#8 Dr Teyhou Smyth: Boundaries, Burnout and The Contradiction of Selfishness
In this episode of I’m Fine: The Truth Behind the Smile, Jayne Ellis is joined by mental health professional and licensed counsellor Dr Teyhou Smyth for a powerful conversation about burnout, emotional exhaustion, boundaries and the pressure so many people feel to keep saying “I’m fine” when they’re anything but.
Dr Smyth opens up about her journey into mental health, explaining how she realised her earlier careers lacked the depth and human connection she was searching for. Now teaching at Pepperdine University in California while supervising new clinicians entering the profession, she speaks passionately about supporting the next generation of therapists - especially students navigating the isolation of online learning without the mentorship, community and support systems previous generations relied on.
Jayne and Dr Smyth also discuss the emotional toll of helping professions, the importance of boundaries and the reality of being constantly perceived as “the person who helps everyone else.”
Together they explore modern overwhelm, trauma dumping, family dynamics, and the growing need for genuine emotional support in a world where everyone seems too busy to truly connect.
The episode also tackles why so many people default to saying “I’m fine,” even when they’re struggling. Dr Smyth highlights how men in particular are often conditioned to suppress emotion and avoid vulnerability - something she says can later manifest in addiction, burnout and mental health crises when feelings remain unspoken for too long.
The conversation takes an unexpected turn when Jayne introduces the phrase “responsible selfishness” - a term Dr Smyth says initially sounded contradictory, yet believes captures something deeply important about self-care, boundaries, and emotional survival in today’s world.
This honest and insightful episode shines a light on why protecting your own wellbeing is not selfish at all - it’s necessary.
About Dr Teyhou Smyth
Working at the intersection of mental health, creativity and performance, Dr. Teyhou Smyth specialises in relationships and attachment issues.
Using a unique blended approach of Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), with the emphasis on an attachment-based model, she helps clients to deepen emotional awareness and improve their relational dynamics with others.
Originally from the United Kingdom, Dr. Smyth brings an international perspective. She earned her B.A. in Psychology from the University of Southern California, completed an M.A. in Sociology at Goldsmiths, University of London, earned a second Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy from the California School of Professional Psychology, and holds a Doctorate in Pedagogical Sciences.
Dr. Smyth helps clients rediscover balance, authenticity and joy so they can become the best version of themselves. Her philosophy is simple: when you feel grounded, connected and self-aware, you gain the clarity and insight that naturally enrich every aspect of your life.
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