The Unraveled Pod

Parents Are People Too

At some point, every adult child has the unsettling realization that their parents are just people who got here first. In this episode, Tierra and Stephanie unravel the funny, frustrating, and deeply emotional experience of “parenting your parents.” They explore what happens when the roles begin to shift, your parents start seeking your wisdom, and you finally recognize the wounds, limitations, and sacrifices behind the people who raised you. This conversation gets honest about honoring your parents without abandoning your boundaries, grieving what they could not give you, and learning the difference between intentional withholding and genuine emotional limitation. They also confront the temptation to use therapy language, discernment, and personal growth as excuses to judge, diagnose, or control your family. From generational healing and parental wounds to over-functioning, acceptance, faith, therapy, and loving people without an agenda, this episode asks one difficult question: Are you working toward a healthier relationship, or are you still trying to force your parents to become who you needed them to be? This is not permission to tolerate harm. It is an invitation to take responsibility for your healing, release assignments God never gave you, and allow Him to fill the spaces your parents were never equipped to fill.

What I Wish I Knew in Our 20s

What would you tell your 20-something self if you could sit her down for one honest conversation? In this episode, Tierra and Stephanie unravel the lessons they learned the expensive way. From people-pleasing, perfectionism, and overextending to prove loyalty, to chasing titles, rushing marriage, fearing failure, and trying to force multifaceted lives into one respectable little box. They share how intimacy with God transformed their identities, careers, relationships, and understanding of success. This conversation is for every millennial who did everything she thought she was supposed to do and still found herself exhausted, anxious, or disconnected from who God created her to be. Expect laughter, conviction, hard-earned wisdom, and the reminder that you are already loved, already chosen, and allowed to evolve.

Accountability: Who Gon' Check Me, Boo?

Who gon’ check you, boo? In this episode of The Unraveled Pod, Tierra and Stephanie get honest about accountability, correction, character, boundaries, and the moments when “helping” people turns into trying to control them. This conversation starts with a simple question: who in your life is allowed to hold you accountable? But it quickly unravels into something deeper. How do you receive correction without becoming defensive? Who actually has access to speak into your life? Can someone with bad motives still tell you the truth? And what happens when the person you keep trying to help is not ready to change? Tierra and Stephanie unpack why accountability requires a standard, how idols reveal themselves through secrecy and defensiveness, why some people reject correction, and how compassion fatigue can expose where you have taken on responsibility God never gave you. This episode is for anyone who wants to grow, but also for the fixer, the over-helper, the strong friend, the one who keeps repeating the same advice, and the one who needs to finally admit: their life is their responsibility, and mine is mine. Because accountability does not start with everybody else. It starts with you.

The Grace Gap

Stay connected + Work with us: Tierra Sade Certified Disruption Coach | Speaker | Creator Helping high-functioning believers break toxic cycles, reset their confidence, and live boldly in purpose. Follow: @thetierrasade on IG & @tierrasade on TikTok Shop: Disruption Decks: disruptionshop.myshopify.com/ Stephanie Alexis Licensed Mental Health Therapist | Founder of Arabella Counseling Serving residents across Texas with compassionate, client centered services Follow: @officialstephaniealexis on IG & TikTok Book a Session or Learn More: www.arabellacouns.com

Certified Lover Girl

What does it really mean to be a Certified Lover Girl? Is it romance? Softness? Being obsessed with love? Or have we romanticized unhealthy relationship patterns and called them normal? In this episode, we're unraveling the difference between being a woman who loves deeply and becoming a woman who loses herself in the pursuit of love. We talk about boundaries, emotional availability, dating with intention, why so many people keep repeating the same relationship cycles, and the hard truth about doing second things first. If you've ever found yourself chasing potential, ignoring red flags, leading with emotions, or wondering why your relationships keep ending the same way, this conversation is for you. Topics we cover: • Boundaries vs. requests • Why chemistry isn't enough • Dating from fantasy versus dating from data • The danger of making relationships your identity • Emotional highs versus healthy love • Commitment, intimacy, and God's design for relationships • How to protect your heart without hardening it • What it means to love wisely This one might step on a few toes, but sometimes healing starts there.