Beauty in the Break

Stop Caring What People Think: The Art of Giving Less Fucks

Why do we care so much about what other people think? Foster and Cesar explore the art of giving less fucks, as a source of freedom from needing to control how others perceive you. Despite a world steeped in people-pleasing, our biological fear of being ostracized by the tribe no longer serves us in the age of social media and cancel culture. They ask the question: is it possible to incrementally build the muscle of caring less? They reveal how to balance kindness and truth, why you can't control how someone receives your message, and the power of giving less fucks as a soil bed for boldness and creativity. In this episode they explore:  * The real work: not giving a fuck without anger  * Why caring what people think is a biological fear that no longer serves us * How Foster incrementally desensitized herself to being seen * Cesar's "back pocket fucklessness" and when to access it * How posting daily on TikTok made the flops stop mattering If this episode spoke to you, you will love How to Keep Creating When Your Inner Critic Says You’re Worthless [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-keep-creating-when-your-inner-critic-says-youre/id1795211471?i=1000764008916]. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps! Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com [http://wheelerscholarship.com], supporting college enrollment. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]

Inside 19 Years of Couples Therapy: What Dr. Molly Burrets Wishes Everyone Knew

Advocate for yourself! Clinical psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Molly Burrets discovered a brain tumor after years of doctors dismissing symptoms. This taught her about self-advocacy, meeting herself at rock bottom, and then asking for help. With 19 years of couples therapy experience, Dr. Molly reveals insights on resentment in relationships, the mental load women carry, dating wisdom, and why knowing your worth is the foundation for everything, from advocating in the medical system to building partnerships that actually work. In this episode they explore:  * The exact words to say that make doctors legally required to investigate your concerns * How "having it all" was really just "doing it all" with no peace or ease * The hidden truth about resentment * Why you should never marry someone you wouldn't go into business with * What Dr. Molly uses to make the invisible labor visible  * The dating advice no one talks about Dr. Molly Burrets:  * Connect with Dr. Molly [http://www.drmollyburrets.com] * Listen to her podcast Kissing Frogs [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/kissing-frogs-with-dr-molly-burrets/id1895647149] * IG: @drmollyburrets [https://www.instagram.com/drmollyburrets] Also mentioned: * Eve Rodsky’s book Fair Play [https://www.betterworldbooks.com/product/detail/fair-play-reese-s-book-club-a-game-changing-solution-for-when-you-have-too-much-to-do-and-more-life-9780525541943] If this episode spoke to you, you will love Curiosity Over Conflict: How to Heal Relationships with JJ Brake [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/curiosity-over-conflict-how-to-heal-relationships-with/id1795211471?i=1000730596191]. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps! Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] Special Guest: Dr. Molly Burrets [http://www.drmollyburrets.com] This episode is brought to you by Arlene Thornton & Associates [https://www.arlenethornton.com/] Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]

Spill the Strawberries: Foster's Struggle with Carrying Too Much

Are you feeling burned out and buried under everything you're carrying? Foster opens up about losing herself in her workload, sacrificing personal joy for potential collective success, and how that pattern affected both her relationship with Cesar and her own vibrancy. They discuss the gendered nature of caretaking and burden-carrying and how women especially take on too much. This conversation is for anyone who feels gray inside from carrying too much, has lost touch with what brings them joy, or needs permission to disappoint others for the sake of finding themselves again. In this episode they explore:  * Why Foster disappeared from the vibrancy of her own relationship * The waiter metaphor that perfectly explains burnout (and why you can't accept help) * How sacrificing current joy for potential future success steals your life * The gendered reality of who carries the burden * Why "let me know if you need anything" doesn't actually help * How to actually help someone who's carrying too much Also mentioned:  * Loonshots by Safi Bahcall [https://www.betterworldbooks.com/product/detail/loonshots-nurture-the-crazy-ideas-that-win-wars-cure-diseases-and-transform-industries-9781250623096] If this episode spoke to you, you will love Why It’s Never Equal [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/why-its-never-equal-gender-roles-and-invisible-labor/id1795211471?i=1000728028406] where we explore gender roles and invisible labor. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps! Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com [http://wheelerscholarship.com], supporting college enrollment. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]

How to Keep Creating When Your Inner Critic Says You're Worthless

Struggling with creative block or self-doubt as an artist? In this episode, Foster breaks open her creative process behind writing and publishing Afternoon Abundance [https://bookshop.org/p/books/afternoon-abundance-foster-wilson/fbad4e6cfc3c0d5a] in just 9 months, from blank page to published book. Cesar explores the double-edged sword of being a creative person and the battle between inspiration and self-doubt. They lay out the three pillars every artist needs: time for nothing (unstructured creative time), "this too is honey" (transforming experiences into art), and the create-reflect-recreate cycle. Taking inspiration from Andrea Gibson and Elizabeth Gilbert, they explore how to overcome creative fear, why discomfort is essential for artistic growth, and the audacity required to keep creating when no one's waiting for you to succeed. This conversation is for anyone struggling with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, waiting for permission, or battling their inner critic while trying to bring something new into the world. In this episode they explore:  * The three pillars every creative person needs (including "time for nothing") * What "this too is honey" means for transforming experiences into art * The habit that made sitting down to a blank page less terrifying * Why no fuck's left to give is actually the secret to unstoppable creativity Also referenced:  * Episode 24: What Depression Really Feels Like [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-depression-really-feels-like/id1795211471?i=1000737246262] * Episode 9: Finding Laughter in Life & Death with Jennica Schwartzman [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/finding-laughter-in-life-death-with-jennica-schwartzman/id1795211471?i=1000709121075] * Episode 3: Foster’s Loss [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fosters-loss-sunflowers-and-the-choice-to-feel-pain/id1795211471?i=1000697629168] (losing her son Wilde) * The Artist’s Way [https://www.betterworldbooks.com/product/detail/the-artist-s-way-a-spiritual-path-to-higher-creativity-9781585421466] by Julia Cameron You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps! Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] This episode is brought to you by Arlene Thornton & Associates [https://www.arlenethornton.com/] Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]

Buy the Change: Conscious Capitalism & Common Cents with Cesar Cardona

Where do you shop instead of Amazon and Target?  Two words: B Corporations. This episode is for anyone who is tired of corporate greed but doesn’t know what to do about it. Cesar and Foster break down one of the most powerful (and overlooked) forms of everyday activism: conscious spending, ethical shopping and brands to “buy-cott” instead of boycott. They dig into B Corp, an independent auditing organization that scores companies on how they treat their workers, the environment, and their customers. In this episode they explore:  * How to weaponize your wallet in a capitalist society * What makes a brand “good”?  * What if you can’t afford to buy independent brands? * A few good brands to start with Here are some resources for you!  * Cesar’s One Stop Shop for Good Brands Newsletter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * or find them yourself at B Corp [https://www.bcorporation.net/en-us/] * EWG Skin Deep Cosmetics Database [https://www.ewg.org/skindeep/] * Goods Unite Us [https://www.goodsuniteus.com]: find the political affiliations of big companies * Green Film [https://www.green.film/]: helps productions go green * Ancient & Brave [https://ancientandbrave.com]: supplements  * Giftphoria [https://giftphoria.com/]: the Amazon alternative for Angelenos If this episode spoke to you, you will love How to Quiet Your Inner Critic [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-quiet-your-inner-critic-the-4-steps-of/id1795211471?i=1000725689494] where we explore the 4 steps of Growth Mindfulness. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. Take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps. Like really… it does! Tell us your barrier breaking story. Send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com [http://wheelerscholarship.com], supporting college enrollment. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]