence, your standards, and your entire approach to love and dating as an adult. We got into: • How growing up without early romantic attention creates patterns you carry into adult dating • Why Blake and Ashlyn both overperformed to earn love instead of knowing they were worthy just for existing • Why dating is not encouraged for Black girls the way it is for their white counterparts and how that gap shows up later • The painful experience of having parents who called you beautiful but a world outside that invalidated it • Being dared to be asked out as a joke and not even knowing it at the time • Why comparison is the biggest thief and how to protect your timeline when everyone around you seems ahead • What Blake and Ashlyn would tell their younger selves and the message they want every invisible girl to hear Mantra Moment: Growing up invisible doesn't mean you were unworthy. It means the environment didn't reflect your value back to you. If this episode resonated drop a comment and tell us one thing you wish someone had told you when you were growing up and feeling unseen. 📩 Email us: SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com [SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com] 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!

Dating the Potential Rich Man | When Believing in Someone Becomes Emotional Labor

In this episode we are getting into something that a lot of women have experienced but not always been able to name. Dating the potential rich man. What happens when you believe in someone so much that you start abandoning your own timeline to help them stay on track with theirs? When does patience become emotional labor? And at what point do you have to look yourself in the eye and say this potential is not actualizing? We got into: • Why women stay too long in relationships with potential and how it becomes self abandonment without you even realizing it • The difference between supporting someone and actually carrying them • When consistency is the real measure of progress and what stalled ambition actually looks like • Why society praises women for staying through cheating and hardship but shames them for walking away • The moment you realize you thought you were showing grace but you were abandoning your own needs • Why the keep a man conversation is never directed at men and what that man is doing to keep you • What a healthy dynamic actually looks like when both people are contributing and building together Mantra Moment: Potential is not a promise. Consistency is. Real partnership is built on patterns and not projections. If this resonated drop a comment and let us know if you have ever realized you were investing in someone's future more than they were investing in their own present. 📩 Email us: SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com [SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com] 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!

Confidence, Self Obsession, and Breaking Out of Survival Mode Feat. Erica Ware The Confidence Coach

In this episode we sat down with Erica, The Confidence Coach (@theconfidencecoach), for a conversation that had us taking notes from start to finish. Erica is a mindset coach dedicated to helping women build self worth, set boundaries, and show up as their most confident selves. And she did not hold back. We got into: • The difference between being loved and being needed and why real love feels like exhale energy • Why calling yourself low maintenance is actually inviting low effort love • How to stop giving up your autonomy just because you like somebody • Why Black women feel so guilty for choosing themselves and where that guilt actually comes from • What survival mode actually looks like and how to recognize it in your own life • What healthy self obsession really means and why it doesn't have to be healthy • How to build and protect your routine in a relationship so you don't lose yourself • The difference between guilt and discomfort when you say no • Why confidence is curated daily and not something you wake up with Mantra Moment: Do it uncertain. Do it scared. Do it imperfect. There is no such thing as the right time. The right time is right now. — Erica (@theconfidencecoach) If this episode resonated drop a comment and let us know which part of Erica's message hit home for you. 📩 Email us: SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com [SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com] 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!

Why We'll Spend $500 on Beauty But Feel Guilty About Everything Else

In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are getting into something every woman can relate to but Black women feel on a whole other level. Why do we spend $500 on beauty without blinking but feel guilty spending money on anything else? From hair as mental health to corporate America's beauty expectations, to the moment you realize marketing has been manipulating you the whole time, this one hits. We got into: • Why beauty spending feels like a necessity and not a luxury for Black women • How our hair and appearance directly affect our mental health and confidence • Navigating corporate spaces as a Black woman and why keeping your hair done is armor • The coworker who asks if everything is okay the moment your hair isn't laid • The unsolicited natural hair compliments and why we are over the small talk • Whether beauty spending is about results or peace of mind • How working in beauty and marketing changes the way you shop forever • At what point beauty maintenance shifts from enjoyment to full obligation • The tension between not wanting to dress up for a man and realizing you have to be what you want to attract If this episode resonated, drop a comment and let us know what beauty expense you refuse to feel guilty about. 📩 Email us: SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com [SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com] 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!