Oh God, I Forgot About That

22. Oh God, WE Forgot About That Together!: The Sexvangelicals Talk Love & Respect, Part 2

Teddi and Nick interview their first guests some more! Julia and Jeremiah from the Sexvangelicals Podcast join us to remember all the terrible sex and relationship advice the church gave us and the good advice they didn't want us to have. This is Part 2 in a two-part episode in which Julia and Jeremiah from the Sexvangelicals discuss the book Love & Respect with Nick and Teddi. In this second part, the quartet get into the gritty, shitty details of the relationship advice Eggerichs tries to pass off as useful. Julia and Jeremiah try to break through all the noise of the "crazy cycle," and Nick and Teddi get to bring a bit of gender studies to the conversation. All told, this episode will either leave you feeling grateful for legitimate mental health options or as disrespected as a wife in a 90s sitcom. Who are the Sexvangelicals? Julia Postema and Jeremiah Gibson are the co-hosts of the podcast Sexvangelicals: The Sex Education the Church Didn't Want You to Have. They are both Boston-based licensed psychotherapists and certified sex therapists who work with clients in Massachusetts. They currently live in Utrecht, The Netherlands. They specialize in helping couples with negative religious backgrounds discover sexuality that works for their partnership. They enjoy traveling to places that tend to fly under the radar, long-distance hiking, cooking very spicy food, unexpected conversations, and introverted days filled with reading and drinking fancy tea. They're on Instagram, @sexvangelicals, and Substack at ⁠sexvangelicals.substack.com [http://sexvangelicals.substack.com/] Sources Love & Respect Talk (2018) - Part 1 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3x76Xuocpw] Love & Respect Talk (2018) - Part 2 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L71Fb34oOSU] Wikipedia [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_%26_Respect#cite_note-15] Sheila Wray Gregoire’s Open Letter [https://baremarriage.com/2020/01/open-letter-focus-on-the-family-love-respect-emerson-eggerichs/] SWG’s Review of L&R [https://baremarriage.com/2019/01/love-and-respect-review-how-sex-portrayed/] SWG’s Summary of L&R [https://baremarriage.com/2023/01/summary-problems-love-and-respect-emerson-eggerichs/] The Tragedy of Heterosexuality [https://nyupress.org/9781479851553/the-tragedy-of-heterosexuality/] by Jane Ward [https://nyupress.org/author/jane-ward] “Women Need Love and Men Need Respect” – Psychology Today [https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201210/women-need-love-and-men-need-respect]

21. Oh God, WE Forget Together!: Sex and Relationships with The Sexvangelicals, Part 1

Teddi and Nick interview their first guests! Julia and Jeremiah from the Sexvangelicals Podcast join us to remember all the terrible sex and relationship advice the church gave us and the good advice they didn't want us to have. This is Part 1 in a two-part episode in which Julia and Jeremiah from the Sexvangelicals discuss the book Love & Respect with Nick and Teddi. In this first part, the Sexvangelicals talk about their own deconstruction journey, their experience as licensed sex and relationship therapists, and the weird gendered nonsense packed into so much terrible sex self-help from the turn of the millennium (and today!). Who are the Sexvangelicals? Julia Postema and Jeremiah Gibson are the co-hosts of the podcast Sexvangelicals: The Sex Education the Church Didn't Want You to Have. They are both Boston-based licensed psychotherapists and certified sex therapists who work with clients in Massachusetts. They currently live in Utrecht, The Netherlands. They specialize in helping couples with negative religious backgrounds discover sexuality that works for their partnership. They enjoy traveling to places that tend to fly under the radar, long-distance hiking, cooking very spicy food, unexpected conversations, and introverted days filled with reading and drinking fancy tea. They're on Instagram, @sexvangelicals, and Substack at sexvangelicals.substack.com [http://sexvangelicals.substack.com/]

20. Oh God, What the Hell?: Hell House

In this much-requested episode, Teddi and Nick delve into the controversial world of Christian-themed haunted house attractions. Most commonly called "Hell House," this interactive theatre experience was first organized by Jerry Falwell in the 1970s. Since then, thousands of people have gone through the attraction. While differing in format and structure, a typical Hell House graphically re-enacts a variety of social problems (abortion, violence, AIDS) and then closes with an emotional call to salvation. The primary goal of the attraction is to prompt an audience to reflect on the consequences of sin and the age-old fundamentalist question: Where will we go when we die? The fear-inducing witnessing tool has become less popular today, but still remains active in various parts of the country. In this episode, Teddi and Nick review contemporary promotional materials and scripts for Hell Houses across the nation and reflect on the dangers of the polarizing production.   Content Note: We discuss some exploitative representations of AIDS, suicide, and sexual assault. Sources Hell House documentary, 2002.  https://www.amazon.com/Hell-House-Aria-Adloo/dp/B002ZVGM7C/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1G1HULHI8GSSA&keywords=Hell+House+documentary&qid=1697910900&sprefix=hell+house+documentar%2Caps%2C120&sr=8-1 [https://www.amazon.com/Hell-House-Aria-Adloo/dp/B002ZVGM7C/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1G1HULHI8GSSA&keywords=Hell+House+documentary&qid=1697910900&sprefix=hell+house+documentar%2Caps%2C120&sr=8-1] Scaremare, Liberty Universityhttps://www.liberty.edu/scaremare/  [https://www.liberty.edu/scaremare/] An article about Hell House, written by one of our listeners:https://www.vice.com/en/article/3kvkmy/evangelical-hell-houses-are-waking-nightmares [https://www.vice.com/en/article/3kvkmy/evangelical-hell-houses-are-waking-nightmares]

19. Oh God, Who Gave Hercules a PhD?: God's Not Dead (2014)

Teddi and Nick are back for season 3! This time, they’re stepping a bit out of the turn of the millennium for a bit of academic shit talking. In 2014, the movie God’s Not Dead gripped the evangelical world by the shoulder and shoved it into the “realities” of academia’s persecution of the faith. At least, that’s what Kevin Sorbo wanted us to think. But really, all he made them do was wonder: Does one need to be a former demigod to get a tenure-track gig? It sure does feel that way! Join Teddi and Nick as they discuss, with at times, excruciating attention to detail (we know, we’re sorry!), all that this production got wrong about philosophy, logic, and the academic life. We just think academia wants us to defend it from a movie that one Google reviewer described as “a film so bad it made me an atheist.” Thanks so much for your patience as we navigate the complicated overlapping of careers, dissertations, and family. We are so excited to finally be able to offer you all new content after some time away.  Thanks for remembering with us on our new season of Oh God, I Forgot About That. Due to some technical difficulties, the episode description will be updated with a full list of sources soon.

18. Oh God, What a Forgettable Stroll: A Walk to Remember (2002)

Released in 2002, A Walk To Remember was a coming-of-age romantic drama based on Nicholas Sparks’ 1999 novel published under the same name. Starring Shane West and Mandy Moore, the story follows rebellious teenage Landon who falls in love with Jamie, the town minister’s daughter and professed believer. While not intended to be a “Christian film,” the explicit spiritual themes made it the focus of many conversations in the Church. In this episode, Teddi and Nick examine an artifact this straddled the line between the secular and the Christian world, exploring some of the praise and critique it received from both sides.  A Note on Technical Issues: We have been experimenting with a new recording software and are dealing with some troubleshooting issues. We apologize that this episode was delayed and is not up to our usual standards. We very much appreciate your patience as we get things figured out.