Sex is Yours

Pleasure Activism: Who taught you how to feel good?

In this episode, host Anne Marie Gunn highlights the book “Pleasure Activism” by adrienne maree brown [https://adriennemareebrown.net/] and shares her own lineage of who taught her how to feel good.  “Hot & Heavy Homework” Prompt from “Pleasure Activism”: “Write up your pleasure activism lineage! Who awakened your senses? Who politicized your experiences of body, identity, sensation, feeling good? If they are still living, have you thanked them properly? If yes, good, do it again. If not, reach out. If they are ancestors, honor them with a pleasure altar covered in sticky fruit, sweet smalls, sacred water, and thick earth, centered around fire. Gratitude is part of pleasure too.”  Additional sources mentioned/shared: PLEASURE Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster [https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/pleasure]  SENSUAL Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster [https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sensual]  The Tool Shed  [https://www.toolshedtoys.com/books/] “Wild Geese” by Mary Oliver “Holy Hurt” by Hillary McBride “The Vagina Monologues” by V Ensler “Your Body is Not an Apology” by Sonya Renee Taylor “Sister Outsider” by Audre Lorde, specifically the essay “Uses of the Erotic” Other authors: Taylor Jenkins Reid and Patti Smith, Haley Jakobson, Jenny Slate, Cheryl Strayed Visual artists: Frida Kahlo, Hilma af Klint, Martha Jungwirth, Etel Adnan  Musical artists: Bon Iver, Dijon, Rihanna, Janelle Monae, Chappell Roan Queer Sex Therapy on Instagram (Casey Tanner)

Denise Sherer Jacobson: An Accessible Sexual Revolution

With a focus on how sex is for all bodies, Sex is Yours host, Anne Marie Gunn, explores media representation of sex plots for people with disabilities, a sex education resource guide for people with disabilities, the documentary Crip Camp: A Disability Revolution, and shares an expounded statement by author and educator, Denise Sherer Jacobson. You can also read Denise’s statement provided for this episode on the Sex is Yours Website [https://www.sexisyours.com/resources].  https://deniseshererjacobson.com/ [https://deniseshererjacobson.com/]  Denise’s Instagram account: @ deniseshererjacobson Bio from her website: Author and educator Denise Sherer Jacobson, M.A., is passionate about  “Weaving the Disability Experience into the Tapestry of Living.” She has worked as an activist, counselor, administrator, and oral historian in the Independent Living Movement for over 50 years, all the while keeping her sense of humor. Additional Sources: Glee: Season 1 Episode 4, Season 3 Episode 5, & Season 3 Episode 10 Love on the Spectrum Sex Education: Season 3 Episode 4 Blogpost: Further Exploring Disability and Sexuality in Netflix’s Crip Camp [https://blogs.dickinson.edu/lgbtqhistoryandliterature/2021/03/27/further-exploring-disability-and-sexuality-in-netflixs-crip-camp/] Exile and Pride by Eli Clare Our Sexuality, Our Health: A Disabled Advocate's Guide to Relationships, Romance, Sexuality and Sexual Health [https://odpc.ucsf.edu/content/our-sexuality-our-health-a-disabled-advocates-guide-to-relationships-romance-sexuality-and] made by Melissa Crisp-Cooper 2020 Netflix documentary CRIP CAMP: A Disability Revolution [https://cripcamp.com/], produced by Barack and Michelle Obama’s company, Higher Ground.

The Masturbation Gap

It's a fact that men masturbate more than women. But where did this masturbation gap come from? How is it being perpetuated? What impact does it have on peoples' sex lives? This episode explores these questions and more. Sources: https://refreshtherapynyc.com/guilt-vs-shame-why-understanding-the-difference-matters-for-your-mental-health/ [https://refreshtherapynyc.com/guilt-vs-shame-why-understanding-the-difference-matters-for-your-mental-health/]  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-therapy/201009/the-masturbation-gap [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-therapy/201009/the-masturbation-gap]  https://www.lelo.com/blog/the-masturbation-gap-what-women-can-learn-from-mens-masturbation-habits/ [https://www.lelo.com/blog/the-masturbation-gap-what-women-can-learn-from-mens-masturbation-habits/]  https://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/masturbating-stats-are-there-gender-differences-and-why/ [https://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/masturbating-stats-are-there-gender-differences-and-why/]  https://sexualbeing.org/blog/masturbating-while-trans-how-to-get-off-and-stay-gender-euphoric/ [https://sexualbeing.org/blog/masturbating-while-trans-how-to-get-off-and-stay-gender-euphoric/]  https://www.autostraddle.com/33-queer-women-and-non-binary-people-on-their-first-masturbation-experiences-436240/ [https://www.autostraddle.com/33-queer-women-and-non-binary-people-on-their-first-masturbation-experiences-436240/]  https://blog.womanizer.com/equal-masturbation-day/ [https://blog.womanizer.com/equal-masturbation-day/]

Why a Sex Podcast?

Content warnings: rape, sexual assault This episode gives the background of host Anne Marie Gunn and her personal reasons, as well as broader reasons, for starting this podcast. Some topics that are covered include: Christian messaging about sex, finding personal sexual ethic, coming out as bisexual, queer and trans rights, masturbation, the ways patriarchy is preventing people from having good sex, and how talking about sex can result in people having better sex. Anne Marie touches on her decision to stop her original launch of the series in 2022 and why she has ultimately brought it back today.