Summer of Me

I'm Choosing Discipline This Year (Here's Why)

In this episode of Summer of Me, Kendra shares her vulnerable word of the year – discipline. After observing that many successful people rely on organization and routine, she is practicing doing small "annoying" tasks immediately to close loops and reduce mental stress. She also commits to daily check-ins on finances, goals, calendars, deadlines, and energy/money leaks, arguing that "how you do one thing is how you do everything." What's your word of the year? Leave it in the comments. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Introduction, Word of the Year 02:08 Why Discipline Matters 05:17 Morning Routine Reset 07:06 Annoying Tasks Win 09:45 Comfort Addiction 10:59 Motivation vs Habits 13:05 Identity-Based Discipline 16:04 Clean Mom Breakfast 18:44 Daily Discipline Checklist 22:04 How You Do Everything 23:37 Final Challenge 24:16 Outro and Where to Listen LINKS: Follow Kendra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendrafornow/ Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SummerofMe Produced by SocialPodcast.co

The Real Reason Breakups Hurt So Much

In this powerful episode of "The Summer of Me," we explore the intricate process of how to get over a breakup . It's often not the person we miss, but the identity and personal growth, and opportunities we experienced within that relationship. Drawing on her personal experiences after divorce, she explains how fantasy, hope, and a focus on potential can keep someone attached to unhealthy dynamics. This discussion offers essential breakup advice, guiding you through the grieving process towards significant personal growth and self development. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Introduction 00:29 My Post-Divorce Relationship 01:22 Dating Potential 02:54 Hope as a Drug 05:13 Why Breakups Hurt 07:12 Identity After a Breakup 08:00 The Breakup Reframe 09:32 How to 'Metabolize the Grief' (Step-by-Step) 10:53 Rebuild Self-Expansion 12:26 Takeaways + Homework 14:18 Closing: You Were Always the Magic LINKS: Follow Kendra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendrafornow/ Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SummerofMe Produced by SocialPodcast.co

The Cost of Being Easy to Love

In this episode, Kendra opens up about her personal journey with being "easy to love" and how this mindset impacted her relationships. She discusses the importance of self-improvement and personal growth, encouraging listeners to prioritize their own self-worth. Kendra's insights aim to foster a deeper understanding of self-love and self-esteem, moving beyond external validation. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Introduction: The Struggle of Being Easy to Love 00:48 The Cost of Being Easy to Love 01:01 Personal Experiences and Marriage 01:52 Childhood Conditioning and Identity 03:53 The Turning Point: Choosing Myself 09:23 The Trap of Self-Silencing 12:13 The Price of Likability Over Respect 13:41 Confusing Peace with Connection 16:58 Self-Reflection and Overcoming the Fear of Needs 18:49 Conclusion: Seeking Connection Over Convenience LINKS: Follow Kendra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendrafornow/ Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SummerofMe Produced by SocialPodcast.co

Finding Companionship in Unexpected Places

This week, Kendra is talking about companionship, reflecting on her personal journey from loneliness to finding solace and connection beyond romantic partners. She emphasizes the importance of emotional connection and the significance of fostering deep relationships with friends and family. Kendra talks about overcoming fears of loneliness, the necessity of facing it head-on, and the growth that comes from embracing solitude. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Introduction to Companionship 00:15 The Struggle with Loneliness 01:22 Finding Solace in Being Alone 02:38 Beyond Romantic Relationships 04:48 The Importance of Community 06:36 Redefining Companionship 10:22 Practical Tips for Overcoming Loneliness 13:45 Final Thoughts and Takeaways LINKS: Follow Kendra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendrafornow/ [https://www.instagram.com/kendrafornow/] Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SummerofMe [https://www.youtube.com/@SummerofMe] Produced by SocialPodcast.co [http://socialpodcast.co]

Micro-Abandonments: What They Are and How to Overcome Them

Today, Kendra is exploring the concept of microabandoning: the small, repeated decision to overlook your own needs. She explains how this can lead to full self-abandonment, causing significant emotional and physical stress. Kendra gives strategies for combating micro-abandonments, and encourages listeners to choose themselves by making small, intentional decisions to prioritize their own needs and well-being, aiming for a more fulfilling and balanced life. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Welcome to the Summer of Me 00:25 Introducing the Substack Community 01:08 Understanding Micro Abandonment 04:54 Defining Micro Abandonment 05:42 Self-Silencing Behaviors 09:45 Minimizing Your Feelings 12:07 Shrinking to Keep Others Comfortable 13:31 Embracing Uniqueness and Rejecting Conformity 14:34 The Trap of Over-Functioning 16:00 Listening to Your Body's Signals 17:35 Unmet Needs and Emotional Starvation 19:39 Psychological Drivers of Self-Abandonment 21:24 Micro Choosing Yourself: Steps to Self-Rediscovery 26:33 Conclusion and Final Thoughts LINKS: Follow Kendra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendrafornow/ [https://www.instagram.com/kendrafornow/] Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SummerofMe [https://www.youtube.com/@SummerofMe] Produced by SocialPodcast.co