Flourishing After Adversity

S2:E24 The Grief Map: How Naming What You're Feeling Moves You From Stuck to Moving Forward

The 6 Stages of Grief: Name What You’re Feeling and Move Through It Laura Mangum Broome explains how naming grief can reduce shame and help people move through loss, drawing from her experience of losing her son just before a scheduled double mastectomy while facing cancer. She clarifies that Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s five stages—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—are not linear or a checklist but a map people may revisit in any order. She defines what each stage can feel like, including risks like prolonged denial, misdirected anger, exhausting “what if” bargaining, and the difference between moving through grief-related depression versus drowning and needing professional support.  She adds David Kessler’s sixth stage, finding meaning, emphasizing it isn’t toxic positivity and can’t be rushed. She offers a journaling exercise to identify one’s current stage and what it needs, and reminds listeners there is no timeline for grief. 00:00 Why Grief Feels Confusing 00:43 Welcome and Free Resource 01:37 Laura’s Personal Loss Story 03:18 What the Stages Really Are 05:07 Stage 1 Denial 06:25 Stage 2 Anger 07:48 Stage 3 Bargaining 09:05 Stage 4 Depression 10:53 Stage 5 Acceptance 12:13 Stage 6 Finding Meaning 14:18 Why Naming Helps Healing 16:11 Journal Exercise for Today 17:40 Recap and Encouragement 19:07 Closing and Next Steps * Free Resource: Reframe the Spiral: 5 Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day: https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe [https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe] * iCope2Hope 3-Step Resilience Framework: https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap [https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap] * Website: iCope2Hope: From Hardship to Hope: https://www.icope2hope.com [https://www.icope2hope.com] * Move Beyond Adversity Blog: https://www.icope2hope.com/blog [https://www.icope2hope.com/blog] * Free Newsletter: Wednesday’s Resilient Recharge: https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter [https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter] * Schedule a free 15-minute Clarity Call with Laura: https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB [https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB]

S2:E23 The Three Letter Word That Can Change Your Life and It's Not Yes

The Power of “Yet”: Shifting from Fixed to Growth Mindset After Adversity Host Laura Mangum Broome explains how adding one word—“yet”—can shift limiting beliefs from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset, drawing on Carol Dweck’s research in Mindset. She shares how being repeatedly placed in jobs without training forced her into trial-and-error learning and later revealed she’d been using a growth mindset all along: “I don’t know how to do this yet.” She contrasts fixed mindset beliefs (abilities are set; failure proves inadequacy) with growth mindset beliefs (abilities develop; failure is feedback), and describes how “yet” keeps the brain engaged in problem-solving through neuroplasticity. She applies this to major life adversities she faced and offers three practical steps: notice “can’t” statements, add “yet,” and identify one small next step within 48 hours, plus a journaling assignment and a free coping resource. 00:00 The Power of Yet 00:35 Welcome and Free Resource 01:27 Thrown In Without Training 02:47 Discovering Growth Mindset 03:26 Fixed vs Growth Mindset 05:15 Add One Word Yet 06:30 Yet and Your Brain 08:12 Seeing Your Own Progress 09:09 Yet Through Real Adversity 10:22 Three Ways to Practice Yet 12:11 Your 48 Hour Assignment 12:58 Recap and Closing Encouragement 14:22 Outro and Call to Action * Free Resource: Reframe the Spiral: 5 Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day: https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe [https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe] * iCope2Hope 3-Step Resilience Framework: https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap [https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap] * Website: iCope2Hope: From Hardship to Hope: https://www.icope2hope.com [https://www.icope2hope.com] * Move Beyond Adversity Blog: https://www.icope2hope.com/blog [https://www.icope2hope.com/blog] * Free Newsletter: Wednesday’s Resilient Recharge: https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter [https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter] * Schedule a free 15-minute Clarity Call with Laura: https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB [https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB]

S2:E22 The Hardship Autopsy: How to Identify Necessary Endings and Move Forward

Necessary Endings: Use a Hardship Autopsy to Move Forward Laura Mangum Broome explains that after surviving hardship, people can stay stuck by carrying forward people, habits, environments, or patterns that no longer fit, calling these “necessary endings.” She introduces a “hardship autopsy” as a practical, non-blaming tool to gain clarity and move forward intentionally by journaling through three questions: what brought you to the situation (including ignored red flags), who or what is primarily involved (relationships, environments, habits, thought patterns), and what is in your control, influence, or out of your control using a three-column “control map.”  She adds resilience tips: do an energy audit after interactions, avoid making permanent decisions in temporary emotional states by giving yourself time to observe, and let your body’s signals guide you. She invites listeners to share the episode, visit iCope2Hope.com [https://www.icope2hope.com], and download the free “Reframe the Spiral” [https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe] guide. 00:00 Feeling Stuck After Hardship 01:12 Necessary Endings Explained 02:27 Hardship Autopsy Method 03:19 Question One Root Causes 04:36 Question Two Key Players 05:47 Question Three Control Map 07:35 Why Inventory Matters 08:41 Three Resilience Tips 10:37 Recap And Next Steps 11:49 Closing And Resources * Free Resource: Reframe the Spiral: 5 Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day: https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe [https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe] * iCope2Hope 3-Step Resilience Framework: https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap [https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap] * Website: iCope2Hope: From Hardship to Hope: https://www.icope2hope.com [https://www.icope2hope.com] * Move Beyond Adversity Blog: https://www.icope2hope.com/blog [https://www.icope2hope.com/blog] * Free Newsletter: Wednesday’s Resilient Recharge: https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter [https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter] Schedule a free 15-minute Clarity Call with Laura: https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB [https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB]

S2:E21 How to Know You're Truly Healing

Toxic Positivity vs. Post-Traumatic Growth: Are You Healing or Performing? Host Laura Mangum Broome opens with a wound metaphor to explain how forced optimism can cover unresolved pain, then introduces the Flourishing After Adversity podcast and a free resource, “Reframe the Spiral.” She describes how common phrases like “stay positive” can pressure people to bypass grief, leading to anxiety, numbness, and breakdowns, and shares her own experiences of bilateral breast cancer, chemotherapy-related heart damage, congestive heart failure, a heart transplant, her teenage son’s suicide, divorce, and her father’s passing.  She distinguishes toxic positivity (surface-level “I’m fine” bypassing) from post-traumatic growth (feeling what’s real and growing through pain), referencing Viktor Frankl and his quote about choosing one’s response. She offers four self-check questions and a brief journaling exercise to identify bypassed emotions and begin honest healing. 00:00 Wounds And Bandages 00:22 Podcast Welcome 01:11 Pressure To Stay Positive 02:05 When Positivity Turns Toxic 03:03 My Story Of Survival 03:51 Healing Or Managing Appearances 04:10 Toxic Positivity Vs Growth 05:15 Viktor Frankl And Meaning 06:50 Four Questions Check In 06:57 Bad Days Are Allowed 07:35 Processing Vs Performing 08:31 Changed Inside Not Highlights 09:12 Name What You Lost 09:55 When Your Brain Pushes Back 10:46 Three Prompt Exercise 11:34 Recap And Next Steps 13:02 Closing And Resources * Free Resource: Reframe the Spiral: 5 Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day: https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe [https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe] * iCope2Hope 3-Step Resilience Framework: https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap [https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap] * Website: iCope2Hope: From Hardship to Hope: https://www.icope2hope.com [https://www.icope2hope.com] * Move Beyond Adversity Blog: https://www.icope2hope.com/blog [https://www.icope2hope.com/blog] * Free Newsletter: Wednesday’s Resilient Recharge: https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter [https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter] Schedule a free 15-minute Clarity Call with Laura: https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB [https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB]

S2:E20 Victor, Not Victim: How to Reclaim Your Power in the Middle of Hard Times

From Victim to Victor: Reclaiming Agency After Adversity Host Laura Mangum Broome welcomes listeners to the Flourishing After Adversity podcast and shares a free guide, “Reframe the Spiral,” for coping with negative thoughts after setbacks. She explains that a victim mindset is a human coping response to pain but that staying there keeps focus on what was done to you and drains agency, while a victor mindset focuses on what you can do next by shifting from “Why me?” to “What is this asking of me?”  Drawing from her own experiences with bilateral breast cancer, chemo-related heart failure and heart transplant, her son’s suicide, divorce, and her father’s death, Laura offers three steps: name what happened and process it without rehearsing it, ask better questions centered on control, and give pain a purpose by serving others. She highlights Nick Vujicic as an example and provides journaling prompts and a 48-hour next-step challenge. 00:00 Feeling Powerless 01:11 Victim Mindset Explained 02:24 Laura Story Shift 03:29 Victim vs Victor 04:17 Nick Vujicic Example 05:45 Step 1 Name It 07:36 Step 2 Better Questions 08:17 Step 3 Purpose 09:11 Pushback and Small Steps 09:59 Exercise and Recap 11:37 Final Encouragement 12:06 Outro and Resources Nick Vujicic's Website: https://nickvujicic.com/ [https://nickvujicic.com] * Free Resource: Reframe the Spiral: 5 Quick Coping Strategies to Shift Negative Thoughts and Reclaim Your Day: https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe [https://www.icope2hope.com/reframe] * iCope2Hope 3-Step Resilience Framework: https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap [https://bit.ly/FrameworkRoadmap] * Website: iCope2Hope: From Hardship to Hope: https://www.icope2hope.com [https://www.icope2hope.com] * Move Beyond Adversity Blog: https://www.icope2hope.com/blog [https://www.icope2hope.com/blog] * Free Newsletter: Wednesday’s Resilient Recharge: https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter [https://www.icope2hope.com/newsletter] Schedule a free 15-minute Clarity Call with Laura: https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB [https://bit.ly/15mincallLMB]