On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Dr. Maya Shankar: Does Change Make You Feel Lost Or Uncertain? (Use THIS Framework To Find Direction Again and Use Change to Upgrade Your Life!)

We often think change will make sense once we get to the other side, but what if the real work of change is learning how to stay present in the uncertainty itself? Today, Jay sits down with cognitive scientist and author Dr. Maya Shankar to explore why unexpected change feels so threatening, and why losing what we thought our life would look like can feel like losing ourselves. From a career-ending injury early in her life to deeply personal losses later on, Maya reflects on how life’s unexpected turns can quietly reshape how we see ourselves, our worth, and our place in the world. Maya explains that one of the biggest mistakes we make during change is tying our self-worth to roles, titles, or outcomes. When those fall away, it can feel deeply destabilizing. Instead, she invites us to root our identity in something more stable: our “why.” The deeper reasons behind what we love—connection, service, growth, creativity. When we stay connected to those, we can move through change without losing ourselves. Jay reflects on how often we seek external validation and why redefining success during loss is essential for resilience. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Handle Change You Didn’t Choose How to Anchor Your Self-Worth Beyond External Success How to Find Your “Why” When Life Falls Apart How to Rebuild Yourself After a Dream Ends How to Grow into the Person Change Is Shaping You To Be If you’re going through a season of change right now, remember this: you’re not broken for struggling with it. Change is meant to shake us, to slow us down, and to make us question who we are beyond our titles, plans, and expectations. A quietly powerful read about resilience and reinvention by Maya Shankar, The Other Side of Change invites you to meet yourself again when life takes an unexpected turn - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/729180/the-other-side-of-change-by-maya-shankar/ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/729180/the-other-side-of-change-by-maya-shankar/] With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:11 How Change Has Shaped Your Life 04:52 Why Does Change Feel So Scary? 11:45 Why We Tie Our Identity to What We Do 16:25 What Awaits on the Other Side of Change 24:47 Using Self-Affirmation to Stay Grounded 30:51 Finding Gratitude in Who You Become 39:31 Maya on Final Five Episode Resources: Maya Shankar | https://mayashankar.com/ [https://mayashankar.com/]  Maya Shankar | https://www.instagram.com/drmayashankar [https://www.instagram.com/drmayashankar]  Maya Shankar | https://x.com/slightchangepod [https://x.com/slightchangepod]  A Slight Change of Plans | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-slight-change-of-plans/id1561860622 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-slight-change-of-plans/id1561860622] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Dating Expert Sabrina Zohar: You’re Not Confused, You’re Ignoring the Signs (THIS Mindset Shift Will End the “What If” Loop for Good)

Why do we chase people who don’t choose us, confuse anxiety for attraction, and stay in relationships that leave us questioning our worth?  Today, Jay sits down with Sabrina Zohar, podcast host and one of the most influential voices in modern dating, to unpack the emotional patterns that quietly shape how we love. Drawing from her own healing journey and work with thousands of clients, Sabrina explains how our childhood experiences, nervous system responses, and unhealed wounds influence who we’re drawn to often without us realizing it. Together, Jay and Sabrina explore what emotional availability really looks like, why consistency matters more than intensity, and how boundaries aren’t about pushing people away but protecting your peace. They break down common dating traps, from overanalyzing texts to mistaking butterflies for chemistry, and reveal why self-advocacy is one of the most important relationship skills we’re never taught. Through practical insights and deeply personal stories, Sabrina shows why asking for what you need isn’t “too much,” and why love should feel safe, not confusing. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stop Chasing People Who Don’t Choose You How to Date Without Abandoning Yourself How to Set Boundaries Without Fear of Losing Someone How to Recognize Emotional Availability Early How to Break the Cycle of Situationships How to Ask for What You Need Without Feeling “Too Much” How to Stop Confusing Intensity for Intimacy You don’t need to chase clarity, overperform for love, or silence your needs to be chosen. Real connection begins when you feel safe enough to be honest, brave enough to set boundaries, and grounded enough to walk away from what doesn’t honor you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:01 How to Tell If Someone Is Truly Interested 02:52 Why You Date the Parts of You That Aren’t Healed 06:04 Understanding Your Emotional State Before You Date 07:59 Don’t Ignore These Red Flags! 10:33 What Should a Healthy, Secure Relationship Feel Like? 13:34 Why Slowing Down Creates Real Connection 20:07 What’s Really Draining You About Dating? 24:09 Your Partner Will Trigger You, That’s Okay! 29:03 Building a Strong Foundation for Dating 32:45 How to Advocate for Yourself Without Fear of Losing Them 39:20 Are You Feeling Alone? 42:03 How to Spot Emotional Unavailability Early  44:51 Why Boundaries Are Non-Negotiable 46:56 How to Be Honest About Your Feelings 50:20 How to Communicate Your Needs Clearly 54:52 Why Relationships Must Support Growth 56:57 Timing Is Not a Reason to Hold On 59:23 Texting Etiquette in Modern Dating 01:12:33 Why Real Change Takes Time and Practice 01:18:36 Dating Rapid Fire  Episode Resources: Website | https://www.sabrinazohar.com/ [https://www.sabrinazohar.com/]   Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar [https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar]  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@sabrina_zohar [https://www.youtube.com/@sabrina_zohar]  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar [https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar]   Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/p/The-Sabrina-Zohar-Show-100094409286590/ [https://www.facebook.com/p/The-Sabrina-Zohar-Show-100094409286590/]  See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

The REAL Reason You Feel Behind (It’s Not What You Think!) Use THIS Simple Reset to Make Confident Decisions

If you’re starting this year feeling stuck, late, or behind in life, this episode gently reminds you that you’re not late, you’re right where you’re supposed to be. Jay unpacks a quiet truth many of us carry: almost everyone feels behind in love, career, money, or purpose, even when it looks like they’re winning. We compare what we’re struggling with privately to what others show publicly and end up measuring ourselves by timelines that were never real to begin with. When you see only the surface of others’ success, it’s easy to believe you’re behind when in reality, you’re simply on a different path. Jay reframes what “behind” really means. There is no universal schedule for success, fulfillment, or clarity. Most people don’t find their direction until much later than we’re led to believe, and emotional maturity, financial stability, and creative breakthroughs often arrive in midlife, not early adulthood. The pressure you feel isn’t proof of failure, it’s often the result of unrealistic expectations you set when you didn’t yet know who you’d become. Feeling lost, especially in your twenties and thirties, isn’t a flaw, it’s part of being human. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Feeling Behind in Life How to Break Free from Comparison How to Build Confidence in Your Own Season How to Let Go of Outdated Success Timelines How to Turn Invisible Growth into Strength How to Move Forward Without Rushing Decisions Life isn’t asking you to move faster, it’s asking you to move honestly. Trust the season you’re in, honor the lessons it’s teaching you, and keep showing up with consistency and self-belief. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:58 Do You Feel Behind in Life? 01:49 #1: We Compare Our Insides to Other People's Outsides 04:27 #2: You’re Focused on a Timeline that Doesn't Exist 06:41 #3: We Are Wired for Anxiety About Feeling Behind 09:20 You Are Exactly Where You’re Supposed to Be  12:53 What to Do When You Feel Behind 13:33 Step #1: Compare Less, Connect More 14:16 Step #2: Rewrite Your Timeline 15:49 Step #3: Identify Your Season 16:54 Step #4: Define Progress as Consistency Not Speed 17:42 Step #5: Ask the Question that Changes Everything 18:20 Five Practical Steps to Take This Year See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

NICK JONAS: The REAL Story Behind a Lifetime of Fame, His Inner Critic, and How Fatherhood Changed Everything

What happens when success arrives before you truly know who you are. How do you learn to quiet the inner critic while becoming a better partner, parent, and person in the process? Today, Jay sits down with Nick Jonas for an intimate conversation about identity, purpose, and the inner work that comes with growing up in the spotlight. Nick opens up about what it was really like starting his career so young, dealing with rejection early on and growing up with the pressure of being labeled “the shy, creative one.” As the conversation unfolds, Nick shares how fatherhood, marriage, and health challenges have profoundly redefined his priorities. He reflects on the vulnerability of becoming a parent, the anxiety that comes with loving someone so deeply, and the grounding practices, movement, routine, and therapy that help him stay present. Through stories of his daughter’s early days, his evolving relationship with faith, and the inspiration behind his new music, Nick reveals how creativity became both a refuge and a mirror, allowing him to heal, grow, and speak more honestly than ever before. Jay and Nick discuss what it truly means to be a good partner, a present parent, and a kinder version of yourself, especially when life feels overwhelming. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Turn Life’s Hardest Seasons Into Creative Fuel How to Stay Grounded When You’ve Lived Life in the Spotlight How to Be a Present Partner Instead of a Defensive One How to Navigate Anxiety Without Letting It Define You How to Reconnect With the Fearless Version of Yourself How to Build Emotional Resilience Through Routine and Movement How to Show Up as a Better Parent by Healing Yourself First Wherever you are in your journey, know that it’s okay to slow down, ask better questions, and choose compassion over criticism. You’re allowed to evolve, outgrow old labels, and rewrite the way you speak to yourself.  Nick Jonas’ new album, Sunday Best, out February 6th: https://nickjonas.lnk.to/SundayBest [https://nickjonas.lnk.to/SundayBest] With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:13 Who Is Nick Jonas Today? 05:02 Stepping Onto Broadway at Eight Years Old 07:00 What was It Really Like Growing Up in the Disney Spotlight? 08:40 Facing Financial Uncertainty as a Kid 11:08 Turning Deep Struggle Into Music 14:53 Finding Your Identity Beyond Labels 16:42 The Ongoing Journey of Self-Discovery 19:20 Why Early Exposure Became the Best Training Ground 22:16 Everyone Makes Mistakes 25:34 Recognizing and Quieting Your Inner Critic 31:53 Understanding the Unconditional Love of a Father 36:05 Staying Emotionally Strong for Your Family 40:18 The Moment He Fell for Priyanka Chopra 42:33 The Blending of Two Cultures  45:45 What His Wife Really Thinks 51:45 What Does it Mean to be a Good Husband? 54:50 Seeing the World Through a Child’s Eyes 58:06 The Fears That Come With Fatherhood 01:01:34 How Movement Helps Clear the Mind 01:03:53 Navigating Stressful Moments With Grace 01:08:04 Nick on Final Five Episode Resources: Nick Jonas | https://nickjonas.com/ [https://nickjonas.com/]  Nick Jonas | https://www.instagram.com/nickjonas [https://www.instagram.com/nickjonas]  Nick Jonas | https://www.tiktok.com/@nickjonas [https://www.tiktok.com/@nickjonas]  Nick Jonas | https://www.youtube.com/user/NickJonasVEVO [https://www.youtube.com/user/NickJonasVEVO]  Nick Jonas | https://x.com/nickjonas [https://x.com/nickjonas]  Nick Jonas | https://www.facebook.com/nickjonas [https://www.facebook.com/nickjonas]  Nick Jonas | https://nickjonas.tumblr.com/ [https://nickjonas.tumblr.com/]  Nick Jonas | https://www.snapchat.com/@jicknonas [https://www.snapchat.com/@jicknonas] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Sales Expert Shelby Sapp: The Simple Sales Framework You Can Use in Work, Money, and Relationships (Follow THIS Method to FINALLY Get The Life You Deserve)

We’re not failing at life. We were just never taught how to speak up, handle rejection, and confidently ask for what we want. Today, Jay sits down with sales leader and entrepreneur Shelby Sapp to unpack why sales isn’t about convincing others, but about understanding people, building trust, and believing in yourself. Shelby shares how the skills that helped her go from door-to-door sales to building a thriving business are the same skills we use every day: advocating for ourselves, navigating rejection, and communicating our value. She reframes sales as a mindset shift, from seeing “no” as failure to seeing it as feedback, explaining why learning how to sell is really about learning how to think, speak, and lead with confidence. Jay and Shelby break down the core principles that make sales applicable to every area of life: identifying leverage, creating real value, keeping things simple, and having the courage to ask for what you want. Shelby explains why people don’t buy products, they buy solutions, outcomes, and relief and how rejection becomes easier when you stop taking it personally. They also dive into the deeper mindset shifts that separate those who stay stuck from those who grow. Shelby challenges the idea that confidence comes before action, revealing instead that confidence is built by doing uncomfortable things repeatedly and overcoming rejection. Jay reflects on how sales skills teach resilience, the ability to keep showing up with belief even after setbacks, and why handling rejection well can unlock opportunities in every part of life. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Sell Without Feeling Manipulative How to Communicate Your Value Clearly How to Handle “No” Without Taking It Personally How to Ask for What You Want (and Get It) How to Identify What Truly Motivates People How to Stop Overexplaining and Keep It Simple How to Create Momentum When You Feel Stuck Progress isn’t about perfection, it’s about momentum. Trust yourself enough to ask, to act, and to keep going. The skills you build today will shape the confidence, freedom, and purpose you step into tomorrow.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:23 You’re Already Using Sales in Your Every Day Life  02:53 The Power of the Reframe  04:42 The Core Sales Skills Everyone Needs 08:03 Sales Isn’t Manipulation, It’s Emotional Leadership 12:59 One Connection Can Change Everything 17:41 Building a High-Income Skill is Essential  19:51 Why Mindset Is the Real Advantage 21:35 A Simple Sales Process That Actually Works 27:31 The Most Memorable Thing You’ve Ever Been Sold 30:55 How to Spend Money More Mindfully 34:44 How to Get Started in Sales (Even If You’re Scared) 35:42 Are Networking Events Worth Your Time? 39:39 There’s No Limit to What You Can Earn 43:15 How to Create a Major Salary Jump 46:19 Jobs That Sharpen Your Sales Skills 47:49 The Mindset That Keeps People Stuck 49:35 The Power of Believing in Yourself  51:59 How to Sell Any Product Effectively 56:44 Sell Me This Pen 01:02:41 Why Assumptions Kill Sales 01:04:09 How to Handle Rejection Without Losing Momentum 01:07:27 How to Reframe Any Objection 01:12:07 The Right Way to Ask for a Raise 01:15:44 What Employers Are Really Looking For 01:20:06 It’s Not a No, It’s a Lesson 01:21:22 How to Talk About Your Wins Without Ego 01:23:24 The Most Challenging Deal of All 01:25:29 Why the Best Sellers Preempt Objections 01:27:12 Why We Struggle to Invest in Ourselves 01:30:57 Shelby on Final Five  Episode Resources: Shelby Sapp | https://shelbysapp.com/ [https://shelbysapp.com/]  Shelby Sapp | https://www.instagram.com/shelby.sapp/ [https://www.instagram.com/shelby.sapp/]  Shelby Sapp | https://www.youtube.com/@Shelbysappyt [https://www.youtube.com/@Shelbysappyt]  She Sells | https://shesellsremote.com/ [https://shesellsremote.com/]  She Sells | https://www.instagram.com/shesellsacademy [https://www.instagram.com/shesellsacademy] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.