Friendships Unplugged

Jess: Navigating Loneliness and making Connections

On this episode, host Iris interviews Jess, a listener who responded to a social media call for people who struggle with loneliness. Jess describes how ending a 14-year friendship left her spiraling, lonely, and without her “person,” though loneliness has been intermittent throughout her life. She says she is generally liked and can easily socialize, but connections rarely deepen beyond acquaintances, and she feels forgettable despite strong values, directness, and political passion. They discuss the difference between meeting people and maintaining friendships, the role of matching values, intentional effort, and vulnerability, including not turning down invitations and directly asking to pursue friendship. Jess recounts the lack of closure when her former best friend unfriended her and avoided conflict, and she reflects on choosing peace while still craving more human connection.

Rogier: intention and effort in friendships

Iris  interviews her friend Rogier, who flew from the Netherlands to Switzerland especially to record the podcast episode. They recount meeting as colleagues at a technology company and becoming friends after Iris drove to Austria to meet Rogier’s wife and newborn, leading to a tradition of family visits. Rogier values friendships that bring energy, growth, new perspectives, and depth beyond superficial conversation, and says friendships often fade when there isn’t enough shared direction. They discuss trust-building, loneliness arising from busyness and fear of vulnerability, and the meaninglessness of lacking connection, with examples from childhood social openness and Rogier’s Kilimanjaro trip. Rogier advises finding people through activities and sustaining bonds through intentional effort and small gestures, while balancing family and friendships.

Fiona: asking for what you need in a friendship

In this episode of 'Friendships Unplugged,' Fiona and Iris explore the dynamics of adult friendships, starting with their story of meeting as colleagues in Switzerland. Despite initial disagreements and personality differences, their mutual respect and dedication to their work fostered a lasting friendship. The conversation touches on the challenges and rewards of maintaining meaningful relationships, especially during times of personal growth and hardship. Fiona recounts their shared experiences, such as bonding over common interests and supporting each other during COVID-19 isolation. They discuss the importance of vulnerability, emotional intelligence, and intentionality in building deep connections. Fiona also shares practical advice for those struggling with loneliness, emphasizing the power of reaching out to others and the significance of small gestures like hugs. The episode highlights the value of diverse friendships across gender and cultural lines in enhancing understanding and support systems.

Manu: sister from another mister

In this lively episode of 'Friendships Unplugged,' the host welcomes Manu, one of her oldest and closest friends, to delve into their 26-year-long friendship. They recount hilarious and heartwarming memories, like meeting on a train, stealing a Christmas tree for a party, and facing life’s ups and downs together. Manu shares her perspective on what makes a friendship last, emphasizing mutual effort, kindness, and listening to your gut. The host and Manu discuss how they've learned from each other over the years—like setting boundaries and embracing directness—and offer advice for those feeling lonely or looking to deepen their connections. With stories that range from the mundane to the outrageous, this episode is a testament to the joy and value of true friendship.

Neil: a friendship tale about dark humour, singing cowboys and showing up for one another

In this episode of Friendships Unplugged, Iris and Neil dive deep into what friendship really means for them in todays world. Over laughter and honest reflection, they unpack stories from their own decade-long friendship — from the moments that tested them to the ones that brought them closer. Together, they explore why genuine connection takes intention, how differences can strengthen bonds, and why social media often leaves us feeling more isolated than inspired. They also tackle big questions about empathy, political divides, and what it really takes to bridge them. Neil shares down-to-earth tips for finding your tribe — joining groups, taking small risks, and letting go of the pressure to “have it all figured out.” The episode ends on a heartfelt note: a reminder that friendship isn’t found in algorithms or perfect timing — it’s built in real moments, with real people, who show up.