Inner Peacemaker Parent Podcast

Ep 51: Feeling Guilt for Being a Hypocrite

This past Sunday, in my head, I unkindly judged somebody for something they chose NOT to do. And then a few hours later, I felt and did the VERY thing that I was judgmental about!!   I've always thought moments like this meant I was a hypocrite. The Greek root meaning of the word "hypocrite" translates to “stage actor” or “pretender.” Dale Renlund says if I am striving to do good, then I'm actually NOT a hypocrite. Sooo, there's hope for me and anyone else who might have moments like this!  I felt some guilt inside of me rising up. I knew I could have chosen to beat myself up internally; I could have stayed in guilt and some shame. But I've learned that doesn't help me change.  I now choose to be super kind to myself, say sorry to God for judging one of His kids, and then learn from it. Feeling guilt now triggers a chance to "Be Still" with God! I now see guilt as an awesome gift.   So much empathy and love coming my way to you if you ever feel this way at times.

Ep50: What I Forgot about Being a “First Responder” for God

I had kind of a humbling experience going back and forth wondering if I had "received personal revelation," then not understanding the timing, and now what I've learned from it. Feeling grateful to be helped with a story from a 7 year-old and a thought about first responders; I needed these reminders as part of my journey to keep learning line upon line about this topic of personal revelation.

Ep49:“Pros of Seeing the Glass Half-Full AND Half-Empty”

It's ok if you don't agree with me on today's topic; honestly, I didn't agree with it for years when I first heard it! But now it's easily one of my most influential mental health tools to feel more inner peace about the good AND hard moments, and to feel more empathy & kindness when others are going through a half-empty kind of day. It's all part of the same glass. It's all part of His plan. Ok. I got this. Just one half-empty AND half-full day at a time. You got this.  P.s. God always loves you even in the half-full or half-empty kind of moments.

Ep 48: “Are You Using the GiftS of Music for You & Your Kids?”

I didn't remember this story of “when Saul was troubled with an evil spirit, David played for him with his harp and Saul was refreshed and the evil spirit departed" (see 1 Samuel 16:23) (Ezra Taft Benson, "Do Not Despair," Ensign 16 [October 1986]: 5).  I love that is included in the Bible! There are so many awesome gifts of music!!  This episode was really so much fun to write as I reflected on an experience during my grandfathers funeral, as well as a youth conference lesson showing a clip from Jurassic Park, moments of gaining testimony in myself and in my teenager, how my daughter listened to a song that made her "feel strong" inside,  learning about parts of the brain that get activated with music, and more. I really enjoyed and needed the reminder of how powerful this free, easy-to-use tool is and how MANY giftS it can bring.  Don't have time to listen? I still got you! Here's one quote, then a couple ideas to consider implementing:  One gift of music includes that “we [can] get nearer to the Lord through music than perhaps through any other thing except prayer" (President J. Reuben Clark Jr., in Conference Report, Oct. 1936, 11).  A piece of advice I was given my baby shower from the eldest (and wisest) in the room, wrote down on her 3x5 card for me to remember this counsel: "Sing to your kids at night."  Have any older kids that are past that stage? Me too! One thing we can do is to put fun music on when you clean or are in the car together. Or you can share some of your favorite songs so when they hear it later in life, they'll think of you when they hear those songs.  You got this, inner peacemaker! One messy, wonderful day at a time!

Ep47: Daily Bread to Help Us More Joyfully “Watch” for the “Bridegroom”

“…Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring worries of its own. Today’s trouble is enough for today" (Matthew 6:34, NRSV).  I appreciated hearing a vulnerable, open story of an apostle's worries & challenge in a financial experience & what he learned about sometimes taking life just one day at a time.  I'm excited to also share with you a joyful moment at the airport that ties into the Bible story of the wedding feast.