The Fat and Horny Podcast

But It Was a Woman? Validating Survivors of Same-Sex Sexual Violence with Alice Mills Mai

Content Warning: This episode contains conversations about various forms of sexual assault and violence. Please prioritise your well-being and listen with care. If you need to, feel free to skip this episode. In this episode, Alice Mills Mai [https://www.instagram.com/dralicetraumatherapist/] helps us understand the sexual trauma often faced by same-sex violence survivors. She defines what intimate partner violence can look like and speaks to the reality that healing and trauma recovery don't look the same for every survivor. Society and authorities lessen the severity of these charges because "it was just a woman." Yet bodies only remember the sexual violence exerted on them, not the gender of the perpetrator. This problem exists because the legal definition of rape or sexual assault is penetration-centred, ignoring non-consensual acts such as touching, coercion, and the violation of boundaries within BDSM dynamics. Dr. Alice brings a key perspective on validating survivors' experiences, especially when their trauma is dismissed because the perpetrator was another woman. The discussion sheds light on the barriers faced by marginalised groups, including Black women, masculine-presenting lesbians, and fat women, who are often not believed by law enforcement or their own communities. Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4PH3y2NhZq0P8z37JQhWjP], Afripods [https://afripods.africa/podcast/the-fat-and-horny-podcast] or Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-fat-and-horny-podcast/id1805847549]. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community. More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter [https://youngnoversharing.substack.com/] Follow us on TikTok: @youngandoversharing [https://tiktok.com/@youngandoversharing] Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen   [https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen  ] Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. Sponsored by Content Is Queen [https://contentisqueen.org/]. ------------------------------- Keywords: sexual violence, sexual assault, sexual trauma, consent, LGBTQIA+, body image, sex and sexuality, trauma healing, Dr Alice The Trauma Therapist,

At What Age Does My Body Belong to Me? with Amanda Tayte-Tait

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of child sexual abuse. Please prioritise your well-being and listen with care. If you need to, feel free to skip this episode. How do you reclaim your body and find pleasure after sexual trauma? In this conversation, we speak with Amanda Tayte-Tait [http://amandataytetait.com/], a survivor of child sexual abuse that began when she was just six years old. Amanda shares her journey of healing from the sexual shame, numbness, and societal silence surrounding abuse, highlighting the harm behind purity culture and how it inhibits healing and self-forgiveness. She helps us understand what it took for her to understand the power of consent, communicate her sexual boundaries, and reconnect her body to sex and pleasure after years of living with sexual trauma. We also discuss the powerful message behind her book, At What Age Does My Body Belong to Me? [https://www.amazon.com/What-Does-Body-Belong-Memoir/dp/1779203160] Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4PH3y2NhZq0P8z37JQhWjP], Afripods [https://afripods.africa/podcast/the-fat-and-horny-podcast] or Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-fat-and-horny-podcast/id1805847549]. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community. More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter [https://youngnoversharing.substack.com/] Follow us on TikTok: @youngandoversharing [https://tiktok.com/@youngandoversharing] Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen  [https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen ]  Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. Sponsored by Content Is Queen [https://contentisqueen.org/]. --------------------------- Keywords: child sexual abuse, sexual trauma, sexual assault, rape, sexual violence, sex and sexuality, trauma healing, hypersexuality, sexual shame, pleasure

Decolonise Sex For Mind-blowing Orgasms with Dawryn Nyiramugisha

What if your sexual wellness and pleasure weren't just a personal goal, but a power you were always meant to claim? In this episode, holistic sexologist and intimacy coach Dawryn Nyiramugisha [https://www.instagram.com/wellness_together]explores the revolutionary idea that fat women have an erotic birthright, and she takes us back into African culture to prove it. She dismantles the colonial myths and shame that have historically denied this truth, replacing them with a joy-filled roadmap to reclaiming your sensual power. Dawryn shares how to blend African sensual wisdom with practical tools, techniques to rewire your brain, and how to express your sexual desires, especially in queer relationships confidently. She reminds us of the importance of breathing and staying present during sex. Bonus: She teaches us how to breathe during sex for heightened pleasure. Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4PH3y2NhZq0P8z37JQhWjP], Afripods [https://afripods.africa/podcast/the-fat-and-horny-podcast] or Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-fat-and-horny-podcast/id1805847549]. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community. More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter [https://youngnoversharing.substack.com/] Follow us on TikTok: @youngandoversharing [https://tiktok.com/@youngandoversharing] Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen   [https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen  ] Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. Sponsored by Content Is Queen [https://contentisqueen.org/]. ------------------------- Keywords: decolonising sex, sex and sexuality, body image, beauty standards, sensuality, African culture, intimacy, women's pleasure, sexual wellness

The Truth About Sexual Liberation That Nobody Taught You with Dr Donna Oriowo

Hookup culture is sold as fun, freeing, and low-pressure. But for women, especially those navigating societal expectations and internalised sexual shame, the reality can be a minefield of ghosting, mixed signals, and shattered confidence. In this conversation, award-winning therapist and author Dr. Donna Oriowo [https://www.donnaoriowo.com/therapy] dismantles hookup culture myths and explores the heart of what sexual liberation truly requires. She asks the tough questions: What are the mental and emotional costs of casual sex? How does being ghosted truly impact self-worth? And is the goal really "hookup culture," or are we just seeking power in a world that tells us our desire for pleasure is wrong? Dr. Donna challenges listeners to move beyond toxic individualism and see sexual healing as a community project. She helps us understand how to define sexual liberation for yourself, the crucial role of masturbation in self-knowledge, and why the LGBTQIA+ community holds the blueprint for the freedom so many claim to want. Book recommendations to decolonise your pleasure: Pleasure Activism [https://www.amazon.co.za/Pleasure-Activism-Politics-Feeling-Good/dp/1849353263], Good Sex [https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Good-Sex/Candice-Nicole-Hargons-PhD/9781955905794], and Dr. Donna's Drink Water & Mind Your Business. [https://www.donnaoriowo.com/selfesteembook] Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4PH3y2NhZq0P8z37JQhWjP], Afripods [https://afripods.africa/podcast/the-fat-and-horny-podcast] or Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-fat-and-horny-podcast/id1805847549]. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community. More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter [https://youngnoversharing.substack.com/] Follow us on TikTok: @youngandoversharing [https://tiktok.com/@youngandoversharing] Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen   [https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen  ] Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. Sponsored by Content is Queen. [https://contentisqueen.org/] ---------------------------------------- Keywords: sexual liberation, hookup culture, patriarchy, casual sex, pleasure, LGBTQIA+, body image, healing, masturbation, sex and sexuality

Does Sex With Fat Women Smell? And Other Sexual Lies We Need to Unlearn.

Are fat women serving boring sex? In this episode, a Zimbabwean man talks about the intersections of sex, cultural sexual myths, and body image within the African context. He touches on how young boys are often socialised to view sex as a conquest rather than an emotional connection, leaving women to bear the weight of these expectations. The guest shares his personal journey of unlearning harmful sexual beliefs and navigating intimacy, from his late sexual debut to discovering the importance of mutual pleasure and communication. In the conversation, he dispels myths about fat women being "lazy during sex" or sexually undesirable, sharing his positive sexual experiences and highlighting the importance of confidence and adventure in the bedroom, from navigating sex positions to embracing sex toys, offering a fresh male perspective. Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4PH3y2NhZq0P8z37JQhWjP], Afripods [https://afripods.africa/podcast/the-fat-and-horny-podcast] or Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-fat-and-horny-podcast/id1805847549]. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community. More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter [https://youngnoversharing.substack.com/] Follow us on TikTok: @youngandoversharing [https://tiktok.com/@youngandoversharing] Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen   [https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen  ] Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. Sponsored by Content Is Queen. [https://contentisqueen.org/] --------------------------- Keywords: fatphobia, sex and sexuality, sex toys, African culture, pleasure, sex positions, decolonising sex, intersection of sex and culture, intimacy