But First Me

LOSS is part of life (Autumn Equinox Edit) Just like the trees letting go of leaves we learn to grow through GRIEF

Grab our FREE resources from this season here ⁠⁠https://www.maryellensaha.com/free⁠⁠ [https://www.maryellensaha.com/free] MaryEllen grieves openly for her dead parents. Anirban finds purpose in his feelings of LOSS. Anirban talks about finding his purpose after learning to cope with the deaths of two friends. He explores how his Bengali culture embraces grieving and how the stress of these losses led him to follow the path of his Indian ancestors to train in Vedic meditation. We dissect the bad habit of pretending, whether at work or in the street, that we don't feel yearning and longing after a bereavement or a bad breakup. We talk about how Irish culture embraces the storytelling element of loss and how it has healed Mary Ellen. She shares her vulnerability, her tears and the self-growth she has experienced through journaling and mediating since both her parents have died. Mary Ellen coaches us on how it's a happiness habit to sit with uncomfortable feelings like grief. She explores our daily occurrences of loss and how we can reduce our stress if we permit ourselves to feel loss regularly. She highlights how loss occurs often in many ways, big and small and not just when a loved one dies. It includes divorce, job loss and redundancy. She embraces loss as normal and not something we can avoid. She guides us to see it’s human to yearn for what we don't have. RESOURCES We believe in your emotional potential so we're sharing our FREE Feelings Cheat Sheet on hapits.com and on our Instagram hapits_com. We can all have better relationships and more purpose if we practice embracing ALL feelings. If we FEEL IT TO REVEAL IT, emotional flexibility can become one of our happiness habits. We strongly encourage you to try out the happiness habit of labeling and journaling your feelings. Please do let us know how you get on; we'd love to hear from you. Just email us at here@futrnow.org. You can also purchase our Hapits® Online Course, which includes our coaching cards used throughout this podcast; https://hapits.com/buy_hapits/ BOOK etc. Grieving Mindfully by Sameet Kumar. Atlas of the Heart by Brène Brown

I do not want what I haven’t got. ENVY and our values.

Grab our FREE resources from this season here ⁠⁠https://www.maryellensaha.com/free⁠⁠ [https://www.maryellensaha.com/free] Like the title of the Sinead O’Connor album - how can we all practice “I do not want what I have not got”? This week’s podcast covers how comparison is truly the thief of joy. Anirban sharing why he feels JEALOUS. He rides the waves of online lows and screen time highs in the age of ENVY. Where does green with envy come from? How is feeling jealous different than feeling envy? MaryEllen feels envious Anirban’s dad’s birthday celebrations now her own has died. Showing how grief ambushes can surprise us at any time. We share our stories about comparison on socials in our crazy over-connected, over-sharing, 24/7 attention economy. We discuss how accepting these feelings can help us to grow, and take action to change, rather than lead us to feeling guilty about partaking in one of seven deadly sins! The antidote to envy is what? Of course with all the usual Bengali flavour and Irish Gaeilge wise words

Our ANGER feels like 50 shades of red. What’s the use of our emotional rage or silent frustrations?

Grab our FREE resources from this season here ⁠⁠https://www.maryellensaha.com/free⁠⁠ [https://www.maryellensaha.com/free] We cross-examine feeling cross about not putting our own happiness first. Anirban talks about how he was taught not to make a fuss, even if he feels vexed about racial injustice. He practices quietize meditation to cope better and connect to his purpose. He shares how learning this life skill has been a lifesaver in combating his parenting stress. A valuable use of our screen time has been watching the excellent Pixar film Inside Out. Like their Anger character, we are often ablaze with relationship and family stress. We also share our lived experiences when others have crossed our boundaries. Mary Ellen questions whether hyper-aggressive male chefs Carmy & Ritchie in the TV show The Bear are a healthy representation of anger or just a bad habit. She coaches on how we can ACE our anger to combat the irritations of unequal emotional labour at work and at home and our feelings of resentment. RESOURCES We believe in your emotional potential so we're sharing our FREE Feelings Cheat Sheet on hapits.com and on our Instagram hapits_com. We can all have better relationships and more purpose if we practice embracing ALL feelings. If we FEEL IT TO REVEAL IT, emotional flexibility can become one of our happiness habits. We strongly encourage you to try out the happiness habit of labeling and journaling your feelings. Please do let us know how you get on; we'd love to hear from you. Just email us at here@futrnow.org. You can also purchase our Hapits® Online Course, which includes our coaching cards used throughout this podcast; https://hapits.com/buy_hapits/ BOOKS etc. Emotional Rollercoaster by Claudia Hammond. Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown Fix The System: Not The Women by Laura Bates CORRECTION: Psychologist Sandi Mann found that employees reported hiding their true feelings and faking emotions in about 60% of workplace communications.

Season 2 TRAILER But First Me

OK we've think we've finally got our title sorted....! Find out what we're going to be diving into this season! Grab our FREE resources from this season here ⁠https://www.maryellensaha.com/free⁠ [https://www.maryellensaha.com/free]

CALM in a car crash thanks to meditation! We shares stories about feeling serene in LA traffic.

Grab our FREE resources from this link https://www.maryellensaha.com/free [https://www.maryellensaha.com/free] This week we explore the feeling of serenity.