Shot At Love

Tune into Chapter 9 Love's Lunacy: A Journey of Crazy and Stupid Devotion from my book Shot At Love, A Celebrity Photographer's Unfiltered Lens on Dating and Finding Love. What if the moment that saves you starts with a mantra and a punchline? We open on a small-town shoot with Steve Carell and land in the center of a bruising love story—one built on mixed signals, breadcrumbing, and the slow erosion of self. Along the way, a pinwheel, a dance number, and a stubborn fight to keep a scene in a film become unlikely teachers about boundaries, authorship, and choosing what matters when the pressure is on. From there, the curtain lifts on commitment-phobia and the anxious–avoidant dance: the push–pull of intimacy that keeps one partner chasing and the other fleeing. We dig into Mr. Unavailable’s patterns, attachment science, and why intermittent reinforcement is so addictive. The stakes spike when family drama explodes into gaslighting and an uninvited wedding, forcing a reckoning with reality, proof, and the heavy cost of keeping the peace. In the wreckage, a manifesto takes shape—part evidence, part prayer—marking the pivot from explaining to exiting. What follows is a clear, compassionate path out: consequences over speeches, boundaries that hold, and the No Contact Rule as a lifeline back to self-trust. We talk practical recovery—retraining your nervous system, rebuilding routines, and finding meaning in art, music, and community. If you’ve ever felt “crazy” for wanting love to feel safe, this story offers language, tools, and a way through. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to tell us the one boundary you won’t bend again. We trace a wild arc from a Steve Carell photoshoot and an Aquarius mantra to the hard end of a toxic relationship, unpacking commitment-phobia, gaslighting, and the cost of staying. Boundaries, no-contact, and self-respect turn chaos into clarity. Join the mailing list and find out more about Shot At Love Live events at www.shotatlovebook.com. Follow, rate, and subscribe. Please follow me on social media – Instagram, @Kerry_Brett, and on Facebook under Kerry Brett. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Tune into Homeless on a Harley, Chapter 8, one of my favorite chapters from Shot At Love, A Celebrity Photographer's Unfiltered Lens on Dating and Finding Love. Dating shouldn’t feel like a jailbreak, but sometimes the heart clings to a locked door. We open with a grounding mantra to the divine feminine and roll straight into Randy “Moose” Gomez’s field notes—thirty years as a PI and bail bondsman distilled into one essential truth: listen like a detective and love like a leader. From pandemic-era scams to everyday mixed signals, we unpack how small details reveal big realities, and why your questions are not drama—they’re data. The story winds through a raw Thanksgiving heartbreak, a copper-topped bar in South Boston, and a high school spark named Coyote Cameron who skates in hot and exits even hotter. It’s romantic, funny, and a little brutal: the secret workplace, the “lost phone,” the slow fade that says more than words. Along the way, we map practical checkpoints for modern dating—consistency over charm, transparency over mystery, alignment over adrenaline. You’ll hear how nostalgia can blur judgment, how self-talk can free or trap you, and how to spot the moment when grace becomes self-abandonment. We don’t shame the chemistry; we translate it. When behavior and words don’t match, confusion wins. When someone guards context, believe them. And when your standards rise, your peace follows. If you’ve stayed too long, waited on a text that never came, or ignored a red flag because the weekend felt perfect, this conversation will hand you a steadier compass—rooted in self-respect, active listening, and a PI’s calm eye for patterns. Press play, take what helps, and set your own checkpoints. If this episode gave you clarity or courage, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs the nudge, and leave a quick review so more people can raise their standards with us. We explore how a cowboy PI’s listening skills and a hard left turn in South Boston taught us to trust patterns over promises and choose self-respect over heat. The heart goes fast, but the truth arrives on time when you ask better questions and believe what you hear. When people tell you who they are believe them. Please subscribe, rate, and review. Keep up to date with Shot At Love Live events and join the mailing list at www.shotatlovebook.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Not All Those Who Wander Are Lost, Chapter 7 of Shot At Love, A Celebrity Photographer's Unfiltered Lens on Dating and Finding Love. A breakup can make even bright rooms feel dim, and mine turned everything gray—right down to the paint on my walls. I gave 50 shades of gray new meaning. I tried to muscle through with grit and lonely heart playlists, but it took an unexpected intervention from Red Sox legend Tim Wakefield to cut through the noise. Tim’s straight talk about self-respect, resilience, and moving on landed like a perfectly thrown knuckleball: unpredictable, undeniable, and exactly what I needed to hear. The over-under was that this was a very loud wake-up call from Wake, and I had to find self-love at bat. From there, the path bent toward a different kind of ballgame—one of mantras, lineage, and sacred sound. I share how a puja led by a guru's wife reopened the door to Sanskrit practice, and how a medium delivered a message I couldn’t ignore: aham prema doesn’t just invite romantic love; it insists on self-love first. That reminder connected me back to my teacher, Namadeva, and to a daily practice of the —Gayatri before the mic, breath before reaction, compassion before compromise—that steadied the ground beneath my feet. Daily practice of chanting and the discipline of rebuilding standards after heartbreak. Along the way, we honor two legacies that shaped this story—Tim Wakefield’s generosity and caring, and Namadeva’s mastery of mantras—whose dates now echo in my calendar like a quiet blessing. If you’ve ever felt stuck between surrender and survival, this chapter offers tools and testimony: boundaries that hold, mantras that heal, and a practical path to liking yourself enough to choose better. Listen, reflect, and if it resonates, share it with someone who could use a sign. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell me: what’s the one line you needed to hear today? If you want to find out more about the Shot At Love movement and community, join the mailing list to learn about upcoming Shot At Love Live events at www.shotatlovebook.com Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/844231/open_sms] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What happens when you swipe right on a contractor who builds homes and hearts with the same dedication? Built to Last: When Love Meets Construction, that's what! Meet Rory Remington, a 47-year-old professional builder from Scituate, Massachusetts—a man as solid as the foundations he lays. During the harshest winter Massachusetts had seen in a century, with record-breaking snowfall burying my world both literally and figuratively, Rory appeared like a beacon of warmth. After plowing Scituate's streets all day, he'd show up at my driveway, engine running, ready to shovel my roof without ever asking to come inside—because he wanted to meet my daughter "when we were official." Here was a man who had given his dream home to his ex-wife so his children wouldn't suffer, while he lived in homes he was rebuilding. A man who, when my card was declined buying painting supplies, arrived early the next morning with everything I needed and painted my entire first floor in a day. Rory checked every box on my "top ten list" of qualities I wanted in a partner. He remembered I disliked roses on my birthday because it fell near Valentine's Day, sending unique flowers with a card saying, "You're all seven on my list." Yet I made the devastating mistake of leaving him when my ex returned, begging for reconciliation—only to discover more lies and deception waiting for me. The painful irony? When pipes burst in my studio and I had nowhere to turn, Rory still showed up, created detailed documentation overnight, secured me exactly the insurance money I needed, and disappeared without even saying goodbye. He didn't need to help, but that's who he was—a man of honor who never let people down. Through heartbreak and regret, I learned that relationships, like houses, require solid foundations. Sometimes the best partners aren't the flashiest or most familiar—they're the ones who show up consistently, tools in hand, ready to build something lasting. Don't wait to recognize quality when you see it; great men don't stay available for long. Ready to transform your perspective on love? Grab my new book "Shot at Love" on Amazon and join the community at ShopLoveBook.com for exclusive updates on upcoming events. Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/844231/open_sms] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

When Oscar-winner Chris Cooper and his wife Marianne Leone called asking me to photograph him for Cowboys and Indians Magazine, I never imagined this assignment would become my emotional salvation. With a broken foot and an even more broken heart, I dragged myself to Plymouth Plantation, determined to deliver exceptional work despite my personal life crumbling around me. The contrast couldn't have been starker – professionally capturing one of Hollywood's most respected actors while privately enduring the discovery of my boyfriend's infidelity. As I lay on the ground, boot-clad broken foot raised awkwardly in the air, shooting Chris in various Western-inspired poses, I was simultaneously living two realities. One where I was a sought-after photographer whose work would grace newsstands nationwide, and another where I questioned my fundamental worth after betrayal. It was Chris himself who offered unexpected wisdom that day. When I confessed my relationship troubles, lamenting that perhaps I was "too much" – too creative, too successful – for my boyfriend, Chris responded with words that would become my mantra: "Did you ever think the things that make you too much are the things that make you great? Smart men like smart women." This simple truth from a man whose 40-year marriage to brilliant writer Marianne Leone Cooper showed he practiced what he preached became my north star during the darkest period of my life. The universe has a poetic way of delivering messages when we need them most. Standing in an Arizona airport, sobbing after learning my boyfriend at the time had emptied our home while I was away, I looked up to see my Cowboys and Indians cover prominently displayed. It was as if the universe whispered: your work matters, you matter, regardless of who fails to see it. A decade later, Chris, Marianne, and I would collaborate again, winning a 2023 Communicator Award for a podcast episode aptly titled "Staying Together" – proof that sometimes we must endure disappointments to find our way to the collaborations and connections that truly honor our worth. Ready to transform your perspective on love and relationships? Grab a copy of my new book "Shot at Love" on Amazon today and join our community at shotatlovebook.com for exclusive updates on live events and more insights into finding love that celebrates rather than diminishes you.  Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/844231/open_sms] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.