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Why You NEED to Wait to Date After Divorce

Scrolling dating apps after your divorce? Feeling the pull to fill the void with someone new? I get it, but here's what you need to know: dating too soon keeps you from becoming who you're meant to be. We dive into the real dangers of jumping into dating before you're ready: attracting the same type of person, missing red flags you're now trained to ignore, and robbing yourself of the transformation waiting for you. We reframe this year not as punishment or loneliness, but as your Year of Empowerment, a season to reclaim your identity, set boundaries you've never had, and build the foundation for truly healthy love. You'll hear practical advice on navigating singleness, investing in yourself, and why the best relationship you can have right now is with God and with yourself. If Part 1 convinced you to wait, Part 2 shows you exactly how to make that year count. This isn’t about deprivation—it's about alignment, clarity, and choosing connection that lets you stay you. 📓 Companion Journal (free) https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/1867562/169272817871750921/share If something stirred in you today, you don't have to hold it alone. This journal gives you a private place to process at your own pace. ☕️ New episodes drop on Wednesdays. Follow so you never miss one. 🙏 A special welcome if you just started following — I’m grateful you’re here. 🤍 👉 Start the healing journey here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_cSXSdist0GYS4EL-yT9ockORATI-MY5 [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_cSXSdist0GYS4EL-yT9ockORATI-MY5] LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE 🤍 Listen page: https://validatedpodcast.com/listen [https://validatedpodcast.com/listen] 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ownvoiceheal?sub_confirmation=1 [https://www.youtube.com/@ownvoiceheal?sub_confirmation=1] 🍏 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/validated-own-voice-heal/id1850964341 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/validated-own-voice-heal/id1850964341] 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4MPNnTAWX2VsoMR9Lek2r2?si=2ed341ee4c0f4306 [https://open.spotify.com/show/4MPNnTAWX2VsoMR9Lek2r2?si=2ed341ee4c0f4306] 🔗 RSS: https://feeds.captivate.fm/validated-own-voice-heal/ [https://feeds.captivate.fm/validated-own-voice-heal/] 📓 Free Companion Journals: https://validatedpodcast.com/validated-vault [https://validatedpodcast.com/validated-vault] In This Episode 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 01:34 The Pull Toward Dating Too Soon 02:32 Your Year of Empowerment 03:30 Reclaiming Your Authentic Self 05:00 Navigating Life Changes 13:02 Healing Through Self-Care + Growth 13:38 Deepening Your Relationship with God 14:40 Closing Encouragement ⚖️ Disclaimer Just a reminder: I’m not a licensed therapist, medical professional, or attorney. The stories, insights, and reflections I share through the Validated podcast, website, and downloadable resources are based on my personal experiences, perspectives, and opinions. Identifying details have been changed or omitted to protect privacy. This content is offered for support and education, not accusation, and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace professional care. No therapeutic relationship is implied or created by your use of this content. If you’re in crisis or need personalized help, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional and/or seek wise counsel within your faith community. You are worthy of such support. 🎶 Music Credit & License Intro/Outro music: “Lofi Background Music-337568” — licensed via Pixabay. Licensed under the Pixabay Content License (free for commercial use; no attribution required). Content ID registered; used with license.

The #1 Divorce Mistake You NEED To Avoid

Fresh out of a marriage and already thinking about dating again? I get it...you want to feel valued, desired, and whole again. But here's the truth you need: rushing into a new relationship will rob you of the healing you desperately need. You'll lose yourself before you ever find yourself, and you're worth more than that!🤍 In this episode, I share why waiting at least a year after divorce isn't about punishment -- it's about reclaiming yourself. I open up about my own journey: the temptation to jump into something new, what happened when I chose myself instead, and how that year of waiting became the most empowering season of my life. You'll hear about rediscovering who you are outside of being someone's wife or significant other, learning to trust yourself again, and why skipping this step keeps you stuck in old patterns. If you're tired of being told what you want to hear and ready for what you actually need, this episode is for you. 🤍 Part 1 of 2. ☕️ New episodes drop on Wednesdays. Follow so you never miss one. 🙏 A special welcome if you just started following — I’m grateful you’re here. 🤍 👉 Start the healing journey here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_cSXSdist0GYS4EL-yT9ockORATI-MY5 [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_cSXSdist0GYS4EL-yT9ockORATI-MY5] 📓 Companion Journal: https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/1867562/169272817871750921/share If something stirred in you today, you don't have to hold it alone. This journal gives you a private place to process at your own pace. LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE 🤍 Listen page: https://validatedpodcast.com/listen [https://validatedpodcast.com/listen] 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ownvoiceheal?sub_confirmation=1 [https://www.youtube.com/@ownvoiceheal?sub_confirmation=1] 🍏 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/validated-own-voice-heal/id1850964341 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/validated-own-voice-heal/id1850964341] 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4MPNnTAWX2VsoMR9Lek2r2?si=2ed341ee4c0f4306 [https://open.spotify.com/show/4MPNnTAWX2VsoMR9Lek2r2?si=2ed341ee4c0f4306] 🔗 RSS: https://feeds.captivate.fm/validated-own-voice-heal/ [https://feeds.captivate.fm/validated-own-voice-heal/] 📓 Free Companion Journals: https://validatedpodcast.com/validated-vault [https://validatedpodcast.com/validated-vault] IN THIS EPISODE 00:00 Introduction and Bold Statement 01:42 The Importance of Waiting After Divorce 03:07 Personal Struggles and Emotional Pull 06:49 What Healing Actually Looks Like 08:41 Reclaiming Identity and Confidence 13:15 Strengthening Mind, Body, and Spirit 19:17 Closing Encouragement 📓 Companion Journal (free) https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/1867562/169272817871750921/share ⚖️ Disclaimer Just a reminder: I’m not a licensed therapist, medical professional, or attorney. The stories, insights, and reflections I share through the Validated podcast, website, and downloadable resources are based on my personal experiences, perspectives, and opinions. Identifying details have been changed or omitted to protect privacy. This content is offered for support and education, not accusation, and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace professional care. No therapeutic relationship is implied or created by your use of this content. If you’re in crisis or need personalized help, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional and/or seek wise counsel within your faith community. You are worthy of such support. 🎶 Music Credit & License Intro/Outro music: “Lofi Background Music-337568” by [Artist] — licensed via Pixabay. Licensed under the Pixabay Content License (free for commercial use; no attribution required). Content ID registered; used with license. 🔗 Links & Resources 🤍 Listen page: https://validatedpodcast.com/listen 📓 Companion Journal (free): https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/1867562/169272817871750921/share 📺 Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ownvoiceheal?sub_confirmation=1 🍏 Apple Podcasts: coming soon 🎧 Spotify: coming soon 🔗 RSS: https://feeds.captivate.fm/validated-own-voice-heal/

Prepared, Not Panicked: Why a Safety Plan Matters

If you’re living in hidden abuse, it can be hard to know what you actually need — especially when nothing looks obviously “dangerous.” Maybe there are no bruises. Maybe things only feel scary during conflict. Maybe you’ve been told you’re overreacting. But Brave One… your safety is still worth preparing for. This isn’t panic. This isn’t drama. This is wisdom. In this episode, I gently walk you through: • What a basic safety plan looks like • Why it can matter even before things escalate • What to quietly gather over time • How to think clearly when fear or confusion cloud judgment • The difference between preparing and panicking Your courage doesn’t mean walking in danger — it means caring for yourself as you take your next brave step. 🤍 #Validated #ownvoiceheal #hiddenabuse #covertabuse #narcissisticabuse #psychologicalabuse #emotionalabuse -- ONE WOMAN™ Note If you know a woman who might be living in hidden abuse, you can help her stay safe. Invite her over for coffee so she can watch from a safe device. Be her voice in the comments. Subscribe for her until she can subscribe for herself. ONE WOMAN helping ONE WOMAN… changes everything. 🤍 -- ☕️ New episodes drop on Wednesdays. Subscribe so you never miss one. 🙏 A special welcome if you just subscribed — I’m grateful you’re here. 🤍 👉 Start the healing journey here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_cSXSdist0GYS4EL-yT9ockORATI-MY5 📓 Companion Journal (Free) If something stirred in you today, you don't have to hold it alone. This journal gives you a private place to process at your own pace. {Link Here} Listen & Subscribe 🤍 Listen page: https://validatedpodcast.com/listen 📺 Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ownvoiceheal?sub_confirmation=1 🍏 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/validated-own-voice-heal/id1850964341 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4MPNnTAWX2VsoMR9Lek2r2?si=2ed341ee4c0f4306 🔗 RSS: https://feeds.captivate.fm/validated-own-voice-heal/ 📓 Free Companion Journals: https://validatedpodcast.com/validated-vault In This Episode 00:00 Introduction to Safety Planning 00:54 Understanding the Need for a Safety Plan 01:44 Recognizing Escalation and Preparing for Safety 03:40 Steps to Create a Safety Plan 06:31 Preparing Essentials for a Quick Exit 07:57 Ensuring Children's Safety 08:26 Final Thoughts and Encouragement 08:56 Disclaimer and Professional Advice -- Disclaimer I’m not a licensed therapist, medical professional, or attorney. The stories, insights, and reflections I share through the Validated podcast, website, and downloadable resources are based on my personal experiences, perspectives, and opinions. Identifying details have been changed or omitted to protect privacy. This content is offered for support and education, not accusation, and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace professional care. No therapeutic relationship is implied or created by your use of this content. If you’re in crisis or need personalized help, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional and/or seek wise counsel within your faith community. You are worthy of such support. Music Credit & License Intro/Outro music: “Lofi Background Music-337568” by [Artist] — licensed via Pixabay. Licensed under the Pixabay Content License (free for commercial use; no attribution required). Content ID registered; used with license.

Break The Hidden Abuse Cycle - 4 Keys

If you feel like you’re going in circles emotionally — stuck in patterns you can’t explain or escape — you may be living on what I call the Endless Carousel. In this episode, I’m sharing 4 key steps that help you get your sanity back when you’re dealing with any form of hidden abuse… especially during a season that should feel peaceful but doesn’t. These four keys won’t fix everything overnight — but they will give you clarity, strength, and direction for your next brave steps forward. ONE WOMAN™ NOTE If you know a woman who might be living in hidden abuse, you can help her stay safe. Invite her over for coffee so she can listen from a safe device. Be her voice in the comments. Subscribe for her until she can subscribe for herself. ONE WOMAN helping ONE WOMAN… changes everything. 🤍 HASHTAGS #hiddenabuse #psychologicalabuse #emotionalabuse #amioverreacting #youarenotcrazy #abuseawareness #Validated #ownvoiceheal #OneWoman ☕️ New episodes drop on Wednesdays. Follow so you never miss one. 🙏 A special welcome if you're new — I’m grateful you’re here. 🤍 👉 Start the healing journey here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_cSXSdist0GYS4EL-yT9ockORATI-MY5 [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_cSXSdist0GYS4EL-yT9ockORATI-MY5] LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE 🤍 Listen page: https://validatedpodcast.com/listen [https://validatedpodcast.com/listen] 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ownvoiceheal?sub_confirmation=1 [https://www.youtube.com/@ownvoiceheal?sub_confirmation=1] 🍏 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/validated-own-voice-heal/id1850964341 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/validated-own-voice-heal/id1850964341] 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4MPNnTAWX2VsoMR9Lek2r2?si=2ed341ee4c0f4306 [https://open.spotify.com/show/4MPNnTAWX2VsoMR9Lek2r2?si=2ed341ee4c0f4306] 🔗 RSS: https://feeds.captivate.fm/validated-own-voice-heal/ [https://feeds.captivate.fm/validated-own-voice-heal/] 📓 Free Companion Journals: https://validatedpodcast.com/validated-vault [https://validatedpodcast.com/validated-vault] IN THIS EPISODE 00:00 Introduction: Finding Light in Hidden Abuse 00:10 Understanding the Endless Carousel of Abuse 00:36 The Challenge of Breaking Free 01:23 Personal Journey 02:34 Key Steps to Exit the Endless Carousel 02:39 Recognize and Acknowledge the Behaviors 03:10 Developing a Safety Plan 05:24 Building a Support Network 06:23 Seeking Professional and Legal Help 09:09 The Importance of the Four Keys 10:10 Resources and Final Thoughts DISCLAIMER I’m not a licensed therapist, medical professional, or attorney. The stories, insights, and reflections I share through the Validated podcast, website, and downloadable resources are based on my personal experiences, perspectives, and opinions. Identifying details have been changed or omitted to protect privacy. This content is offered for support and education, not accusation, and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace professional care. No therapeutic relationship is implied or created by your use of this content. If you’re in crisis or need personalized help, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional and/or seek wise counsel within your faith community. You are worthy of such support. MUSIC CREDIT & LICENSE Intro/Outro music: “Lofi Background Music-337568” — licensed via Pixabay. Licensed under the Pixabay Content License (free for commercial use; no attribution required). Content ID registered; used with license. TRADEMARK NOTICE The Endless Carousel™ cycle and stage names—The Build-Up™, The Blow-Up™, The Spin Cycle™, and The Peace Put-On™—are trademarks of Validated Media LLC (common-law). All rights reserved.

You're Not Crazy—Here's What's Actually Happening in Hidden Abuse

Hidden Abuse Cycle Explained: If you’ve ever felt stuck in a loop where things get tense, then explode, then get smoothed over like nothing happened, you’re not imagining it. There is a pattern. And once you can see it, you can start to step out of it. There is also a brief section in this episode where I share a personal theory I’ve developed from lived experience and common patterns. This is not a clinical diagnosis or a statement about any one individual—just an interpretive insight that helps explain why the cycle can feel so predictable and exhausting. In this episode, I walk you through the Endless Carousel™—a repeating cycle commonly found in emotional, psychological, and spiritual abuse. This cycle keeps you emotionally off balance and struggling to trust your own reality. We explore the four repeating stages of the cycle: – The Build-Up™ – The Blow-Up™ – The Spin Cycle™ – The Peace Put-On™ This conversation isn’t about blame—it’s about clarity. Understanding the cyclical pattern helps you trust your perception, name what’s happening, and take your next brave step toward stepping off the Endless Carousel. You are not alone. And there is a way forward. Listen & Subscribe: https://validatedpodcast.com/listen [https://validatedpodcast.com/listen] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ownvoiceheal [https://www.youtube.com/@ownvoiceheal] Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/validated-own-voice-heal/id1850964341 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/validated-own-voice-heal/id1850964341] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4MPNnTAWX2VsoMR9Lek2r2 [https://open.spotify.com/show/4MPNnTAWX2VsoMR9Lek2r2] Free Companion Journals: https://validatedpodcast.com/validated-vault [https://validatedpodcast.com/validated-vault] Disclaimer I’m not a licensed therapist, medical professional, or attorney. The stories and insights I share are based on my personal experiences, perspectives, and opinions. Identifying details have been changed or omitted to protect privacy. This content is for education and support, not diagnosis or treatment. No therapeutic relationship is created by listening. If you’re in crisis or need personalized help, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or trusted support. You are worthy of such care. Trademark Notice The Endless Carousel™ cycle and stage names—The Build-Up™, The Blow-Up™, The Spin Cycle™, and The Peace Put-On™—are trademarks of Validated Media LLC (common-law). All rights reserved.