Teach Me to Father

Decisions in the Dark: 8 Pressure Points Every Father Faces

Barry examines how to make decisions under pressure, “in the dark,” defined as lacking present information. He contrasts cultural lies—real men decide quickly, don’t hesitate, don’t ask for help—with wisdom, counsel, prayer, and pausing. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-facebook] FS Instagram [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-insta] FS YouTube [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-youtube] Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 Decisions in the Dark 01:35 Pressure to Be Decisive 04:56 Fear and Perfectionism 07:37 Isolation and Going Alone 09:49 Purpose and Core Values 12:08 Stress and Decision Fatigue 15:10 Old Wounds and Shame 17:01 Relationship Dynamics 19:03 Temptation and Quick Relief 21:21 Checklist and Next Steps -- FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers. Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-web]

Dismantling Daily Devotionals Myths

Are your daily devotions a checklist? Or are they organic? Barry and Joel discuss building a consistent, fruit-bearing devotional life without religious box-checking. Translations: https://www.logos.com/grow/best-bible-translation/ BibleProject: https://bibleproject.com/ Bible App: https://www.youversion.com/bible-app Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-facebook] FS Instagram [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-insta] FS YouTube [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-youtube] Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 Devotional Rhythm Struggles 01:22 Bullets and Barbecue Recap 03:30 Brotherhood and Support 05:44 Accountability and Spirit 08:03 Journaling and Recording 09:53 Fig Tree and Fruit 11:46 Fruits and Self Control 15:33 From Discipline to Rhythm 20:20 Avoid Box Checking 24:28 Tools and Bible Choices 29:04 Where to Start Reading 29:19 Pick a Solid Translation 30:29 Four Words Framework 32:13 Growth Through Journaling 36:27 Hearing God vs Checklist 41:06 Pruning the Noise 45:09 Fruit Bearing and Gratitude 48:29 Transferring Faith to Kids 51:34 Organic Growth Guardrails 56:01 Starting Line and Closing -- FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers. Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-web]

Made in God's Image: The Original Design for Fatherhood

Men are created in God’s image. They don’t need to *build* an identity, but uncover what’s been buried. Barry digs into the broken image that leads to “father hunger." This drives men to seek identity through approval, achievement, addiction, religion, career, reputation, politics, or ministry. But what could true restoration look like? Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-facebook] FS Instagram [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-insta] FS YouTube [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-youtube] Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 Uncovering True Self 01:13 Made in Gods Image 03:42 Father Hunger and Identity 06:48 When Connection Breaks 08:06 Jesus the Perfect Image 11:38 Restoration Begins 12:47 Four Movements to Freedom 17:01 From Performance to Presence 19:20 Resources and Community 20:13 Closing and Sendoff -- FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers. Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-web]

Stop Posing: From Fake to Free Fatherhood

Barry confronts the problem of men “posing” as different versions of themselves to gain acceptance, admitting he did it for years and warning it damages the man’s heart and destroys trust with wives and kids. He describes four borrowed identities common among fatherless men. Are you one of them? Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-facebook] FS Instagram [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-insta] FS YouTube [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-youtube] Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 Why Fakes Trigger Me 00:38 Admitting I Was One 01:02 The Posing Problem 02:25 Where Posing Begins 03:37 Man In The Middle 05:22 Image Bearer Design 07:12 Four Borrowed Identities 08:22 Pretender And Faker 11:23 Chameleon And Two Lives 15:39 What Drives The Mask 19:04 Three Shifts To Change 22:02 Integrity Through Restoration 23:18 Get Help And Next Steps 24:33 Final Warning And Outro -- FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers. Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-web]

Are You Coachable?

Cut the pride. Coachability is essential for leadership in family, work, and community. Barry warns that being uncoachable—often driven by pride, ego, insecurity, and poor decision-making—creates blind spots, resists feedback, and damages influence. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-facebook] FS Instagram [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-insta] FS YouTube [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-youtube] Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 Why Coachability Matters 01:20 Leadership Starts With You 02:15 Downfalls of Being Uncoachable 04:33 Finding Coaches to Grow 05:19 Five C Feedback Loop 07:04 Correctable Without Defensiveness 11:04 Confrontable for Growth 15:08 Constancy Core Beliefs 17:11 Consistency and Habits 20:04 Practical Steps Listen Own Adjust 23:53 Final Challenge and Wrap Up -- FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers. Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website [https://fatherseekers.captivate.fm/fatherseekers-web]