The Collective Growth Podcast: Inner Work

Trauma, Shame, and the Leader Within | The Breakdown Series

Most leaders are taught to keep parts of themselves out of the room. What they don't realize is that hiding the wound is what slowly drains the leader. In this Breakdown of our Inner Work conversation with Carol Klocek, CEO of Center for Transforming Lives, MaryAnn Means-Dufrene and co-host Karen Finn unpack what it actually means to lead from a self-concept you can see clearly — and what shame, silence, and the survival patterns we're praised for are quietly costing us. Carol shared on the original episode that she's a product of significant childhood trauma, and that early in her career a well-intentioned colleague told her not to talk about her family. The advice probably fit its time. The shame that grew around it did not. In this Breakdown, Karen and MaryAnn explore why healing isn't a leadership luxury, what trauma actually looks like inside a working environment — the missed deadline, the overreaction to feedback, the chronic overwork — and why the self-critic that drove you here may not be the voice you want driving what comes next. They get into managing your own gas tank, why sprints without recovery are how burnout gets built, and why curiosity is the single most underused leadership practice — the gateway, as Karen puts it, to empathy with others and with yourself. If you're a leader who's started to notice the same patterns showing up that you swore you'd outgrown, this conversation will give you language. Here's a glimpse of what you'll learn: 00:19 Welcome Dance Break  00:41 Luncheon Carol Ek Context 01:57 Workplace Shame Story 04:04 Owning Your Narrative 07:05 Healing as Leadership Skill 09:27 Awareness Resources and Crisis 11:55 Trauma in the Workplace 13:59 Triggers Nervous System Patterns 17:56 Trauma Informed Teams 19:57 Psychological Safety Vulnerability 20:56 Self Critic Discussion 21:22 Befriending Self Critic 23:25 Balancing Voices Within 24:27 High Care High Bar 24:54 Real Self Care Habits 26:50 Managing Your Gas Tank 27:26 Overwork Warning Signs 32:44 Sprints Need Recovery 33:41 Pedicures Versus Burnout 36:30 Curiosity Builds Empathy 37:51 Closing Reflections About the Co-Host Karen Finney is a coach, longtime collaborator on Inner Work, and co-host of The Breakdown Series. She brings warmth, clinical clarity, and lived experience to conversations about how personal patterns shape professional life — and she's the co-host who'll happily tell you when you've stopped managing your gas tank. 🔗 Connect with Karen:https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenfinney If you'd like to listen to the original Inner Work conversation with Carol Klocek that this Breakdown unpacks: https://www.collectivegrowthleadership.com/blog/025 [https://www.collectivegrowthleadership.com/blog/025] If you're an executive who can feel the cost of pushing through and you're ready to lead from a clearer place: 👉 https://collectivegrowthleadership.com/book-call #leadershipdevelopment #innerwork #traumainformedleadership #executiveleadership #selfawareness

The Founder Your Business Actually Needs (Part 2 with Dave Munson)

There’s a moment in every founder’s life when someone holds up a mirror they didn’t ask for. Sometimes it’s a coach. Sometimes it’s a spouse. Sometimes — the moment Dave Munson is most honest about — it’s an employee saying something you didn’t see coming. In Part 2 of our conversation with Dave Munson, founder and CEO of Saddleback Leather Co., MaryAnn Means-Dufrene continues the discussion that started in Episode 28 — but this half goes deeper into the unseen work of becoming the leader your business actually needs. Dave shares a 2010 lunch with Zig Ziglar that reframed everything (“court your spouse, encourage everyone, help others succeed”), the 2015 moment a Christian employee told him he was “one of the most prideful people I know,” and the research project that followed — fifty “signs of pride” lists categorized into twenty-four jars on his table. He talks about saying out loud to his wife that he was the problem in the business, the moment his teenage daughter refused to grab him a fizzy water and what it exposed, and the Rick Warren line that quietly reframed humility for him: humility is saying what’s true. He also talks about writing his award-winning book They’ll Fight Over It When You’re Dead (Audiobook of the Year 2025), the three and a half years he spent without a smartphone, and his refusal to use AI for creative work — a hand-written newsletter included. If you’ve ever quietly suspected that the business you built has been shaping you more than you’ve been shaping it, this conversation will land. Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn: 01:17 Meeting Zig Ziglar 02:45 Three Life Principles 03:57 Learning to Serve Family 06:26 Called Out for Pride 08:54 Redefining Pride 10:06 Signs of Pride List 14:59 Humility vs Pride 16:18 False Humility Explained 17:06 Saying What Is True 17:33 Humility Versus Pride 18:27 How Pride Shapes Business 19:56 Marriage Kids Business Growth 21:07 Book Story And Awards 22:27 Writing Process And Lessons 27:34 Enneagram And Storytelling 28:37 Going Smartphone Free 30:50 AI Boundaries Handwritten Newsletter 31:37 Closing Thanks And Book Reminder About the guest Dave Munson is the founder and CEO of Saddleback Leather Co., the global leather goods company known for heirloom-quality designs and a 100-year warranty. He is the author of They’ll Fight Over It When You’re Dead — winner of Audiobook of the Year 2025 — and has designed leather interiors for the Toyota Tundra and Sequoia. Through Africa New Life Ministries, he and his wife Suzette have brought more than 400 people to Rwanda to support sponsored children and local communities. Dave’s “signs of pride” research, posted on the Saddleback site, draws roughly 1,200 readers a day. 👉 Ready to stop leading from burnout? Book a call with MaryAnn: https://collectivegrowthleadership.com/book-call #leadershipdevelopment #innerwork #executiveteams #founderleadership #humility

The Founder Your Business Actually Needs (Part 1 with Dave Munson)

Most leaders hit a moment when the business they built can’t keep growing through them alone. Not because the work changes. Because they have to. In this episode of Inner Work, MaryAnn Means-Dufrene sits down with Dave Munson, founder and CEO of Saddleback Leather Co., for an honest conversation about confidence, control, and what it actually takes to lead a company you’ve outgrown. Dave built Saddleback from a sketch he drew of “what kind of bag would Indiana Jones carry,” through years of sleeping on a $100-a-month apartment floor in Juárez, into a global leather goods brand with a 100-year warranty and a factory that now makes interiors for Toyota Tundras and Sequoias. Along the way, he had to face something most founders avoid: the moment outsourcing leadership stops working, and the founder has to step back in. He talks about the coach who quietly built his confidence by refusing to give him answers. The 70% rule that finally let him delegate. The two questions that reshaped how he leads — What do you think we should do? and By when? And the quiet, uncomfortable truth that most wisdom in leadership is built in the bad decisions, not the clean ones. If you’ve ever felt the gap between the leader you are and the leader your business now requires, this conversation will challenge how you think about confidence, delegation, and the long road to wisdom. Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn: 01:25 Welcome and Guest Intro 02:30 Origin of the First Bag 03:24 Scrappy Mexico Startup Years 04:18 Meeting Suzette and Building the Factory 05:49 Faith Driven Company Mission 07:17 Hiring Culture and Tolerance 10:51 Ministry Work in Africa 13:14 Naming Saddleback Leather 14:34 Painful Lessons and Inner Growth 17:21 Marriage Counseling as Leadership Training 18:14 Scaling Challenges and Delegation 19:18 Delegation vs Control 21:13 Clarity Is Not Micromanaging 22:29 Truthful Feedback Culture 24:18 Growth Mindset at Home 25:58 Strengths and Self Awareness 30:04 Coaching Confidence Through Questions 34:50 Delegating the Zone of Genius 37:16 Make Decisions Then Improve About the guest Dave Munson is the founder and CEO of Saddleback Leather Co., the global leather goods company known for heirloom-quality designs and a 100-year warranty. What started as a bag designed for a teaching job in Mexico became a category-defining brand built on durability, faith, and a “people company cleverly disguised as a leather bag business” mission. Dave is the author of They’ll Fight Over It When You’re Dead and has designed leather interiors for the Toyota Tundra and Sequoia. Through Africa New Life Ministries, he and his wife Suzette have brought more than 400 people to Rwanda to support sponsored children and local communities. 🔗 Connect with Dave: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dave-munson-736600141/ If you’re a founder or executive standing at the edge of what got you here and what’s needed next: 👉 https://collectivegrowthleadership.com/book-call

Why High Performers Struggle When They Step Into Leadership - Part 2

You can be talented, driven, and deeply capable — and still spend years choosing paths that are easier than the one you were meant for. This is the episode about what happens when you stop choosing comfort, and start trusting yourself to do the thing you actually love. In this episode of Inner Work, MaryAnn sits down with Emily McAnelly — VP of Strategic Growth at Collective Growth — for an honest, warm, and surprisingly funny conversation about identity, deserving, and what it really means to build something that matters. Together, they explore: * Why we resist doing what we love most (and call it "not deserving it") * What changes when you flip the script and build toward freedom instead of safety * The loneliness of leadership — and why having the right person in your corner changes everything * How old narratives quietly define you until you decide they don't anymore * And what it looks like to find discipline that actually feels like purpose    This isn't a polished success story. It's a real conversation between two women building something from scratch — with a puppy barking in the background and everything.   HERE’S A GLIMPSE OF WHAT YOU’LL LEARN: * 00:41 Do What You Love  * 01:42 Making Joy a Career  * 04:59 Freedom and Ambition  * 07:41 Yin Yang Partnership  * 09:24 Mission of Collective Growth  * 11:02 From Founder Led Selling  * 12:48 Loneliness of Leadership  * 19:11 Stoic Mindset Shifts  * 21:49 Rapid Fire and Discipline  * 27:54 Closing Thanks and Next Steps   ABOUT THE GUEST:  Emily McAnelly is the VP of Strategic Growth at Collective Growth, where she leads business development and go-to-market strategy. With experience across AI startups, Fortune 100 partnerships, and financial systems, she builds scalable, transformational growth engines. She lives in Richmond, Virginia with her family and brings both strategic rigor and irreplaceable human warmth to everything she touches. 🔗 Connect with Emily: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emily-mcanelly-99442233/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/emily-mcanelly-99442233/] If you've ever wondered whether you actually deserve the thing you most want to do — this one's for you. 👉 Book a 1:1 call with MaryAnn: https://collectivegrowthleadership.com/book-call [https://collectivegrowthleadership.com/book-call]

Why High Performers Struggle When They Step Into Leadership - Part 1

You can be high-performing, and still feel completely unprepared for what leadership demands next. This is the side of leadership development no one prepares you for. In this episode of Inner Work, MaryAnn sits down with Emily McAnelly, for a raw conversation about what it really takes to step into leadership when the stakes are real. Emily didn’t just change roles, she chose to walk away from the “path of least resistance” and into a version of herself that required discipline, ownership, and facing the fear of failure head-on. Together, they unpack: * What it feels like to build something that actually matters * The pressure of stepping into leadership before you feel ready * How faith and failure reshape your definition of success * And why scaling a business is really about scaling who you are This isn’t a conversation about tactics. It’s about identity, pressure, and the inner work required to lead at the next level.   HERE’S A GLIMPSE OF WHAT YOU’LL LEARN: * 00:40 Welcome and Introduction * 02:10 Blending Two Podcasts * 03:46 Why Emily Joined * 08:13 Scaling and Partnership * 11:34 Working With Family * 12:55 Fear of Failure * 20:07 Discipline and 10x Habits * 23:10 Sales Engine and Faith * 29:09 Ed Story and Wrap Up ABOUT THE GUEST: Emily McAnelly is the Vice President of Strategic Growth at Collective Growth, where she leads business development and go-to-market strategy. With experience across AI startups, Fortune 100 partnerships, and financial systems, she builds scalable, transformational growth engines. She lives in Richmond, Virginia with her family and brings both strategic rigor and human insight to leadership. 🔗 Connect with Emily: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emily-mcanelly-99442233/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/emily-mcanelly-99442233/]  If you’ve ever felt the tension between who you are and who leadership requires you to become, this episode is for you. 👉 Book a 1:1 call: https://collectivegrowthleadership.com/book-call [https://collectivegrowthleadership.com/book-call]