Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal

#35 "Finding Yourself" After Betrayal Is Just As Much a Somatic Process As It Is a Mental or Emotional One with Natasha Ramlall

Most women healing from betrayal are told to think their way through it. But what if finding yourself again requires going somewhere deeper than your mind? In this episode, host Halle Roderick sits down with embodied integration coach Natasha Ramlall to explore why healing from betrayal is just as much a somatic process as it is a mental or emotional one — and what that actually looks like in practice. If you've been working hard to heal but still feel disconnected from yourself, this episode will help you understand why — and what to do about it. Connect with Natasha Ramlall: Natasha works with high-functioning, capable women who feel the ground cracking beneath them after a difficult life transition or an awakening to a mismatched life. As an Embodied Integration Coach, she guides you back into a deeper experience of your human-ness to heal, expand and evolve from an Identity Rupture and navigate the space between who you were and who you are becoming.  Return to your body with her free Guided Audio [https://humanistcoaching.eo.page/safety-pulse] or learn more at humanistcoaching.ca [https://www.humanistcoaching.ca/] Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), ⁠complete this interest list⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Xi1vUJPyHfeFZx1XnWNwXmG7K6BnEDNIqSxUjsPNeYw/viewform?edit_requested=true] for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. If you and your partner are ready to move beyond survival mode and reconnect on a deeper level, the Rise and Renew Couples Retreat [https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/rise-and-renew-couples-retreat/] offers an immersive healing experience in Costa Rica from July 30 - August 3.  Complete this⁠⁠⁠ Interest list [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSf1blW1PffUPxbMjRgWofVCWXhP8dgM1DviI145XVGjt3dYSA/viewform?usp=header]for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/document/d/18-GJm84wM0kGzwEOw47fl91WVT-Y_Z3NMlpNA9bBzL0/edit?usp=sharing], hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  The⁠ ⁠⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courage-to-thrive-betrayal-trauma-intensive/] takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉⁠⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/pl/2148715906] 👉⁠⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/pl/2148714679] Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉⁠ ⁠Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/rooted-and-rising-course] Listen to My Other Podcast If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉⁠ ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/5zV0oep3zEx178Vrcn0xQM] Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/rooted-and-rising-weekly] Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/rootedandrising.healing?igsh=MTJkY3FndW4wemc2aw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] 👉 Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/share/1BKvTcoAKu/?mibextid=wwXIfr] 👉 Website [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/]

#34 Embodied Boundaries — The Discomfort of Doing Something New (And Why That's Actually Okay)

Have you ever set a boundary — or tried to — and immediately felt like you were doing something wrong? You are not alone. And here's what most people don't tell you: that discomfort is not a sign you're doing it wrong. It's a sign you're doing something new. In this episode, we're digging into what boundaries actually are at a body level — not just as a concept to understand, but as something you can feel. We also talk about the difference between what is yours to carry and what belongs to someone else — and why putting down what isn't yours is one of the most loving things you can do for your own healing. Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), ⁠complete this interest list⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Xi1vUJPyHfeFZx1XnWNwXmG7K6BnEDNIqSxUjsPNeYw/viewform?edit_requested=true] for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. If you and your partner are ready to move beyond survival mode and reconnect on a deeper level, the Rise and Renew Couples Retreat [https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/rise-and-renew-couples-retreat/] offers an immersive healing experience in Costa Rica designed to help couples restore connection, regulate their nervous systems, and create a more grounded, intentional relationship. Through breathwork, experiential healing practices, and guided support, couples are invited into a space of renewal, intimacy, and transformation.  Complete this⁠⁠⁠ Interest list [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSf1blW1PffUPxbMjRgWofVCWXhP8dgM1DviI145XVGjt3dYSA/viewform?usp=header]for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/document/d/18-GJm84wM0kGzwEOw47fl91WVT-Y_Z3NMlpNA9bBzL0/edit?usp=sharing], hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  The⁠ ⁠⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courage-to-thrive-betrayal-trauma-intensive/] takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉⁠⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/pl/2148715906] 👉⁠⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/pl/2148714679] Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉⁠ ⁠Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/rooted-and-rising-course] Listen to My Other Podcast If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉⁠ ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/5zV0oep3zEx178Vrcn0xQM] Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/rooted-and-rising-weekly] Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/rootedandrising.healing?igsh=MTJkY3FndW4wemc2aw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/share/1BKvTcoAKu/?mibextid=wwXIfr] 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/]

***BONUS EPISODE*** You’re Invited: Becoming Together Mother-Daughter Retreat with my daughters, Mataia and Morgan

What does it look like when a mother and daughter do the healing work together? In this special episode, I'm joined by my daughters to pull back the curtain on the Becoming Together Mother-Daughter Retreat, an intimate gathering just outside Sedona, Arizona, designed for moms and daughters who are both actively doing their personal growth work and ready to bring it into their relationship. We talk about the heart behind this retreat, who it's truly for (and who it isn't), what makes it different from a conference or a girls' trip, and why the stunning off-the-grid location near Sedona, AZ is part of the healing itself. Plus, my girls weigh in on all of it.  If you're a mother or daughter who feels the pull to go deeper in your relationship while honoring your own becoming — this episode is for you. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s),⁠⁠ ⁠complete this interest list⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Xi1vUJPyHfeFZx1XnWNwXmG7K6BnEDNIqSxUjsPNeYw/viewform?edit_requested=true] for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters near Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. Check out Mataia's Podcast: ⁠Good Day with Tay⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/good-day-with-tay/id1733304655] Check out Morgan's Podcast: ⁠Healing Betrayed Families⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/healing-betrayed-families/id1865724488] Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Complete this⁠⁠⁠ Interest list [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSf1blW1PffUPxbMjRgWofVCWXhP8dgM1DviI145XVGjt3dYSA/viewform?usp=header]for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/document/d/18-GJm84wM0kGzwEOw47fl91WVT-Y_Z3NMlpNA9bBzL0/edit?usp=sharing], hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  Sign up for my ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/rooted-and-rising-weekly] to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive ⁠The Rise and Renew Couples Retreat in Costa Rica⁠ [https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/rise-and-renew-couples-retreat/], happening July 30 - August 3, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your spouse, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.  The ⁠Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive⁠ [https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/revive-and-thrive-intensive/] for women takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Listen to My Other Podcast If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉⁠ ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/5zV0oep3zEx178Vrcn0xQM] Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/rooted-and-rising-weekly] Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/rootedandrising.healing?igsh=MTJkY3FndW4wemc2aw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] 👉 Facebook:⁠⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/share/1BKvTcoAKu/?mibextid=wwXIfr] 👉 Website:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/]

#33 Caring Vs. Controlling — And the Radical Act of Allowing Consequences

In this episode, we explore one of the most overlooked patterns in betrayal trauma recovery: the subtle but powerful difference between caring and controlling. This episode unpacks the trauma-driven urge to manage a partner’s recovery after betrayal — and why trying to control the conditions of someone else’s healing can quietly disconnect you from your own. If you’ve been exhausted trying to hold everything together, soften someone else’s discomfort, or make sure healing happens “the right way,” this episode offers a powerful invitation back to your own clarity, boundaries, and emotional sovereignty. Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), ⁠complete this interest list⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Xi1vUJPyHfeFZx1XnWNwXmG7K6BnEDNIqSxUjsPNeYw/viewform?edit_requested=true] for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. If you and your partner are ready to move beyond survival mode and reconnect on a deeper level, the Rise and Renew Couples Retreat [https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/rise-and-renew-couples-retreat/] offers an immersive healing experience in Costa Rica from July 30 - August 3 is designed to help couples restore connection, regulate their nervous systems, and create a more grounded, intentional relationship. Complete this⁠⁠⁠ Interest list [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSf1blW1PffUPxbMjRgWofVCWXhP8dgM1DviI145XVGjt3dYSA/viewform?usp=header]for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/document/d/18-GJm84wM0kGzwEOw47fl91WVT-Y_Z3NMlpNA9bBzL0/edit?usp=sharing], hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  The⁠ ⁠⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courage-to-thrive-betrayal-trauma-intensive/] takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉⁠⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/pl/2148715906] 👉⁠⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/pl/2148714679] Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉⁠ ⁠Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/rooted-and-rising-course] Listen to My Other Podcast If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉⁠ ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/5zV0oep3zEx178Vrcn0xQM] Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/rooted-and-rising-weekly] Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/rootedandrising.healing?igsh=MTJkY3FndW4wemc2aw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/share/1BKvTcoAKu/?mibextid=wwXIfr] 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/]

#32 Do My Actions Match My Words? Learning to Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say, and Trust Yourself Again After Betrayal

This question has the power to change how you show up in your healing: "What message does the way I show up in my relationship give to my husband about the status of the relationship?" If you're healing from betrayal trauma, the honest answer to that question might be uncomfortable. In this episode of Rooted and Rising Healing, we're talking about one of the most important — and most misunderstood — pieces of betrayal recovery: learning to say what you mean, mean what you say, and actually follow through. This is not about being harsh or issuing ultimatums. This is about becoming a woman whose words carry the full weight of her truth. If you've ever said something in anger and not followed through, stayed quiet while resentment built, or wondered why he doesn't take your words seriously — this episode will help you understand what's happening and what to do about it. This episode is for you if: * You find yourself saying things out of fear or anger but not following through * You've been suppressing your pain to keep the peace — and you're exhausted * You confuse boundaries with rules and feel powerless when he doesn't follow them * You're ready to stop reacting and start responding from a regulated, grounded place * You want to rebuild your voice, your self-trust, and your sense of personal power after betrayal Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), ⁠complete this interest list⁠ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Xi1vUJPyHfeFZx1XnWNwXmG7K6BnEDNIqSxUjsPNeYw/viewform?edit_requested=true] for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. Email Hali [haliroderickcoaching@gmail.com]⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/document/d/18-GJm84wM0kGzwEOw47fl91WVT-Y_Z3NMlpNA9bBzL0/edit?usp=sharing] Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://docs.google.com/document/d/18-GJm84wM0kGzwEOw47fl91WVT-Y_Z3NMlpNA9bBzL0/edit?usp=sharing], hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉⁠⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/pl/2148715906] 👉⁠⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/pl/2148714679] Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉⁠ ⁠Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/rooted-and-rising-course] Listen to My Other Podcast If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉⁠ ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/5zV0oep3zEx178Vrcn0xQM] Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/rooted-and-rising-weekly] Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/rootedandrising.healing?igsh=MTJkY3FndW4wemc2aw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/share/1BKvTcoAKu/?mibextid=wwXIfr] 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠ [https://rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com/]