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Relearning Love: The Relationship Skills Nobody Taught You - with Eri Kardos | #14

“Healthy relationships are not conflict-free relationships. They are relationships that know how to repair.”  What if the biggest relationship struggles you experience today… are rooted in patterns you learned before the age of 7? In this deeply honest and eye-opening conversation, I sit down with internationally acclaimed relationship expert, bestselling author, TEDx speaker, and founder of Relearn Love, Eri Kardos, to explore the relationship skills most of us were never taught: emotional safety, conflict repair, conscious communication, nervous system awareness, intimacy, and how to stop repeating the same painful cycles in love.  We dive into: *  Why couples keep having the same fights * The hidden patterns underneath conflict * How childhood conditioning shapes adult relationships * Emotional triggers, nervous system safety & repair * Walking on eggshells in relationships * Conscious communication tools that actually work * Why your sex life reflects your communication patterns * The “sandbox vs bench” analogy for navigating triggers * The importance of proactive relationship check-ins * How to create deeper intimacy without pressure * The “Love Lab” practice to transform connection & pleasure One of my favorite parts of this episode is when Eri explains that most couples are trying to solve the problem before creating emotional safety first and how learning to repair instead of react can completely change your relationship.  We also talk about: *  conscious marriage & yearly relationship renewals  *  how triggers show up in friendships, family, leadership & business  *  why healthy love is a learnable skill  *  and how to stop making your partner “the enemy.”  If you’ve ever: *  struggled to express your truth  *  feared conflict  *  felt emotionally unsafe  *  repeated the same relationship patterns  *  walked on eggshells  *  wanted deeper intimacy & connection  *  or wondered why love can feel so hard... …this episode is going to shift something in you. Connect with Eri Kardos * Website: https://www.relearnlove.com * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relearnlove/  * Take Eri's free quiz: www.RelearnLove.com/quiz * Message Eri Kardos via her Instagram to get 50% off a 1:1 session to decode your pattern and get clarity on how to break the pattern. Let’s Stay Connected → Instagram: @shari.vandecraen [https://www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen/] → Website: www.sharivandecraen.com ⭐️ If You Loved This Episode… Please take 60 seconds to leave a 5-star rating and review. It helps more and more people find this powerful work and reclaim their sensuality. Thank you for being here. Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

Masturbation May: How Self-Pleasure Transforms Your Sex Life

“The way you make love to yourself is the way you make love to others.” What if the way you’ve been experiencing pleasure… is only scratching the surface? Masturbation May is your invitation to completely rewrite the way you relate to pleasure. In this raw solo episode, I share how rushed, hidden self-pleasure patterns shape your entire sex life—and how to shift into slow, embodied, deeply fulfilling experiences that transform how you show up with lovers. Here’s the reality about masturbation: Most of us learned self-pleasure in secrecy: fast, quiet and goal-oriented. And without realizing it we bring those exact same patterns into our sex lives. In this episode, I share my personal journey: from rushing, and disconnected self-pleasure to slow, embodied, deeply fulfilling experiences and how this shift completely transformed the way I show up as a lover. This is your invitation to move beyond performance and into real pleasure. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: *  Why the way you touch yourself directly impacts your sex life  *  How early self-pleasure patterns shape intimacy and connection  *  The difference between functional “masturbation” and embodied self-pleasure  *  How to shift from chasing orgasm to experiencing full-body pleasure  *  The role of breath, sound, and movement in expanding sensation  *  Why your entire body—not just your genitals—is a source of pleasure  *  How understanding your “lover type” changes your experience of intimacy  *  What it means to actively receive pleasure (instead of just “lying there”) Go Deeper * Discover your unique pleasure style via this quiz: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/69007dca95bebc00150dc3db [https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/69007dca95bebc00150dc3db] * Explore my offers via www.sharivandecraen.com If this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear from you. Send me a DM on Instagram @shari.vandecraen [https://www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen/] or share this episode with someone who needs to hear this. And if you loved it: don’t forget to leave a review, love. xoxo Your Pleasure Expert Shari Van de Craen 💋 Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

The True Power of Your Genitals (That No One Talks About) - with Simon Paul Sutton | #12

What if your genitals were never just physical, but a gateway to deeper connection, aliveness, and even consciousness? In this episode, I sit down with Simon Paul Sutton [https://www.instagram.com/simonpaulsutton/] to explore the true power of being comfortable with your own sexual center and the power of self pleasure. Because instead of feeling, we’ve been conditioned to perform in the bedroom. This conversation is a deep dive into what happens when you move beyond technique, beyond pressure, and start relating to your body as something alive, intelligent, and deeply powerful. I don’t just guide this conversation. I also open up about my own experiences with dating, vulnerability, and the moments where I catch myself disconnecting from my body. In This Episode, We Explore: *  Why your genitals are not just physical, but an access point to deeper awareness and connection *  The difference between performance-based intimacy vs. embodied intimacy *  How conditioning and shame disconnect you from your natural pleasure response *  The overlooked power of softness, slowness, and subtle sensation *  Why many people are chasing intensity instead of true aliveness *  The pressure on men to perform—and how it impacts both partners  *  How your body communicates through sensation, energy, and presence *  Why real intimacy starts with honest communication and emotional safety *  The role of your inner patterns (inner girl/boy) in intimacy and dating  * "Shifting Awareness" practice starting as of 01:01:11 Personal Shares From Me In this Episode: *  My own experience of dating and going into my head instead of my body *  The moment of realizing: “There’s attraction… but no safety” *  How lack of clarity creates tension and disconnection in intimacy *  The courage it takes to ask: “What is this actually?” *  My growing compassion for men and the pressure they carry to perform *  Why I believe true intimacy requires both safety + self-expression Key Takeaways *  Your body is not a tool—it’s an intelligent system of sensation and awareness *  Pleasure expands when you shift from doing → feeling *  The real power of your genitals lies in connection, not performance *  Slowness and presence unlock levels of intimacy most people never reach  *  Communication is what allows your body to fully relax and open 🔗 Connect with Simon Paul Sutton: * Follow Simon on Instagram: @simonpaulsutton [https://www.instagram.com/simonpaulsutton/] * Check out all of his Events here: https://simonpaulsutton.com/ [https://simonpaulsutton.com/] * Simon's retreats and events: https://nakedsoul.life/ [https://nakedsoul.life/] Let’s Stay Connected → Instagram: @shari.vandecraen [https://www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen/] → Website: www.sharivandecraen.com ⭐️ If You Loved This Episode… Please take 60 seconds to leave a 5-star rating and review. It helps more and more people find this powerful work and reclaim their sensuality. Thank you for being here. Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

From Pleasing to Pleasure: How to Expand Your Erotic Range | #11

You don’t need to fix your sex life — you just need to expand it.  In this episode, Shari dives into what it really means to broaden your sexual range: moving from performance and people-pleasing into authentic exploration, curiosity, and connection. She shares vulnerable personal stories (including her journey with anal and kink) and offers tangible tools to communicate, de-armor shame, and turn on curiosity as your compass.  🎧 The free Cosmic Menu of Pleasure is available around the 7th of November. Drop me a DM on Instagram with "MENU" or email me on hello@sharivandecraen.com to be the first one to receive it. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: 💋 The real reason many women feel “numb” or disconnected from desire 💋 Why curiosity is more powerful than confidence in bed 💋 How communication creates deeper erotic safety 💋 A free tool — The Cosmic Menu of Pleasure — to map your desires Connect with me on Instagram: @shari.vandecraen Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

How to Be an Epic Lover — It Starts Long Before the Bedroom | #10

Most people think being a better lover means learning new positions, lasting longer, or performing better. But the truth? Epic lovemaking starts long before you’re naked. In this solo episode, Shari takes you back to a moment that changed everything — a conversation in a sun-soaked jungle cabin in Nicaragua that sparked the very idea for this podcast.  When a fellow traveler asked her, “What would you tell me if I wanted to be a better lover?” … she realized it’s not about technique. It’s about connection — with yourself, your body, and the person in front of you. Inside this juicy, heart-opening episode, you’ll learn:  ✨ Why being an epic lover begins with how you love yourself ✨ The 5 bodies that come together during true intimacy — physical, mental, emotional, energetic, and spiritual ✨ How to communicate your desires and create emotional safety in bed ✨ The secret to rewiring shame around your genitals and feeling confident in your pleasure ✨ Why following the path of pleasure leads to more connection, deeper orgasms, and pure embodiment This isn’t about performance. It’s about presence.  It’s about bringing your full self — body, heart, and energy — into every moment of intimacy. So if you’ve ever wondered how to become a more connected, magnetic, and unforgettable lover… this episode is your invitation to slow down, feel more, and fall back in love with your own body. --- LINKS I have 2 coaching opportunities open starting as of mid-November: send me an email with your desire to hello@sharivandecraen.com and let's see if there is a match. If you're interested in the course on How to Pleasure the Penis, click here: https://sharivandecraen.plugandpay.nl/checkout/secrets-of-sensual-touch [https://sharivandecraen.plugandpay.nl/checkout/secrets-of-sensual-touch] --- Connect with Shari Follow @shari.vandecraen on Instagram for sensual tools, embodiment practices, and weekly turn-on inspo.  Listen to more episodes, explore workshops, and download your pleasure guides at → www.sharivandecraen.com Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com