The Kinkololgy Podcast

What I Learned From F@cking Up Negotiations

In this conversation, Kaylee Rose delves into the complexities of BDSM negotiation and consent, sharing personal experiences and lessons learned. She emphasizes the importance of communication, self-awareness, and building trust in BDSM practices. The discussion highlights the risks involved in BDSM and the necessity of thorough negotiation to ensure safety and mutual understanding. Kaylee also addresses common pitfalls and offers insights on how to navigate consent and boundaries effectively, ultimately advocating for ethical kink practices. takeaways * Negotiation is crucial in BDSM to ensure consent. * Personal experiences can teach valuable lessons about BDSM. * Communication should be clear and ongoing in BDSM relationships. * Text-based negotiation can lead to misunderstandings. * Always check in with your partner before a scene. * Building trust takes time and should not be rushed. * Self-awareness is key to effective negotiation in BDSM. * Negotiation should be seen as a conversation, not a checklist. * Creating safe spaces is essential for healthy BDSM practices. * Mistakes can happen, but learning from them is vital.

The Wheel of Consent with Carmen Leilani

In this conversation, Kaylee Rose and Carmen Leilani De Jesus explore the complexities of consent, particularly through the lens of the Wheel of Consent framework. Carmen shares her insights on the importance of understanding the dynamics of wanting versus willing, and how this framework can empower individuals to communicate their desires and boundaries effectively. They also discuss the application of these concepts in BDSM and kink, emphasizing the need for nuanced conversations around consent and the importance of negotiation in relational dynamics. In this conversation, Kaylee Rose and Carmen explore the concept of desire smuggling, the barriers individuals face in expressing their desires, and the importance of embodiment in authentic consent. They discuss practical applications of the Wheel of Consent, emphasizing the need for self-trust and vulnerability in intimate relationships. Carmen shares insights on building a consent culture, particularly in the context of current societal challenges, and highlights the significance of reclaiming agency and navigating consent in a world filled with coercion and compliance.

Non-Mongamy w/Lola Pheonix

In this episode of the Kinkology Podcast, Kaylee Rose interviews Lola Phoenix, an author and expert in non-monogamous relationships. They discuss the journey of writing resources for non-monogamy, common challenges faced by individuals in these relationships, and the importance of communication and understanding dynamics. Lola emphasizes the need for informed consent and the complexities of hierarchy versus equality in non-monogamous settings, providing insights into how to navigate these relationships effectively.   Kaylee and Lola explore the complexities of attachment in relationships, particularly in the context of non-monogamy. They discuss the importance of understanding secure attachments, the challenges of navigating multiple relationships, and the impact of kink dynamics on emotional connections.   The conversation emphasizes the need for clear communication, setting boundaries, and the role of self-compassion in fostering healthy relationships. Lola shares insights on how to approach non-monogamous relationships and the significance of understanding one's nervous system in managing emotional responses.

People Pleasing & Kink with Hailey Magee

In this episode of The Kinkology podcast, Kaylee welcomes certified coach Hailey Magee [https://www.haileymagee.com/] to discuss their parallel journeys in overcoming people pleasing and embracing their identities within the kink community. In this conversation, Hailey Magee and Kaylee Rose explore the themes of self-honesty, personal boundaries, and the dynamics of kink relationships. They discuss the importance of radical self-honesty in setting boundaries, the necessity of open communication in kink dynamics, and the distinction between empowered submission and people-pleasing.

Start Here- Shame & What We're Going to Do About it

Welcome to the very first episode of The Kinkology Podcast! I’m your host, Kaylee Rose Friedman—a licensed psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, and PhD candidate in clinical sexology. In this episode, I’m sharing my story: how I went from opera singer to yoga teacher to sex therapist specializing in kink, and why exploring my own sexuality set me free. I’ll also give you a sneak peek into what to expect from this podcast: thoughtful conversations about BDSM, relationships, and mental health, with plenty of room for curiosity and growth. Ready to get curious? Tune in to learn more about my mission, the values that guide me, and how I hope this podcast can help you embrace your most authentic sexual self. Don’t forget to stick around for ways to get involved in future episodes! Key Takeaways * Kaylee’s personal journey into sex therapy, starting with an unexpected path through opera and yoga. * How working through her own shame led to a mission of empowering others. * Why curiosity is a cornerstone of self-discovery and growth, inspired by Brené Brown’s wisdom. * An invitation to listeners to share their stories, questions, and experiences for future episodes. What Next? * Subscribe to the podcast to stay tuned for upcoming episodes. * Leave a review and share this episode with someone curious about kink and connection. * Follow Kaylee on Instagram at @kinkologypod [https://www.instagram.com/kinkologypod/?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] for updates and community conversations.