The Good Intentions Podcast

Episode 009 | End of the Good Intentions Podcast

This podcast is ending CHAPTERS: * 0:54 - This podcast will not continue RESOURCES:

Episode 008 | Jim Fay

Jim Fay talks with Dave Rael about mutual dignity, preparing children for the world, empathy with children and adults, and positive influence CHAPTERS: * 0:52 - Approach to this episode and getting to know Jim Fay * 4:31 - Learning about dealing with children from education and parenting * 5:27 - Dave's interpretation of Love and Logic and Jim's reaction * 10:26 - The state of discourse in the world the relevance of preparing children for real interaction * 11:28 - Jim on bringing empathy to interaction with children * 15:21 - The primacy of simplicity and the fault in complication of life * 16:28 - Quick win on setting boundaries with simple words and phrases to neutralize conflict and manipulation * 21:31 - Influence, manipulation, and empowerment * 23:52 - Love and Logic applied to adults as well as children * 25:54 - The reasons children and other humans need boundaries and why they test them * 29:02 - Healthy and unhealthy setting of boundaries and the communication of boundaries and expectations as behavior modeling * 30:08 - The unhealthy swinging pendulum of adult focus vs child focus * 33:10 - The problems with punishment and the virtue of delaying reaction * 37:53 - A specific example of approaches to care and teaching * 40:03 - Differences between mothers and fathers and between children and adults * 41:55 - The moral case for RESOURCES: * Love And Logic (including signup for the Insider's Club newsletter) [https://www.loveandlogic.com/] * Jim's Bio on the Love and Logic Site [https://www.loveandlogic.com/about/bios/jim-fay] * Parenting With Love And Logic (Updated and Expanded Edition) - Foster Cline [http://www.amazon.com/dp/1576839540/?tag=devonfir-20]

Episode 007 | Karen Straughan

Karen Straughan talks with Dave Rael about feminism, mens' rights, understanding people, gender relations CHAPTERS: * 0:52 - Karen, feminism, and mens' rights * 8:36 - Answers to oppression * 14:18 - Meaning of Equality * 21:42 - Karen on humility, ability, attraction, and her draw to the mens' movement * 35:54 - The power of words and the terms used by feminism * 43:22 - The importance of sexual consent * 45:31 - Harmful behaviors * 47:54 - Reproductive choices * 52:53 - Attempting to understand one another * 56:13 - "Nice guys" and the "friend zone" * 62:15 - Compassion for all parties involved in an unexpected and potentially unwanted pregnancy * 64:26 - The types of fiction that appeal to women and what it reveals about their desires * 72:20 - Privilege and empathy and the futility of seeking an ideal system * 83:35 - Mating habits of animals and their relevance to humans * 89:06 - "Seek first to understand, then to be understood" - Stephen Covey * 91:35 - Power and the source of your voice * 96:44 - Rape apologia * 103:39 - Violence toward women and men RESOURCES: * Karen's YouTube Channel [https://www.youtube.com/user/girlwriteswhat] * Karen's Blog [http://owningyourshit.blogspot.com/] * The Red Pill [http://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XGY67WQ/?tag=devonfir-20] * Cassie Jaye [https://twitter.com/Cassie_Jaye] * Christina Hoff Sommers on the Good Intentions Podcast [http://goodintentionspodcast.com/podcast/episode-002-christina-hoff-sommers] * Custody of Infants Act [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Custody_of_Infants_Act_1839] * Married Women's Property Act [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Married_Women%27s_Property_Act_1882] * "Big Red" from "The Red Pill: Raw Files" [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fHppdGqHtrU] * Swedish Government Bans Affirmative Action [https://www.thelocal.se/20100318/25604] * James Damore [https://twitter.com/JamesADamore] * James Damore on the Good Intentions Podcast [http://goodintentionspodcast.com/podcast/episode-006-james-damore] * James Damore on the David Pakman Show [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_sHB2v5yl2E] * James Damore on Freedomain Radio with Stefan Molyneux [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TN1vEfqHGro] * James Damore on the Rubin Report [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6NOSD0XK0r8] * Tactics Young Women Use to Resist Condom Use When a Partner Wants to Use a Condom [http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00224499.2017.1376305?needAccess=true&journalCode=hjsr20] * Sexually Transmitted Infection [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexually_transmitted_infection] * Hypergamy [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy] * Statutory rape victim forced to pay child support [https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/09/02/statutory-rape-victim-child-support/14953965/] * Goofus and Gallant [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goofus_and_Gallant] * Slate Star Codex [http://slatestarcodex.com/] * The Street Harassment Experiment - 10 Hours of Walking in NYC as a Woman [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1XGPvbWn0A] * Bill Burr Comedy Including References to Tiger Woods and Access to Sex [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x0gaYyNk7QA] * Pareto Principle [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareto_principle] * The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change - Stephen R. Covey [http://www.amazon.com/dp/1451639619/?tag=devonfir-20] * Good Intentions Podcast Episode 1 with Andrea Goulet [http://goodintentionspodcast.com/podcast/episode-001-andrea-goulet] * National Coalition For Men [http://ncfm.org/] * Conflict Theory [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conflict_theories] * Philip Davies [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philip_Davies] * If You See Jezebel in the Road, Run the Bitch Down (Paul Elam's article referenced in The Red Pill) [https://www.avoiceformen.com/mens-rights/domestic-violence-industry/october-is-the-fifth-annual-bash-a-violent-bitch-month/] * Have You Ever Beat Up A Boyfriend? Cause, Uh, We Have (The Jezebel article to which Paul Elam was responding) [https://jezebel.com/294383/have-you-ever-beat-up-a-boyfriend-cause-uh-we-have] * I’ll decide if you were raped, not you - Paul Elam [https://www.avoiceformen.com/mens-rights/ill-decide-if-you-were-raped-not-you/] * Commentary on Rape Statistics [https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brian-earp/1-in-4-women-how-the-late_b_8191448.html]

Episode 006 | James Damore

James Damore talks with Dave Rael about diversity, understanding, discourse, psychology, and differences CHAPTERS: * 0:52 - The story of James, the "Google Manifesto Guy" * 5:21 - James on unconscious bias * 7:57 - Biological essentialism * 10:41 - Humility * 13:24 - Sources of psychological differences between men and women * 14:55 - Troublesome vocabulary and individual interest in software * 19:56 - The nature of software development * 22:20 - James on the value of diversity * 24:38 - Psychological safety * 27:30 - Growth mindset and asking for what you need * 35:28 - Efficacy of diversity programs * 37:28 - Disadvantages of diversity programs * 41:25 - Support and interactions * 43:07 - Judgment and de-moralizing diversity * 45:52 - Alienation of conservatives * 48:21 - Hostile work environments and a call for understanding * 50:46 - Psychological traits and troublesome vocabulary * 52:55 - James's suggestion to de-emphasize empathy * 55:19 - Conscientiousness and green-field (building new systems) vs brown-field (maintaining existing systems) in software development * 56:53 - Discrimination * 60:19 - Downsides of being a "diversity candidate" * 63:31 - Gender bias in hiring - also the difficulty of choosing science papers * 66:30 - Understanding for the experiences of others * 68:13 - James's experience with the response to his document * 74:00 - A lawsuit toward Google * 76:04 - Going to the source RESOURCES: * James's Site [https://firedfortruth.com/] * The Document in Question [https://firedfortruth.com/2017/08/08/first-blog-post/] * Implicit-association test [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Implicit-association_test] * Jordan Peterson [http://jordanbpeterson.com/] * James on the Rubin Report [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6NOSD0XK0r8] * James on the Joe Rogan Experience [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQ1JeII0eGo] * Dave's Software Developer Podcast - Developer On Fire [http://developeronfire.com/] * Pair programming [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pair_programming] * Psychological safety [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_safety] * Mindset: The New Psychology of Success - Carol S. Dweck [http://www.amazon.com/dp/0345472322/?tag=devonfir-20] * Expectations of brilliance underlie gender distributions across academic disciplines - Sarah-Jane Leslie, Andrei Cimpian, Meredith Meyer, Edward Freeland [https://internal.psychology.illinois.edu/~acimpian/reprints/LeslieCimpianMeyerFreeland_2015_GenderGaps.pdf] * A Way to Detect Bias - Paul Graham [http://www.paulgraham.com/bias.html] * Matthew 7:15-20 - "You Will Know Them by Their Fruits" [https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+7%3A15-20&version=NKJV] * Virtue Signaling [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Virtue_signalling] * Big Five personality traits [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Five_personality_traits] * Paul Bloom [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paul_Bloom_(psychologist)] * Paul Bloom on Waking Up with Sam Harris - The Virtues of Cold Blood [https://www.samharris.org/podcast/item/the-virtues-of-cold-blood] * Thaddeus Russell - The Unregistered Podcast [http://www.thaddeusrussell.com/podcast/] * Glenn Loury on Unregistered with Thaddeus Russell [http://www.thaddeusrussell.com/podcast/2017/8/14/episode-20-glenn-loury] * James on Freedomain Radio with Stefan Molyneux [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TN1vEfqHGro] * James with Jordan Peterson [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SEDuVF7kiPU]

Episode 005 | Nicole Lee

Nicole Lee talks with Dave Rael about being brave, living the life you want, international human rights work, parenting, understanding, and blame CHAPTERS: * 0:52 - Getting familiar with Nicole * 8:19 - Nicole's experiences with defending human rights * 14:10 - Interviews with violent criminals and the complexities of motivations for abhorrent actions * 22:30 - Loving people with views inconsistent with your values * 29:52 - Moving society forward requires action * 39:26 - Preparing families for a multicultural world * 43:42 - Nicole's ability to talk about difficult and uncomfortable topics * 47:59 - The meaning of social justice and the good and bad of the call-out culture * 62:14 - Recognizing threats * 67:26 - Scapegoating vs calling for accountability RESOURCES: * Nicole's Website [http://nicolelee.org/] * Nicole on parenting and sharing the ugly truths of the world with children [https://medium.com/embrace-race/because-of-my-work-in-social-justice-equity-and-inclusion-my-people-believe-that-my-children-have-89271b11a90e] * Megan Phelps-Roper on The Joe Rogan Experience [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hOnefFVBEb0] * Martin Luther King Jr.: Revered More After Death Than Before [http://www.gallup.com/poll/20920/martin-luther-king-jr-revered-more-after-death-than-before.aspx] * Slavery in the United States [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slavery_in_the_United_States] * Jewish Bolshevism [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jewish_Bolshevism]