DEEP&DIRTY with Lisa Opel

(ENG) COURTNEY BOYER: I asked my husband for an open marriage after 17 Years.

(ENG): COURTNEY BOYER: I asked my husband for an open marriage after 17 years. Courtney Boyer joins me for a deeply honest, sometimes uncomfortable conversation about desire, shame, and what happens when you stop living your life for approval. We talk about growing up in purity culture, marrying young, and building a life that looked “right” from the outside but didn’t fully feel like hers. After 17 years of marriage, she asked for something that would change everything and we get into what actually happens after a moment like that. Not the fantasy, but the conversations, the fear, the tension, and the growth that follows. We also explore navigating non-monogamy in a monogamous partnership, the emotional reality behind opening a relationship, and why so many women feel disconnected from their own needs in the first place. This isn’t a guide or a blueprint. It’s a real conversation about self-abandonment, reclaiming pleasure, and learning to choose yourself even when it’s messy, complicated, and doesn’t fit into neat labels. About Courtney Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a therapist-turned-relationship coach, writer, and speaker whose work centers on love, desire, and authenticity. She is the author of Not Tonight Honey and Opened, and has been featured in Glamour, Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, and BBC Radio Live. Drawing on her background in mental health and sex therapy, she blends professional expertise with lived experience to help women break free from shame, reclaim their voice, and create relationships rooted in honesty and autonomy. She lives in Germany with her husband and three children. Find Courtney here: Instagram: @courtneyboyercoaching - https://www.instagram.com/courtneyboyercoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/courtneyboyercoaching/?hl=en] | Couple IG: @themonopolycouple - https://www.instagram.com/themonopolycouple/ [https://www.instagram.com/themonopolycouple/] | Website: https://www.courtneyboyercoaching.com [https://www.courtneyboyercoaching.com] Watch the episode on YouTube: Prefer the transcript? Find it here: https://youtu.be/vx53NNR-s-E [https://youtu.be/vx53NNR-s-E]. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com [yes@pleasepinchmehard.com] More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard [https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/]) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com [http://www.pleasepinchmehard.com]) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook [https://bit.ly/sex-workbook] for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! [https://amzn.to/3wn6P3T] on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... [https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8b] on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback) Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com [http://www.mrs-opel.com] Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe [https://lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

(ENG) Why don’t I initiate sex (and what does it mean)?

(ENG): Why don’t I initiate sex (and what does it mean)? (A collab with Evie Plumb from Cliterally The Best) AD // BEDUCATED: Sometimes change starts with a really good question. If you want to find out where you are on your sexual journey and what actually feels good for you, click the link [https://beducate.me/pd2615-ppmh] and take the Beducated quiz. At the end, you’ll get a personalized roadmap towards more pleasure and a more fulfilling sex life. Available in English and German. LINK: https://beducate.me/pd2615-ppmh [https://beducate.me/pd2615-ppmh] You love your partner. You enjoy sex. Yet somehow you’re almost never the one initiating it. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. 📖 Read the full article here: https://cliterallythebest.com/why-dont-i-initiate-sex-and-what-does-it-mean [https://cliterallythebest.com/why-dont-i-initiate-sex-and-what-does-it-mean] In this episode, we unpack why initiating sex can feel surprisingly difficult; even in happy, loving relationships. From fear of rejection and shame, to responsive desire, stress, and relationship dynamics, this conversation explores what’s really going on beneath the surface. This episode will help you understand: - why initiation isn’t just about desire - how different types of desire affect who makes the first move - the role of stress, mental load, and emotional dynamics - how to shift the pattern without pressure or blame Most importantly, it will remind you of one thing:you are not broken. Prefer the transcript? Find it here [https://lisaopel.substack.com/?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=substack_profile]. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com [yes@pleasepinchmehard.com] More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard [https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/]) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com [http://www.pleasepinchmehard.com]) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook [https://bit.ly/sex-workbook] for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! [https://amzn.to/3wn6P3T] on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... [https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8b] on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback) Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com [http://www.mrs-opel.com] Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe [https://lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

(DE) mit Mia Edelrot: Was Escort wirklich bedeutet (und was nicht).

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Mia Edelrot über was Escort wirklich bedeutet (und was nicht).. In dieser Folge sprechen wir über Escort ohne Klischee: Nähe, Freiheit und das Doppelleben. ALLE LINKS ZU MIA:Website: www.sprecherin-mia.de [http://www.sprecherin-mia.de] // Escortagentur: www.edelrot-escort.de [http://www.edelrot-escort.de] // Ihr Buch: Escorts bleiben nicht zum Frühstück (überall erhältlich) // Instagram: @sprecherin_mia ÜBER DIESE FOLGE: Mia gibt ehrliche Einblicke in ihre Zeit als High-Class-Escort und erzählt, wie sich diese Welt wirklich anfühlt: zwischen Nähe und klaren Grenzen, zwischen Freiheit und gesellschaftlichen Erwartungen. Wir sprechen darüber, was viele Menschen komplett falsch verstehen, warum Escort nichts mit einem „abgearbeiteten Skript“ zu tun hat und wie viel es eigentlich mit Präsenz, Chemie und echter Verbindung zu tun hat. Es geht um Begegnungen, die unter die Haut gehen, um ein Doppelleben, das sich irgendwann nicht mehr trennen lässt, und um die Frage, wie wir als Gesellschaft auf weibliche Lust, Selbstbestimmung und Geld im Kontext von Intimität schauen. Außerdem erzählt Mia, warum sie heute ihre eigene Escortagentur gegründet hat, was sie anders machen möchte und warum Vielfalt, Sicherheit und Transparenz für sie im Mittelpunkt stehen. Eine Folge über Intimität, Vorurteile und den Mut, den eigenen Weg zu gehen. Prefer the transcript? Find it here [https://lisaopel.substack.com/?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=substack_profile]. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com [yes@pleasepinchmehard.com] More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard [https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/]) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com [http://www.pleasepinchmehard.com]) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook [https://bit.ly/sex-workbook] for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! [https://amzn.to/3wn6P3T] on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com [http://www.mrs-opel.com] Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe [https://lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

(ENG) SHORT STORY: A sex doll + perimenopause.

(ENG): SHORT STORY: A Sex Doll, Some Lube, and a Lot of Questions. ✨ Want to watch the video? Watch it here: https://joy.club/lisayoutube [https://joy.club/lisayoutube] ✨ Want to read my full experience? Read it here (Sign-Up in JOYclub required): https://www.joyclub.com/en/magazin/male_sex_doll_test.html [https://www.joyclub.com/en/magazin/male_sex_doll_test.html] When JOYclub and Housedoll asked if I’d like to test a male sex doll, I was already in a place of questions. About sex. About visibility. About what midlife is supposed to feel like when you still want things. When you want to explore, want to connect, want to be left alone and deeply seen all at once. I said yes. Not as a stunt. Not for shock value. But because the idea of reclaiming pleasure without performance felt quietly radical. I wrote this story afterwards called Me, Myself and Apollo. It's fiction, but it came straight from the experience. A woman, alone, mid-hot flush, climbing on top of a silicone man with a detachable cock and no opinions. It was awkward. It was revealing. And in its own strange way, it was liberating. The doll didn’t talk. He didn’t rush me. He didn’t need anything from me. That stillness, that absence of needing to manage someone else’s experience, created space for mine. In that space, I noticed how much I’d been carrying. How much of my sexuality had been shaped around other people’s expectations. And how good it felt to stop asking for permission. The Vanishing Woman Isn’t Vanishing At All: Perimenopause, performance fatigue, and how sextech is changing the story There’s a narrative about women in midlife. That we disappear. That our desirability drops off. That we’re either settled down, or out of the game entirely. It’s rubbish, obviously. But it’s also powerful. You start to internalise it. Especially during perimenopause, when your body shifts gears and nothing feels reliable; not your sleep, not your moods, not your vagina. Your sense of self gets foggy. You ache more. You want different things. Sometimes you want nothing at all. And that, too, can feel like failure. But here’s the thing. Midlife isn’t a vanishing act. It’s a refocusing. A soft revolution. Women over 40 are reclaiming their time, their pleasure, and their right to want without it needing to be for someone else. That’s where sextech becomes more than novelty. It becomes a tool for agency. It’s not about replacing partners. It’s about creating space. For exploration. For awkwardness. For self-led pleasure without the pressure to be good at it. Or good for anyone else. And it’s happening. Quietly, steadily. In bedrooms and bathrooms and private tabs. A growing number of women are using sex toys not just to get off, but to get in. Into their bodies, their fantasies, their own unapologetic skin. I didn’t expect a sex doll to make me reflect on power, presence and perimenopause. But that’s what happened. So here’s an invitation.To listen. To watch. To read. To want what you want. Even if it’s just a bit of peace, a vibrator on the right setting, and a mirror that shows you back to yourself. Prefer the transcript? Find it here [https://lisaopel.substack.com/?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=substack_profile]. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com [yes@pleasepinchmehard.com] More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard [https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/]) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com [http://www.pleasepinchmehard.com]) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook [https://bit.ly/sex-workbook] for Singles & Couples: https://bit.ly/sex-workbook [https://bit.ly/sex-workbook] My book GIVE IT TO ME! [https://amzn.to/3wn6P3T] on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook: https://pleasepinchmehard.com/book-audio-give-it-to-me-lisa-opel/ [https://pleasepinchmehard.com/book-audio-give-it-to-me-lisa-opel/] My book SAVED IN NOTES... [https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8b] on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback): https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8b [https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8b] Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com [http://www.mrs-opel.com] JOYclub GRATIS Online Kurs "Langzeitbeziehungen" [https://pleasepinchmehard.com/joyclub-kurs-langzeitbeziehung/]:https://pleasepinchmehard.com/joyclub-kurs-langzeitbeziehung/ [https://pleasepinchmehard.com/joyclub-kurs-langzeitbeziehung/] Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe [https://lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

(DE) :: QUICKIE: Hello from the other side.

(DE): QUICKIE: Hello from the other side... oder eher: aus meinem kleinen Chaos aus Gedanken, Tabs und halbfertigen Ideen. So ein kleines „Ich lebe noch“ mit ein bisschen mehr Fleisch dran. Hier kommt eine Quickie-Folge. Es war hier ruhiger in letzter Zeit, ich weiß. Und nein, nicht weil nichts passiert ist. Eher, weil Dinge gerade nicht laut passieren. Mehr so im Hintergrund. Am Wachsen. Am Sortieren. Ich geb euch ein kleines Update. Woran ich arbeite. Was mich gerade beschäftigt. Was sich verschiebt. Ein paar Stichworte, damit ihr ein Gefühl bekommt: - Sprache & Lust: ein ziemlich großes, kollaboratives Projekt - mein Kurs „Find your sexual voice“ - viel Ausprobieren, viel Verwerfen, viel neu Denken - und irgendwo dazwischen… ein Roman, der mich liebevoll herausfordert Und dann diese Themen, die sich nicht so einfach in To-Dos packen lassen: - langsamer werden, obwohl alles voll ist - Nervensystem runterfahren, obwohl der Kopf gern schneller wäre - Vertrauen statt ständig kontrollieren - mehr Leben, weniger „wann ist endlich alles ruhig“ Vielleicht wird dieser Podcast auch genau dafür mehr Raum bekommen. Für das Unfertige, das Dazwischen, das, was ich auf Instagram noch nicht so richtig greifen kann. Mal schauen, wohin sich das entwickelt. Für jetzt ist es einfach ein kleines Lebenszeichen. Ein ehrliches Update. Ohne großen Plan. Wenn Du mit mir darüber reden magst: www.mrs-opel.com [http://www.mrs-opel.com] Prefer the transcript? Find it here [https://lisaopel.substack.com/?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=substack_profile]. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com [yes@pleasepinchmehard.com] More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard [https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/]) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com [http://www.pleasepinchmehard.com]) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook [https://bit.ly/sex-workbook] for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! [https://amzn.to/3wn6P3T] on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... [https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8b] and never sent: horny, grieving and more poems. Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com [http://www.mrs-opel.com] Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe [https://lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]