That's Not Very Ladylike

Ladies Don't Resent Caregiving. They Were Born For It.

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's a fun little lie we've all been sold: that good women are just born for caregiving. That we step into it naturally, give endlessly, and never once wish we were anywhere else. Meanwhile she's crying in a parking lot, googling whether it makes her a terrible person to want her old life back. So which is it?  In this episode I get into what's actually going on: why that resentment is information and not a character flaw, why the thing you keep calling guilt is almost always regret wearing a disguise, and how the chronic stress of caregiving keeps cortisol cranked, sleep wrecked, and your hormones in open revolt. It's not that you don't love them. It's that nobody ever told you what loving them this hard was allowed to cost. Let's talk about it. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH If you are interested in That Hormone Girl information, visit my everything page [https://www.thathormonegirl.com/thg-hq]!

Ladies Don't Cause a Scene. They Apologize for Other People's Behavior.

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's a fun little lie we've all been sold: that a good woman keeps the peace. She smooths it over, she doesn't make it weird, and she absolutely does not cause a scene. Meanwhile she's apologizing to the guy who bumped into her, cleaning up a comment that was never hers to clean up, saying sorry so many times a day she's stopped hearing herself do it. So which is it? In this episode I get into what's actually going on: how girls get trained to manage everyone else's feelings as a full-time job, why that reflexive sorry is a nervous system stuck in appease mode and not actually politeness, and what it quietly costs your body to swallow your own reactions for years so nobody around you has to feel one second of discomfort. It's not that you're so easygoing. It's that somewhere along the way you learned keeping the peace was safer than taking up space. Let's talk about it. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH If you are interested in That Hormone Girl information, visit my everything page [https://www.thathormonegirl.com/thg-hq]!

Ladies Don't Want More In the Bedroom. They Just Silently Read Smut Books.

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's a fun little lie we've all been sold: that if a woman's pulled back in the bedroom, she's just not that into it anymore and that's that. Meanwhile she's three books deep into a series with a cracked spine and a very specific search history. So which is it? In this episode I get into what's actually going on, how shifting hormones, a nervous system stuck in fight-or-flight, and a brain that's running on fumes quietly turn the volume down on desire, and why reading smut is so often the tell. It's not that the want went away. It's that the want needs different conditions than it used to. Let's talk about it. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH If you are interested in That Hormone Girl information, visit my everything page [https://www.thathormonegirl.com/thg-hq]!

Ladies Don't Say They Hate Their Friend's Partner. They Just Stop Doing Couples Things.

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike the dinners you stop accepting. The double dates that suddenly never work with your schedule. The friend you used to see weekly who you now see at brunch, alone, twice a year. The text you draft and don't send. The "we should get together soon" that never has a date attached. The version of the friendship that survived because you stopped saying the thing. Women have been quietly editing themselves out of friendships for generations to avoid one uncomfortable sentence, and most of us were never told there was another option. This episode is about noticing what you've been swallowing for the sake of the friendship, naming what it's actually costing both of you, and asking whether the silence is protecting her or just protecting you from a harder conversation. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH If you are interested in That Hormone Girl information, visit my everything page [https://www.thathormonegirl.com/thg-hq]!

Ladies Don't Question the Cost of Emotional Labor. They Just Keep the Receipts.

The birthday you remembered. The appointment you scheduled. The mood you read across the room before anyone else noticed. That's emotional labor, and you've been doing it for free since you were old enough to read a room. This episode is about the receipts you've been keeping in silence, what it's costing your body, and why society trained you to never ask what it's worth. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH If you are interested in That Hormone Girl information, visit my everything page [https://www.thathormonegirl.com/thg-hq]!