feel the mess

12 stop worrying and ask for what you want

Phoebe, in a big way, asks for what she wants... and listen to the whole story to see if she got her answer.  Asking for what you want is hard enough without the added pressure of worrying about what the other person is going to say, and to that she says, who cares.  Ask for what you want and deeply believe you deserve it, because you do.  Phoebe also shares her story on meeting ski boys 'best friend,' and it is one you will not want to miss.

11 where it all started: boyfriend #1

I give you BOYFRIEND NUMBER 1.  We would not be where we are today without the firsts... and my firsts started with boyfriend #1.  I am grateful to say that after 10 years we are still friends and I would not want my first guest to be anyone else than boyfriend #1.  From dating in high school we make our way here today to almost grown adults.  Boyfriend #1 let me ask him the hard hitting questions like the perspective of a breakup from the male side, why men ghost, when is it ok to have sex while dating someone new, and most importantly what are the messy parts of life you learned the most from?  I guarantee you enjoy this conversation.

10 the EX, the gaslighting, the recovery

without further ado... I give you: the details behind the ex.  Are you going through a breakup?  Are you having a hard time moving on?  This is 1000% for you.  Phoebe shares all the ins and outs of what went down in her last relationship.  You will learn the good, the yummy, the bad, the worse, the gaslighting and so on.  No one can teach you to be in a relationship, and no one can put themselves in your shoes.  I deeply believe that you have to live through moments to learn what you want and need out of a relationship.  My letter to the ex would say: thank you to everything you taught me, I genuinely wish you the best, thank you for helping me realize what I deserve.

09 feel the butterflies

we are FEELING the feels and deep in the butterflies.  We are, as one would say, HOOKED.  Listen to what Phoebe's dating life has been up to and why she hysterically cried holding a toothbrush. All good things though and we are working on our patience and how to let life come to us

08 found myself in a hopeless place

WELL it has been one full year of the good old Q aka quarantine and Phoebe shares what she gained this past year and what she will hold on to from relationship knowledge to a full blown obsession with sweatpants.  DM her @phoebsallen to share what you gained.  And we ended with some nice messy questions like what to do when the magic fades from a relationship?