In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex (ft. Ian Kerner)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithalexa/]) sits down with sex therapist and author Ian Kerner [https://www.iankerner.com] to break down what’s really going on in your sex life, starting with one simple question: “So tell me about the last time you had sex.” From there, they unpack the patterns most couples fall into and why sex often becomes routine, disconnected, or unsatisfying over time. This episode dives into the hidden dynamics behind desire, communication, and intimacy and how to actually fix them. They cover: * sex scripts and why most people follow the same predictable pattern * spontaneous vs responsive desire and why mismatched libidos happen * why initiation often fails (and creates rejection cycles) * obligation sex vs genuinely wanting it * the role of foreplay, arousal, and why rushing to penetration backfires * the orgasm gap and importance of clitoral stimulation * why couples stop prioritizing sex in long-term relationships * communication struggles and how to actually say what you want * turning complaints into clear desires * building anticipation, tension, and erotic connection * practical tools like the “willingness window” * how to create better sex through intention, not just chemistry

Disabled, Kinky & Hilarious (ft. Tina Friml)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithalexa/]) gets in bed with comedian Tina Friml [https://www.instagram.com/tinafriml/] to talk about: * Growing up with cerebral palsy and dating insecurities * Becoming a successful comedian even without a drivers license  * Bullying around desirability and sex * Having sex for the first time at 26 * Slow burn vs instant chemistry in dating * Navigating ambiguity and attraction * Making dates go to her comedy shows * Using comedy to express kinks and boundaries * Bad sex due to lack of communication/understanding * Polyamory vs monogamy experiences * Sex parties and exploration * Discovering a love for restraint and being tied up (Shibari) * Sex toys and accessibility issues * Misconceptions about disabled people being non-sexual * Emotional labor of making others comfortable * Rejection and people avoiding honesty * Green flags in dating disabled people Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2615-alexa [https://5ae06f57-73d3-4314-974d-0bc34569e2bc.pipedrive.email/c/zyrnq8mqz4/j4n52p6e54/jkq32qjz46/4?redirectUrl=https%3A%2F%2Fbeduc.at%2Fpd2615-alexa&hash=fjL1fF85CeWYG209_b4KAKQhuZMXHCvw8KaqUe6oMwk]

The Future of Sex, Post-Nut Clarity & Kink Curiosity (ft. Hawthorne)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithalexa/]) gets in bed with kink performer, educator, and co-founder of Hit Me Up [https://www.instagram.com/hitmeupnycity/], Hawthorne [https://www.instagram.com/hawthornenewyork/], to talk about the future of sex, switches, kink exploration, nipple clamps, and the very real phenomenon of post-nut clarity. We get into how sex parties are evolving beyond just hooking up, and why community might be the most important part of modern sexuality. From mixers and workshops to co-working spaces (yes, really), we explore how people are using these environments to build real connections, not just get laid. We also talk about: * Why community comes before sex (and how that changes everything) * How kink and non-monogamy have become more visible * The rise of switches and why rigid dom/sub roles are fading * What people still get wrong about power dynamics * Post-nut clarity, what actually happens psychologically and physically after orgasm, and why so many people completely drop the ball right after they come * Why private orgies > big parties (sometimes) * How to approach people at events without being weird * The reality of running a sex party business Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beducate.me/pd2610-alexa [https://5ae06f57-73d3-4314-974d-0bc34569e2bc.pipedrive.email/c/zyrnq8mqz4/j4n52p6e54/x42xr6m2yq/3?redirectUrl=https%3A%2F%2Fbeducate.me%2Fpd2610-alexa&hash=t5u_JjjXmP6QM-vhrmH_MFnPm15Mp0s3ZeEZ1D0-j8w]

Why You Feel Disconnected From Your Partner (ft. Gaby Balsells)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithalexa/]) gets in bed with sex therapist and relationship coach Gaby Balsells [https://www.instagram.com/gabybalsells/] to talk about emotional connection: what it actually means, why it matters, and how it directly impacts your sex life. From feeling “seen, heard, and safe” to understanding why some people need emotional connection before sex (and others after), this episode breaks down the real dynamics behind intimacy, desire, and long-term connection. Alexa and Gaby explore how disconnection happens  (even in good relationships) and how couples can rebuild it through communication, attunement, and intentional effort. They also unpack why relying on your partner as your only emotional outlet can kill attraction, and how having a “menu” of support systems actually strengthens your relationship. In this episode, we cover: * What emotional connection actually means * Emotional vs physical connection and how they influence each other * Why some people need sex to feel emotionally connected * Why emotional safety is the foundation for intimacy * Reconnecting after a fight (without forcing sex) * Meeting your partner in the middle instead of rejecting bids for connection * Expanding your “menu” of emotional support beyond your partner * Why relying on your partner for everything kills attraction * How to feel connected again when life gets busy * Weekly check-ins and “heart to heart” conversations * The importance of non-sexual touch * Appreciation, praise, and feeling seen in relationships * Creating novelty (why hotel sex hits different) * Why good sex doesn’t equal emotional connection * Resentment as the biggest relationship killer * One-sided effort and what to do when your partner isn’t trying * “We accept the love we think we deserve” * Outgrowing relationships and evolving needs * How to know if a relationship is worth saving * Dating tips to assess emotional compatibility early * Why safety is essential — even in casual sex * Attunement: the sexiest relationship skill Thank you to the best waterproof sex blanket in the market,  Splash Blanket [https://splashblanket.us/discount/ALEXA?redirect=%2Fcollections%2Fshop-all] for keeping me and my guests dry and cozy ◡̈

How Important Is It to Be Funny in a Relationship? (ft. Billy Procida)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithalexa/]) gets in bed with comedian, podcaster, and host of The Manwhore Podcast, Billy Procida [https://www.instagram.com/billyprocidajr/], to talk about humor in dating and relationships and why so many men feel the need to be the funniest person you’ve ever met. From prank culture to competitive humor between partners, Billy and Alexa unpack the difference between being funny, being fun, and trying way too hard. They discuss why some people struggle to accept being the “joke receiver,” why men can feel threatened by funny women, and why humor can help smooth conflict. In this episode we cover: * Why humor matters in relationships * The difference between being funny vs being fun * Why trying to be funny often backfires * Men feeling pressure to be the funniest person in the room * Why some men get uncomfortable when women are funnier * Humor competition in dating * The role of banter and shared humor styles * Why prank humor often crosses the line * Accepting that you might not be the funny one * Humor as a tool to diffuse conflict * Different types of humor compatibility * Why forcing jokes is unattractive * Humor as part of flirting and connection * Why being playful may matter more than being funny * The pressure comedians face in dating * Dating when humor is part of your identity Thank you to the best waterproof sex blanket in the market,  Splash Blanket [https://splashblanket.us/discount/ALEXA?redirect=%2Fcollections%2Fshop-all] for keeping me and my guests dry and cozy ◡̈  Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beducate.me/pd2610-alexa [https://5ae06f57-73d3-4314-974d-0bc34569e2bc.pipedrive.email/c/zyrnq8mqz4/j4n52p6e54/x42xr6m2yq/3?redirectUrl=https%3A%2F%2Fbeducate.me%2Fpd2610-alexa&hash=t5u_JjjXmP6QM-vhrmH_MFnPm15Mp0s3ZeEZ1D0-j8w]