The ENM DNM

The ENM Glossary: What Do These Words Even Mean?

In this episode, Adam and Leonie are joined by Ari to attempt something brave, foolish and probably impossible: making sense of some of the terms people use in ENM and non-monogamy. From ENM, CNM and NM to relationship anarchy, monogamish, hierarchy and whatever relationship libertarianism is meant to be, they unpack the words, the assumptions behind them, and why definitions are rarely as simple as they sound. The conversation moves between actual glossary-style explanations and the messier reality of how these labels show up in dating, relationships, community and identity. They talk about ethics, consent, autonomy, ownership, “doing the work”, and why some terms can feel useful while others can feel confusing, loaded or a bit wanky. It’s a funny, honest and reflective episode about language, labels, strong opinions, and trying to describe the very human mess of non-monogamy without pretending anyone has the perfect definition. Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making gorgeous chaos? Support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here [ko-fi.com/enmdnm] Your support helps us make the podcast and helps fund free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise access it. Come say hi or follow along: socials [https://linktr.ee/enmdnm] Want to book a counselling session with Adam? Get in touch here: Halaxy [https://www.halaxy.com/profile/mr-adam-forman/counsellor/] We’re also keen to hear from collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners. Please note: this podcast is for conversation and reflection, not therapy, medical advice or crisis support. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Dear ENM DNM: The calendar is the metamour

In this episode, Adam and Leonie open up the Dear ENM DNM inbox after someone writes in about a very familiar ENM problem: the calendar. They talk through a situation involving nesting, shifting plans, rotating rosters, and what happens when “our time” keeps being moved in the name of flexibility. The conversation gets into quality time, resentment, autonomy, agreements, and the difference between being flexible and quietly feeling like you’re getting the leftovers. Adam and Leonie also talk about what it means to feel prioritised in ENM, why “this is just what non-monogamy looks like” can feel dismissive, and how hard it can be to have a proper conversation before resentment starts setting up camp. It’s a messy, honest and reflective episode about time, care, calendars, and trying to stay connected when everyone’s availability is doing the absolute most. Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making gorgeous chaos? Support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here [ko-fi.com/enmdnm] Your support helps us make the podcast and helps fund free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise access it. Come say hi or follow along: socials [https://linktr.ee/enmdnm] Want to book a counselling session with Adam? Get in touch here: Halaxy [https://www.halaxy.com/profile/mr-adam-forman/counsellor/] We’re also keen to hear from collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners. Please note: this podcast is for conversation and reflection, not therapy, medical advice or crisis support. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

The Manifesting Canine: Love, Ghosting and the Relationship Escalator

In this episode, Adam and Leonie move from canine chaos and accidental innuendo into a bigger conversation about dating, ghosting and what happens when connection does not quite land the way we hoped. After Leonie shares the emotional comedown of two promising connections going quiet, the conversation opens up around ghosting, mixed signals, therapy-speak, emotional responsibility and the difference between someone meaning something in the moment versus being able to follow through with care. They also unpack Olivia Dean’s Something in Between and use it as a jumping-off point to explore freedom, autonomy and what it means for love to have room to breathe within ENM. From there, Adam and Leonie dig into the relationship escalator, the pressure to make relationships “progress” in expected ways, and how non-monogamy can invite us to question what commitment, growth and legitimacy actually look like. It’s a funny, reflective and very honest episode about desire, disappointment, liberation and learning how to sit somewhere in between. Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making gorgeous chaos? Support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here [ko-fi.com/enmdnm] Your support helps us make the podcast and helps fund free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise access it. Come say hi or follow along: socials [https://linktr.ee/enmdnm] Want to book a counselling session with Adam? Get in touch here: Halaxy [https://www.halaxy.com/profile/mr-adam-forman/counsellor/] We’re also keen to hear from collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners. Please note: this podcast is for conversation and reflection, not therapy, medical advice or crisis support. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

What It’s Like to Date Adam and Leonie

In this episode, Adam and Leonie turn the mic on themselves and unpack what it’s actually like to date them. From communication styles and emotional needs to attraction, boundaries and the little quirks that show up in relationships, they reflect on how they each move through dating in ENM. Along the way, they talk about what they value, what can be hard, and what partners might notice when getting close to them. It’s honest, playful and a little exposing — a conversation about self-awareness, compatibility and what dating can reveal about who we are. Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making gorgeous chaos? Support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here [ko-fi.com/enmdnm] Your support helps us make the podcast and helps fund free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise access it. Come say hi or follow along: socials [https://linktr.ee/enmdnm] Want to book a counselling session with Adam? Get in touch here: Halaxy [https://www.halaxy.com/profile/mr-adam-forman/counsellor/] We’re also keen to hear from collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners. Please note: this podcast is for conversation and reflection, not therapy, medical advice or crisis support. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Adam: Vulnerability, Masculinity and ENM

In this episode, Leonie turns the mic on Adam. They talk about how he first found his way into ethical non-monogamy, what opening up a relationship actually looked like in practice, and how those early experiences shaped the way he understands connection, communication and intimacy now. The conversation also goes deeper into masculinity, body image, self-worth and the long shadow of feeling like your body is being seen before you are. Adam reflects on living with visible scars, how that impacted the way he moved through ENM spaces, and what it has meant to be desired, vulnerable and honest in relationships. This one is personal. It’s about the stories we carry, the ways we change, and what ENM can uncover when it pushes us to look more closely at ourselves. Loved the episode? Want to help keep The ENM DNM alive, growing and making gorgeous chaos? Support the podcast with a one-off or ongoing donation here [ko-fi.com/enmdnm] Your support helps us make the podcast and helps fund free and subsidised therapy for people who may not otherwise access it. Come say hi or follow along: socials [https://linktr.ee/enmdnm] Want to book a counselling session with Adam? Get in touch here: Halaxy [https://www.halaxy.com/profile/mr-adam-forman/counsellor/] We’re also keen to hear from collaborators, sponsors, guests and partners. Please note: this podcast is for conversation and reflection, not therapy, medical advice or crisis support. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.