The Therapist and the Coach

The Therapist and The Coach Podcast - EP 023

Episode 23: The Courage to Be Genuine In this episode, Lerae and Oren continue their exploration of needs, wants, values, and the deeper places within us that shape how we move through relationship, purpose, and the world. What begins as a reflection on the relationship they have built through the podcast becomes a living example of the very distinction they are exploring: the difference between performing connection and allowing something genuine to unfold. Together, they speak about the quiet ease that becomes possible when relationship is rooted in care rather than expectation. They reflect on how needs, when unmet or unconscious, can drive us into performance, protection, and the attempt to be who we think others need us to be. And they begin to name the different energy that arises when we are living from values, desire, and purpose — not as something to prove, but as something clean, compelling, and deeply connected to the soul. Lerae and Oren also open the conversation around the courage it takes to follow one’s own knowing before it is understood, approved of, or seen by others. They speak to the ways life offers us breadcrumbs, invitations, resistance, discomfort, and moments of awareness that can guide us back toward ourselves. Not as a single path or formula, but as an unfolding journey of becoming more able to listen inwardly, care for ourselves, and allow the parts of us that have been hidden or shamed to come forward safely. At the heart of the episode is a tender reminder that genuine being often begins in the smallest human moments — a gesture of care, a willingness to be vulnerable, the courage to name what is real. And perhaps, as Lerae and Oren suggest, this is where the deeper work begins: not in trying harder to become someone, but in creating enough safety, honesty, and relationship to finally be who we already are.

The Therapist and The Coach Podcast - EP 022

Episode 22: The Need Beneath the Want In this continued conversation on needs, wants, and values, Lerae and Oren move more deeply into the places where human longing can become confused, displaced, or unknowingly lived out through our choices. Together, they explore how unmet needs for love, safety, being seen, belonging, and emotional regulation can become attached to the things we think we want: success, achievement, relationships, recognition, material things, or the need to keep moving. What begins as a very human longing can slowly become a pattern of reaching, performing, compromising, or trying to fill something from the outside that was never meant to be filled that way. Lerae brings the conversation into the lived reality of adulthood, marriage, change, and contentment. She reflects on how disorienting it can feel when the old drive to strive begins to soften, and how strange it can be to realize that the way we once made decisions may no longer fit who we have become. Oren names the deeper ache beneath many of these patterns with tenderness and clarity: that when early needs were not met, we often begin to trust replacements more than we trust relationship, stillness, or ourselves. The work, then, is not to shame ourselves for what we reached for, but to begin asking better questions about what is underneath the reaching. This episode is an invitation into awareness. To pause before the next want. To notice where we may be trying too hard. To ask what need is asking to be met with honesty, compassion, and care. And to consider that real change may begin not with having the answer, but with allowing the right question to reorient us.

The Therapist and The Coach Podcast - EP 021

Episode 21: Needs, Wants, and the Values That Bring Us Home In this episode, Lerae and Oren turn toward a distinction that is both practical and deeply revealing: the difference between needs, wants, and values. What begins as a conversation about giving listeners a place to start becomes a rich exploration of how unmet needs can quietly shape desire, drive behavior, and blur the line between what is truly necessary and what has become a substitute for something deeper. Rather than treating this confusion as failure, Lerae and Oren hold it as part of the human experience—an understandable consequence of growing up in families, cultures, and systems that often teach people to seek outside themselves what was never fully received within. At the heart of the episode is the recognition that many wants are not shallow at all, but misdirected attempts to meet old needs. Oren speaks to the ways people can come to believe they need wealth, status, relationship, recognition, or achievement when those pursuits are actually standing in for a more foundational need—love, safety, belonging, or being seen for who they are. Lerae adds a clarifying and hopeful lens through both Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and her own coaching perspective, emphasizing that unmet needs can drive a life in ways that feel exhausting, repetitive, and ultimately empty, while values point toward what is genuinely sustaining and life-giving. Together, they illuminate how a life driven by unmet needs can keep a person running in circles, while a life oriented around values begins to restore alignment, fulfillment, and inner authority. The conversation also gently invites listeners into reflection rather than urgency. There is no demand here to solve oneself all at once, only an invitation to notice: What do I say I need? What am I driven toward? What am I drawn toward? In that distinction, a different kind of freedom begins to emerge. Lerae and Oren suggest that when people learn to recognize their needs, meet them more consciously, and distinguish them from both cultural conditioning and personal values, they begin to reclaim the possibility of living from something truer. This episode is ultimately an offering of language, perspective, and compassion—a reminder that the path home often begins with a single honest question about what is really driving us. Sometimes the first step toward fulfillment is learning that what drives us and what calls us forward are not always the same thing.

The Therapist and The Coach Podcast - EP 020

Episode 20: The Healing Power of Being Seen In this episode, Lerae and Oren bring their conversation on imposter syndrome, individuation, and the human need to matter to a thoughtful and compassionate close. What begins as a return to the developmental process of becoming one’s own person opens into something much deeper: the ache of separation, the tenderness of parenting, the adaptations we create in order to survive, and the quiet longing beneath so much of what gets called imposter syndrome. Together, Lerae and Oren explore how early experiences of being seen, held, loved, or missed shape the way we come to relate to ourselves and others. They speak honestly about the difficulty of allowing children to individuate, the grief and self-regulation required of parents, and the importance of love that remains steady even as relationships change form. The conversation gently reframes imposter syndrome not as a permanent condition, but as a human response to places within us that may never have felt fully met, valued, or allowed. Rather than judging the protective ways people seek significance, recognition, control, or belonging, Lerae and Oren invite a more compassionate understanding of what may be underneath: a person trying to say, “I’m here.” At the heart of this episode is a reminder that healing does not come from chasing more evidence of our worth in the outside world. It begins in the pause. In noticing where we are reaching, clinging, proving, or protecting. In turning inward with kindness. In finding relationships, support, and spaces where the parts of us that adapted to survive can begin to feel loved, not shamed. This is a tender, honest conversation about attachment, individuation, self-compassion, and the healing power of relationship. It leaves listeners with a grounded invitation to be kinder to themselves and to others, and to remember that what we most deeply seek may not be outside of us after all, but waiting to be met within.

The Therapist and The Coach Podcast - EP 019

In this episode, Lerae and Oren continue their tender exploration of imposter syndrome, individuation, unmet needs, and the deeper human wound beneath the strategies we develop to survive. What begins as a continuation of the conversation around imposter syndrome quickly opens into something much more essential: the way early emotional needs, when unmet, can shape the way we move through the world as adults. Oren offers a compassionate explanation of individuation — the natural developmental process through which we begin life in dependency and, when held well enough, gradually become more fully ourselves. He speaks to the importance of early co-regulation, emotional availability, and the conditions that allow a child to grow into a grounded sense of self. Lerae brings the conversation into the lived experience of adulthood, reflecting on the difference between being driven by unmet needs and being oriented by values. She shares how transformative it can be to recognize that our needs may be quietly directing our behaviours, relationships, choices, and sense of identity — often without us even realizing it. Together, they explore how the search for recognition, success, achievement, money, status, relationships, or escape can become a way of trying to fill something that was never properly met at the root. And yet, the conversation never lands in shame. It keeps returning to compassion. There is a beautiful reminder woven throughout this episode: healing does not require force. It does not require digging into the past before we are ready. It begins wherever we are, with kindness, honesty, presence, and the willingness to listen inwardly. This episode is an invitation to consider where life may be driven by hunger, and where it may be longing to be guided by what is real, replenishing, and deeply aligned. It is also a reminder that the process of becoming whole is still available. Not through performance. Not through chasing one more thing. Not through becoming someone else. But through gently returning to the self that has been waiting to be met.