The Survivors Playbook

Ep. 39: Letting go without giving up

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2517876/fan_mail/new] What happens when you’ve done everything you can to protect your children—and they’re still being manipulated, alienated, or turned against you? Many protective parents believe that letting go means giving up. It doesn’t. In this episode, Chantal explores one of the most difficult yet liberating mindset shifts you’ll ever make: learning to release what you cannot control without ever abandoning hope for your children. You’ll discover: ● Why letting go is not the same as giving up. ● How to stop living in constant survival mode without betraying your children. ● Why your healing is one of the most powerful gifts you can give them. ● How creating a joyful, peaceful life models the courage your children may one day need to escape abuse themselves. ● What it means to fight differently—not through fear and exhaustion, but through strength, resilience, and hope. If you’ve been carrying guilt for smiling, finding happiness, or rebuilding your life while your children remain under the influence of an abusive parent, this episode is for you. Because your story isn’t over. And your healing may become the roadmap that leads your children home. If this episode resonates with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another protective parent who needs to hear this message today. For more support, join The Collective, my coaching community for protective parents, or apply for my 8-Week Private Coaching Program to receive personalized guidance as you navigate this incredibly difficult journey. Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com [https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com ]to learn how to work with me.  And find it all here at: https://linktr.ee/chantalcontorinescoaching [https://linktr.ee/chantalcontorinescoaching] Follow me on Instagram: @chantal.contorines.coaching This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice.

Ep. 38: The Truth Protective Parents Need to Hear

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2517876/fan_mail/new] As protective parents, it’s easy to become consumed by the damage a narcissistic or abusive counter-parent is causing. The lies. But what if you’ve been underestimating your own influence? In this episode, I explore one of the most important truths protective parents need to hear: your child does not need a perfect parent, they need a safe one. You’ll learn: ✔ Why one emotionally healthy parent can dramatically impact a child’s long-term well-being ✔ The mistake many protective parents make when trying to counter narcissistic manipulation ✔ Why your influence matters more than you think ✔ What children are actually learning from you, even when it feels like nothing is getting through ✔ How to shift your focus from what you can’t control to where your true power lies If you’re exhausted, discouraged, and wondering whether your efforts are making a difference, this episode is for you. Because the love, consistency, and emotional safety you provide may be shaping your child’s future in ways you cannot yet see. If you’re a protective parent navigating the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissistic or abusive counter-parent, you’re not alone. 💜 Join The Collective: a supportive membership community where protective parents learn practical strategies, receive coaching, and connect with others who truly understand. 💜 Looking for personalized support? My Private 8-Week Coaching Program provides tailored guidance to help you navigate your unique situation with greater confidence and clarity. Visit: www.chantalcontorinescoaching.com Follow on Instagram: @chantal.contorines.coaching Because while you cannot control the chaos your child experiences with the other parent, you can become the safe harbour they return to again and again. Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com [https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com ]to learn how to work with me.  And find it all here at: https://linktr.ee/chantalcontorinescoaching [https://linktr.ee/chantalcontorinescoaching] Follow me on Instagram: @chantal.contorines.coaching This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice.

Ep. 37: When narcissists won't let go- how to stop living under their control

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2517876/fan_mail/new] You left the relationship, but somehow they’re still controlling your life. In this episode, I dive into one of the most frustrating realities of post-separation abuse: the narcissistic ex-partner who refuses to let go. Whether they’re using the children, the court system, constant conflict, manipulation, intimidation, or endless communication to maintain control, many protective parents find themselves trapped in a cycle that feels impossible to escape. You’ll learn: ● Why narcissistic counter-parents continue their abusive tactics long after separation ● The difference between co-parenting and managing a high-conflict personality ● How coercive control often continues after the relationship ends ● The biggest mistakes protective parents make when trying to deal with a narcissist ● Practical strategies to reduce conflict, protect your peace, and reclaim your power ● Why the key to freedom isn’t changing them—it’s changing how you respond If you’ve ever wondered why your ex seems obsessed with creating chaos, or why they continue to interfere with your life years after separation, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening and what you can do about it. Because while you may not be able to control the narcissist, you can absolutely learn how to stop giving them control over you. For more support, resources, and coaching for protective parents navigating narcissistic abuse, coercive control, and high-conflict co-parenting, visit Chantal Contorines Coaching and join our growing community of protective parents who are choosing empowerment over survival. Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com [https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com ]to learn how to work with me.  And find it all here at: https://linktr.ee/chantalcontorinescoaching [https://linktr.ee/chantalcontorinescoaching] Follow me on Instagram: @chantal.contorines.coaching This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice.

Ep. 36: Kimberly Weeks: relearning how to walk and talk after abuse

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2517876/fan_mail/new] This is such a powerful episode, that we recorded on June 1st, which happens to be International Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day. In this episode, I connect with the amazing powerhouse that is Kimberly Weeks. You would not be able to tell, as she's so incredibly articulate, that she had to relearn how to walk and talk, after she left her abuser.  She is the epitome of endurance, grit, determination, power, and also, vitality, intelligence, and goodness.  This is a must listen to episode- you will leave feeling validated, empowered, educated and far more supported.  You can find Kimberly Weeks on social media at @iamkimberlyweeks or on her site at www.kimberlyweeks.com Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com [https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com ]to learn how to work with me.  And find it all here at: https://linktr.ee/chantalcontorinescoaching [https://linktr.ee/chantalcontorinescoaching] Follow me on Instagram: @chantal.contorines.coaching This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice.

Ep. 35: Fight, flight, freeze or fawn- how to help your children

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2517876/fan_mail/new] This is the episode for every protective parent. I walk you through what fight, flight, freeze and fawn responses look like in your child, why they experience these responses and how you can help them navigate them.  This is a short but incredibly impactful episode designed to educate and empower you.  Want to learn how I help protective parents, just like you, navigate this insanity?  https://linktr.ee/chantalcontorinescoaching Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com [https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com ]to learn how to work with me.  And find it all here at: https://linktr.ee/chantalcontorinescoaching [https://linktr.ee/chantalcontorinescoaching] Follow me on Instagram: @chantal.contorines.coaching This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice.