Submissive Guide

A question I see asked all the time is, "How can I be a better submissive?" Here are a few things you can do to improve your submission and service without much work. Resources -  * Non-sexual Service and How To Add It To Your Dynamic [https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/non-sexual-service-and-how-to-add-it-to-your] * How Making a Cup of Coffee Centers Me [https://submissiveguide.com/personalgrowth/articles/how-a-cup-of-coffee-centers-me] * Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining [https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/high-tea-japanese-tea-ceremony-and-formal-dining] * 3 Reasons a "Perpetual Student" Mindset Is Vital to Kink [https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/3-reasons-a-perpetual-student-mindset-is-vita] * Create SMART Goals For Your New Year's Resolutions and Reach Your Goals This Year! [https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/create-smart-goals-for-your-new-years-resolutions-and-reach-your-goals-this-year] * The Importance of Journaling Your Submission [https://submissiveguide.com/personalgrowth/articles/the-importance-of-journaling-your-submission] * 5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra [https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/simple-steps-to-creating-a-personal-mantra] * 365 Days of Submission [https://365daysofsubmission.com] * Learning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive Awareness [https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/learning-good-observation-skills] * Entering the Community: The Different Ways to Socialize with Local Kinksters [https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/entering-the-community-the-different-ways-to-socialize-with-local-kinksters] * Finding Your Submissive Voice: Speak Up for Better, Honest Communication [https://submissiveguide.com/communication/articles/finding-your-submissive-voice-speaking-up-vs-speaking-out] * Active Submission Means Always Improving Yourself [https://submissiveguide.com/personalgrowth/articles/active-submission-means-always-improving-yourself] * A Submissive's Prime Directive: Take Care of the Property [https://submissiveguide.com/personalgrowth/articles/take-care-of-the-property] * Submissive Guide FetLife Group [https://fetlife.com/groups/7478] Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society [http://subgui.de/society?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=epsdescription] A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com [http://www.submissiveguide.com/] ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide [http://www.twitter.com/subguide] ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide [http://www.instagram.com/subguide] ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com [http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com/] ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide [http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide] ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society [http://subgui.de/society?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=epsdescription] ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat [https://subgui.de/chat] Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store [https://subgui.de/store]

Let's discuss how to build healthy communication skills in our D/s relationship and what a safe environment for difficult conversations looks like. I’ll give you the tools to develop a report with your partner that is full of trust, shared vulnerability, and compassion. You’ll learn that a safe environment for those challenging talks requires planning and mutual agreements to work as they should.  Resources: Conversation Starters for Difficult Conversations: https://www.wikihow.com/images/sampledocs/f/Conversation-Starters-for-Difficult-Conversations.pdf [https://www.wikihow.com/images/sampledocs/f/Conversation-Starters-for-Difficult-Conversations.pdf]  Kink Friendly Therapists: * Psychology Today - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/sex-positive-kink-allied [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/sex-positive-kink-allied] * Kink Friendly Therapy - http://kinkfriendlytherapy.com/resources-3/resources/ [http://kinkfriendlytherapy.com/resources-3/resources/] * Kink Aware Professionals Directory - https://www.kapprofessionals.org/ [https://www.kapprofessionals.org/] Domestic Abuse Hotlines: US: https://www.thehotline.org/ [https://www.thehotline.org/] UK: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/ [https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/] EU: https://www.improve-horizon.eu/helplines [https://www.improve-horizon.eu/helplines]  Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society [http://subgui.de/society?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=epsdescription] A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com [http://www.submissiveguide.com/] ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide [http://www.twitter.com/subguide] ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide [http://www.instagram.com/subguide] ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com [http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com/] ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide [http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide] ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society [http://subgui.de/society?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=epsdescription] ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat [https://subgui.de/chat] Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store [https://subgui.de/store]

Often, we discover our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. Let’s cover what you should do to prepare to talk to your partner about your newfound interest, how you can encourage a submissive mindset on your own, and how you can slowly bring kink into the bedroom. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/making-him-the-dom-of-your-dreams-working-with-the-man-you-have  [https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/making-him-the-dom-of-your-dreams-working-with-the-man-you-have] Initiating a Discussion about BDSM with Your Partner: * Initiating a Discussion about BDSM Interest with Your Partner [http://www.submissiveguide.com/2012/03/initiating-a-discussion-about-bdsm-interest-with-a-vanilla-partner/] - ted_subby - Part 1 of a 3-part series. Highly recommended. * Ask SehAnru | Communicating Kinky Needs to a Vanilla Partner [http://www.submissiveguide.com/2011/09/communicating-kinky-needs-to-a-vanilla-partner/] - SehAnru * Establishing a Safe, Trusting Environment for Talk [http://www.submissiveguide.com/2011/05/establishing-a-safe-trusting-environment-for-talk/] - lunaKM Resources: * Recommended Reading Lists [https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/the-top-3-books-i-recommend-to-everyone-new-to-bdsm] * Creating a Personal Submissive Protocol [https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/creating-a-personal-protocol] Join our Discord Server - https://subgui.de/chat [https://subgui.de/chat]  Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society [http://subgui.de/society?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=epsdescription] A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com [http://www.submissiveguide.com/] ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide [http://www.twitter.com/subguide] ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide [http://www.instagram.com/subguide] ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com [http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com/] ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide [http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide] ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society [http://subgui.de/society?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=epsdescription] ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat [https://subgui.de/chat] Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store [https://subgui.de/store]

Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. When a collar comes into view, some people want to commemorate that with a ceremony. Let’s discuss collars, their symbolism in D/s and M/s relationships, and how you can build a formal ceremony around declaring your commitment to each other. Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/how-to-plan-a-formal-collaring-ceremony [https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/how-to-plan-a-formal-collaring-ceremony]  Resources:  Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One? [https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/expectations-of-a-collar-how-ready-are-you-to-accept-one] Here is a list of collaring ceremony stories I found online to get you started in your research to build your ceremony. * Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring by Mrs Darling [https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/our-ceremony-of-roses-vow-renewal-and-re-collaring] * Our Collaring Ceremony on the space between [https://camryndarkstone.com/2010/11/20/our-collaring-ceremony/] * My collaring ceremony script from my polyamorous commitment ceremony on Offbeat Wed [https://offbeatwed.com/collaring-ceremony-script/] * Planning Our Collaring Ceremony on The Chateau [https://thechateau.org/blog/article/planning-our-collaring-ceremony/] * Collaring Ceremony and Ceremony of the Roses on House of Dasein [https://houseofdasein.com.au/blogs/for-doms/collaring-ceremony-and-ceremony-of-the-roses] * Ceremony From The Heart: The Collaring Ceremony by Norische [https://www.the-iron-gate.com/essays/60] Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society [http://subgui.de/society?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=epsdescription] A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com [http://www.submissiveguide.com/] ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide [http://www.twitter.com/subguide] ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide [http://www.instagram.com/subguide] ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com [http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com/] ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide [http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide] ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society [http://subgui.de/society?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=epsdescription] ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat [https://subgui.de/chat] Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store [https://subgui.de/store]

Let’s break down what topping from the bottom is, why it’s so bad, how it can be good, and learn some tricks to stop the poor behavior in its tracks that leads to it. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/why-you-should-know-the-truth-about-topping-from-the-bottom [https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/why-you-should-know-the-truth-about-topping-from-the-bottom] Chat with the Discord community! https://subgui.de/chat Resources: * Arcane Advice article on Topping from the Bottom: https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/topping-from-the-bottom-why-its-bad-and-when-its-good/ [https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/topping-from-the-bottom-why-its-bad-and-when-its-good/] * Resistance Play: https://www.kinkly.com/definition/810/resistance-play [https://www.kinkly.com/definition/810/resistance-play] * Healthy Communication Skills on Submissive Guide: https://submissiveguide.com/search?query=healthy+communication [https://submissiveguide.com/search?query=healthy+communication] Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today. ►http://subgui.de/society [http://subgui.de/society?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=epsdescription] A very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you. _____ Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere? ►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com [http://www.submissiveguide.com/] ►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide [http://www.twitter.com/subguide] ►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide [http://www.instagram.com/subguide] ►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com [http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com/] ►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide [http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide] ►Patreon: http://subgui.de/society [http://subgui.de/society?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=epsdescription] ►Discord: http://subgui.de/chat [https://subgui.de/chat] Check Out My Books! ►https://subgui.de/store [https://subgui.de/store]