It's Not Just Me

Why am I hard to understand?

In our debut episode, we ask a deeply human question: Why am I hard to understand? From childhood memories of feeling unseen by parents, to the unspoken frustrations in friendships and romantic relationships, Magda and Komal share raw, personal stories about language barriers, cultural transitions, self-esteem struggles, and the lifelong search for connection. We explore: * How early family dynamics shape our communication styles * Why cultural shifts, neurodiversity, and personality traits can make connection harder * The difference between being “heard” and being “understood” * How societal expectations can override self-discovery * Practical tools to communicate more clearly and compassionately—both with others and ourselves This isn’t about finding a quick fix. It’s about uncovering the roots of why we sometimes feel unseen, and learning how to build bridges toward deeper understanding. BOOKS WE RECOMMEND AS FURTHER READING The Art of Thinking Clearly – Rolf Dobelli An eye-opening guide to cognitive biases—mental shortcuts that shape how we interpret the world. Dobelli challenges us to actively seek opposing viewpoints, so we can see reality more clearly rather than just reinforcing what we already believe. Atlas of the Heart – Brené Brown A powerful map of 87 distinct human emotions and experiences. Brown shows how naming our feelings precisely can foster empathy, connection, and resilience. The 5 Love Languages – Gary Chapman Love is often expressed—and felt—in five main “languages.” Chapman explains how understanding your partner’s primary language can transform relationships and reduce misunderstandings. Conversational Intelligence – Judith E. Glaser A deep dive into how conversations literally shape brain chemistry, either building trust and collaboration or triggering fear and defensiveness. Glaser offers tools for shifting from “power over” to “power with.” If you’ve ever felt like you’re speaking, but no one really hears you—this episode is for you. If you like this podcast please subscribe, review and share it with others. You can also join us on Instagram at @itsnotjustmepodcast [instagram.com/itsnotjustmepodcast]. We're also on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL-YnHUNjxiurO17zUUmpWCwQOuQ03NvsI], where you can watch the podcast recording as a video. We really appreciate your support!