The Body at the Edge of Love - Body Image Disturbance in the Space Between Us : Episode 15
🎧 Episode 15: The Body at the Edge of Love – Body Image Disturbance in the Space Between Us
Why does body image disturbance often get louder just as closeness becomes possible?
In this episode of Mind the Body, I explore the relationship between body image disturbance, attachment, shame, and emotional intimacy.
When someone begins to matter to us - whether in romance, friendship, or vulnerability - the body can suddenly feel more exposed. Self-criticism may intensify, old insecurities can reappear, and the urge to hide can become surprisingly strong.
Drawing on attachment theory, psychoanalytic thinking, and contemporary work on shame, I explore why these experiences can emerge so powerfully in moments of closeness. We look at how early relational experiences shape the way we experience being seen, why the body often becomes the place where relational fears are expressed, and how body image disturbance may function as a protective response at the edge of connection.
In This Episode
* Why body image disturbance often intensifies in moments of closeness
* How attachment patterns shape our experience of being seen
* Why the body carries relational memory
* The connection between shame, vulnerability, and body image disturbance
* How self-criticism can function as protection
* Why healing often happens through safe relationships
A Question to Sit With:
What might your body be trying to protect you from when closeness begins to feel possible?
References:
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Lemma, A. (2009). Being seen or being watched? A psychoanalytic perspective on body dysmorphia. International Journal of Psychoanalysis, 90(4), 753–771.
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Steele, M., Steele, H., & Beebe, B. (2017). Applying an attachment and microanalytic lens to “embodied mentalization”: Commentary on “Mentalizing homeostasis: The social origins of interoceptive inference” by Fotopoulou and Tsakiris. Neuropsychoanalysis, 19(1), 59–66.
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