Becoming: HER with Nikki Spoelstra

Real Love Is Not Silent with Vanessa Molina - Ep. 221

In this episode of Becoming Her, host Nikki sits down with Vanessa Molina, a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, for one of the most honest, practical conversations we've had on this show. They go deep — on faith in relationships, the communication mistakes couples keep making without realizing it, what EMDR therapy actually is (and why it hits different than talk therapy), and why some of the most well-intentioned moms might be accidentally working against their kids' growth. Vanessa shares real tools she uses in session: soft start-ups for healthier conflict, a counterintuitive homework assignment she gives couples that actually builds connection, and the hard truth about setting boundaries — even when the people around you push back. If you've ever felt like you're on survival mode in your relationships — this episode gives you the language and the tools to start doing it differently. In this episode: * Why faith can be a powerful foundation in relationships — and what happens at both extremes * The one communication shift (soft start-ups) that stops conflict before it escalates * Why Vanessa assigns couples 15 minutes of arguing per day — and why it works * What EMDR is, how it works, and why it's changing trauma healing * How to set boundaries with family when they don't like it — and what to do when the boundary gets crossed * What it means to "clean your side of the street" in a relationship * Why over-protecting your kids from adversity backfires — and what resilience actually looks like * Why real love is not silent Connect with Vanessa: Coral Gables Counseling Center | Telehealth & In-Person Sessions Available Services: Couples Therapy | Family Therapy | Trauma (EMDR) | Anxiety | Depression | OCD Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com [http://www.nikkispo.com] @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Living a Soul-Led Life (With Some Bitter Medicine) with Nikki Novo. Ep. 220

Welcome BACK to Becoming: HER. This week’s episode feels especially full circle, because I’m sitting down with someone who has not only been on the podcast before, but who has also been a meaningful part of my personal journey, Nikki Novo. Nikki and I have known each other for a few years now, and what makes this conversation so special is the shared community we’ve built along the way. It’s one of those rare, deeply connected circles of women that feels both grounding and expansive at the same time, where growth, intuition, and honest conversations are always at the center. Tune in to find out more! In this episode… Coming home to yourself Living a soul led life Mind, body, & soul Self-mediation Hearing yourself & your truth Expanding identities If not now, when? Quotes “My work is helping people and making spaces for people to hear themselves and hear the truth.” - Nikki Novo “Be the change you're WILLING and WANT to see.” - Nikki Novo “We need friction. Our lives require friction because that's where you grow.” - Nikki Spo “Your intuition, the voice of your soul, is not going to scream over your busy calendar.” - Nikki Novo Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:05 | Intro 2:05 - 5:25 | Coming home to yourself 5:25 -11:25 | Living a soul-led life with others 11:25 - 16:15 | Wanting to control 16:15 - 22:45 | Identity 22:45 - 29:35 | If not now, when? 28:35 - 36:00 | Knowing where to begin 36:00 - 39:50 | Your inner child 41:40 - 46:45 | Men are waking up 46:45 - 51:40 | Waking up everyone else 51:40 - 57:35 | Resentment of people in their light 57:35 - 59:57 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com [http://www.sanaskinstudio.com] with my code NIKKISPOGLOW. Connect with Nikki Novo nikkinovo.com / nikkinovo.com/podcast @nikkinovo Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com [http://www.nikkispo.com] @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Getting to Your Zone of Genius with Lacey Newman. Ep. 219

Welcome BACK to Becoming: HER. This week, I’m so excited to be joined by Lacey Newman. Lacey is currently navigating a powerful transition from the real estate industry to coaching female entrepreneurs on a much broader scale, while also stepping into the world of content creation. Tune in as we talk about what it really looks like to pivot, build something new, and balance it all along the way. In this episode… Survival into strategy Addiction of being needed Zone of genius Burnout Zone of excellence vs. zone of genius When is it time to LET GO?! Quotes “You have to understand that overfunctioning and being the most capable person in the room is an addiction and a dopamine hit. A lot of us are addicted to being needed.” - Lacey Newman “Other people see our strengths with a lot more clarity than we do sometimes because we are just too close to it.” - Lacey Newman “I always say I reserve the right to change my mind.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:45 | Intro 2:45 - 8:20 | Survival into strategy 8:20 - 11:30 | Finding that zone of genius 11:30 - 20:20 | Figuring out when it's time to LET GO 20:20 - 23:50 | Reclaiming your life 23:50 - 27:25 | Content creation 27:25 - 32:00 | Reflection points 32:00 - 40:35 | Permission to mute, unfollow, & block 40:35 - 45:35 | The people that get it, get it 45:35 - 52:30 | How business affects money beliefs – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com [http://www.sanaskinstudio.com] with my code NIKKISPOGLOW. Connect with Lacey Newman @alignedwithlacey Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com [http://www.nikkispo.com] @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Legacy Over Likes with Diana Marti. Ep. 218

Welcome BACK my friends! This week's guest is Diana Marti, a Miami based media executive and founder of Pink Grove Agency Pink Grove Agency, a boutique PR firm marketing in talent management based in Coconut Grove. With over a decade in media and brand strategy, Diana helps creators, executives, and cultural leaders build visibility that lasts. At her core, Diana is a storyteller. Building platforms, elevating Latino voices, and creating a legacy rooted in resilience and intention. Tune in to find out more! In this episode… No such thing as overnight success GO FOR IT Courage to talk about the things… Pain into purpose Storytelling Being unapologetic Playing the “what if” game Being a DREAMER Quotes “With every dream, I saw my parents believe in me more and more, but I think it wasn’t just them believing in me, it was them believing that these things were in the realm of possibility.” - Diana Marti “Sometimes the biggest ‘I’m sorry’ is for yourself.” - Diana Marti “The shortcut is going through the muck.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 3:00 | Intro 3:00 - 11:15 | Diana’s journey & What it means to actually go for it 11:15 - 15:50 | Being unapologetic 15:50 - 23:20 | Breaking the barriers 23:20 - 31:00 | Making amends 31:00 - 34:10 | No such thing as a shortcut 34:10 - 39:05 | Practice, practice, practice 39:05 - 43:05 | Manifesting into the present 43:05 - 46:20 | Being on the lookout for the signs 46:20 - 52:55 | Legacy over likes 52:55 - 55:10 | Outro Connect with Diana Marti @pinkgroveagency @iamdianamarti Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com [http://www.nikkispo.com] @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Married to the Magic with Jamie. Ep. 217

Jamie’s back for soul talk! Join us as we catch up on what’s going on in our worlds. To our listeners: if you’re in a rut, a transition, or just a moment of uncertainty, I hope Jamie’s words give you permission to slow down, shift your perspective, and trust the process. Share this episode with a friend who’s navigating change and could use some encouragement, because we all need reminders that we’re not walking through these seasons alone. In this episode… In a RUT Identify shifts Authentic alignment Plot twists Pouring into people Leveling up Marrying the magic It's not too late Goal friend Quotes “Can you receive for the sake of receiving just because someone wants to pour into you, not because you’re doing anything for them?” - Jamie Ruiz “I want a teacher who is still a student.” - Nikki Spo “I wholeheartedly believe that the answer to suffering is service.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:35 | Intro 2:35 - 9:50 | Food poisoning 9:50 - 18:10 | Receiving 18:10 - 21:05 | The lessons keep coming 21:05 - 28:15 | Upwards spiral 28:15 - 33:30 | It's not too late 33:30 - 36:45 | Individual words 36:45 - 43:10 | Manifesting 43:10 - 47:10 | Being of service 47:10 - 50:39 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com [http://www.sanaskinstudio.com] with my code NIKKISPOGLOW. If you loved today’s episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and join us next time for more honest, heartfelt conversations. And as you move through your own transitions, remember—you can hold both the depth and the lightness, both the challenge and the joy. That’s where growth lives. Connect with Jamie Ruiz @jameslee4 jamieleeruiz.com Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com [http://www.nikkispo.com] @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.