TheBigD with Ateh and Buzzy

The Ultimate Guide to Divorce: Legal Insights from Experts

This episode features Charlotte Adler and Jude Allen discussing the legal process of divorce, including roles of solicitors, barristers, and judges, as well as practical advice for navigating divorce proceedings, financial considerations, and emotional challenges.

Less War, More Sense: Inside the Amicable Approach to Divorce

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Valentine Warner: Cooking Through Divorce and Starting Again

This week on The Big D, Ateh Jewel and Buzzy are joined by chef, forager, and philosopher of food Valentine Warner for a deeply honest, unexpectedly funny conversation about divorce, identity, and starting again. Known for his rustic, no-fuss approach to cooking and his belief that food can quite literally heal the soul, Valentine opens up about navigating the chaos of separation, from “cooking feverishly” through heartbreak to rebuilding a life (and appetite) in a tiny studio flat. Together, they explore the emotional parallels between the kitchen and relationships: what we keep, what we discard, and how we learn to nourish ourselves again. From the high-adrenaline world of professional kitchens to the quiet loneliness of cooking for one, this episode dives into the realities of post-divorce life, while also offering hope, humour, and a reminder that even the simplest meal can be an act of self-worth. Expect candid stories, sharp insights, and a fresh perspective on healing….served with a side of anchovies, nature, and a little bit of magic.

Riordan Maynard: From $200M to Maximum Security, and the Power of Starting Over

This week on The Big D, we sit down with Riordan Maynard—once a high-flying entrepreneur behind major global business ventures, now helping others develop mental resilience and love the life they live with his mindfort.co system. After a life-altering legal tax battle led to a sentence of six and a half years in a US federal prison, Riordan lost everything: his business, his freedom, and his sense of self. But what he found inside changed everything. In this episode, he shares how he rebuilt from rock bottom, the toll it took on his family, and the mindset shift that turned survival into strength. It’s a conversation about disruption, identity, and what it really takes to start again when everything’s been stripped away.

Gaslighting, Narcissists and Finding Your Voice with Elizabeth Shaw

On this episode of The Big D, Ateh and Buzzy sit down with Elizabeth Shaw, also known to many as @coachelizabethshaw. Elizabeth is a relational psychotherapist who specialises in the difficult dynamics many people struggle to name, from narcissistic abuse and gaslighting to the emotional aftermath of a relationship breakdown. With warmth and clarity, she helps people recognise the patterns that keep them stuck and shows them how to reclaim their voice when they’ve lost their sense of self. In this powerful conversation, Elizabeth unpacks how narcissistic relationships take hold, why they can be so hard to leave, and how healing begins. Together, they explore how the pieces left behind after heartbreak can be transformed into something brighter, stronger and entirely your own.