The LDS Mission Podcast

259. Before You "Wait For Each Other"

Episode 259: Before You "Wait For Each Other" is a conversation I've been wanting to have for a long time. Whether you're preparing to serve a mission, currently serving, a returned missionary, a missionary parent, or navigating a boyfriend or girlfriend relationship before a mission, this episode is for you. I dive into common questions about dating, waiting for each other, mission relationships, emotional independence, homesickness, self confidence, and how to approach these relationships in a healthy and supportive way. In this episode, I share some of the biggest challenges I see missionaries face when they are emotionally attached to someone back home. We talk about emotional dependence, confidence that comes from another person, surrendering to the process, trusting God's timing, relationship anxiety, emotional regulation, jealousy, uncertainty, and learning how to create your own emotional stability. I also share practical questions you can ask yourself to determine whether a relationship is supporting your mission experience or making it harder than it needs to be. If you've ever wondered whether you should wait for someone, how to handle a relationship during a mission, or how to stay emotionally grounded when someone you care about is far away, Episode 259: Before You "Wait For Each Other" will give you practical tools, mindset shifts, and a healthier perspective on relationships, faith, confidence, and trusting the process. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 01:15 – Should You Wait For Each Other? 03:30 – Relationships Aren't The Problem 06:10 – Finding The Middle Ground 09:00 – Thoughts Create Relationships 11:45 – Emotional Dependence 15:05 – Problem #1: Managing Their Emotions 16:15 – Problem #2: Not Surrendering The Process 18:10 – Problem #3: Confidence From Them 20:50 – Create Emotional Stability 22:55 – You Create Your Feelings 23:45 – Build Self Confidence 24:50 – Let It Be Uncertain 26:20 – A Healthy Relationship Checklist 27:15 – Signs You're Holding On Too Tight 28:15 – A Message For Parents 30:10 – Let The Process Unfold 33:15 – Outro Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]

258. When You Feel Walked On

Episode 258: When You Feel Walked On is for missionaries, returned missionaries, missionary moms, and anyone who has ever felt exhausted, resentful, or quietly taken advantage of from always being the one who says yes. In this episode, I share a conversation I had with a missionary who asked me a powerful question: "What do you do when you feel like people are walking on you?" We talk about overgiving, people pleasing, resentment, emotional boundaries, Christlike service, and how to know when it might be time to stop giving from depletion and start giving from fullness. I share practical mindset tools to help you rethink overgiving, including how to tell when resentment is quietly building, why we often tie our worth to helping others, and the two questions that can completely change the way you make decisions: Do I actually want to do this? and Do I have the capacity to do this? We also talk about emotional energy, setting healthy boundaries on the mission and after the mission, vulnerability, people pleasing, discernment, and why not everyone gets full access to your "Peter Parker" side. If you have ever struggled with saying no, felt emotionally drained from always showing up, or wondered how to balance Christlike love with healthy boundaries, Episode 258: When You Feel Walked On will give you practical tools, perspective shifts, and permission to start giving from overflow instead of depletion. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro & Mission Prep Plus 03:15 – Feeling Walked On 07:15 – Signs You're Overgiving 09:00 – Why We Do This 10:35 – Giving From Overflow 12:30 – Two Questions To Ask 15:00 – The Spider Man Analogy 18:40 – Practicing Discernment 19:40 – Practical Shifts 21:45 – Slow Down The Yes 24:00 – Stop Giving Full Access 25:05 – Shifting Your Identity 28:05 – Final Thoughts Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]

257. A Simple Script for Missionary Moms

Episode 257: A Simple Script for Missionary Moms is for every missionary mom, dad, mission leader, or loved one who has ever wondered, "What do I say when my missionary is struggling?" In this episode, I share one simple but powerful script that can completely change the way you support missionaries, returned missionaries, and young adults through hard days, discouragement, anxiety, homesickness, self doubt, or even thoughts of coming home from the mission. We talk about why our brains naturally want to fix problems, why missionaries often think there is something wrong with them for struggling, and how your response can either add pressure or create safety and connection. I walk through the simple practice of normalize, validate, repeat and explain how learning to "hold space" instead of trying to fix things can strengthen trust, confidence, emotional resilience, and relationships with your missionary or returned missionary. Whether your missionary is struggling with mission anxiety, discouragement, confidence, self worth, social anxiety after the mission, or simply feeling overwhelmed, this episode will give you practical tools and a simple script to help you respond in a way that feels calm, loving, and supportive. You do not have to fix your missionary, solve every problem, or say the perfect thing. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is simply remind them that it makes sense, it is okay, and you are there to help them move through it. Episode 257: A Simple Script for Missionary Moms will show you exactly how. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 02:00 – Why Missionary Moms Feel So Much Pressure 05:15 – Why We Try to Fix Our Missionaries 08:20 – Thoughts and Feelings Are Not the Problem 11:10 – The Script: Normalize + Validate 14:30 – Mission Anxiety, Going Home, and Hard Days 18:10 – Helping Returned Missionaries Struggle Well 21:00 – "How Can We Help You Move Through This?" 24:15 – Holding Space Instead of Fixing 28:10 – Final Thoughts for Missionary Moms Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]

256. Rethinking Mission Stress

Episode 256: Rethinking Mission Stress is all about understanding why stress shows up on the mission and how to work with it instead of feeling overwhelmed by it. In this episode, I share a real situation from a missionary mom and walk through what is actually happening in your brain when stress hits. We talk about how your brain is wired to see things as high stakes, even when they are not, and how that can create pressure, anxiety, and emotional overload for missionaries, returned missionaries, and missionary moms. I break down the most common ways we accidentally make things feel heavier than they need to be, like trying to fix what is not ours to fix, comparing ourselves to others, or tying our worth to our performance. Then I give you simple mindset and emotional tools to help you rethink stress, create healthier boundaries, and stay grounded in your mission experience. This is especially helpful if you are dealing with mission anxiety, companion stress, pressure to perform, or feeling responsible for things outside your control. You do not need to eliminate stress to have a meaningful and successful mission. You just need to understand it and learn how to use it in a way that supports you. Episode 256: Rethinking Mission Stress will help you shift from overwhelming pressure to a more useful and empowering way of moving forward. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 01:05 – A Message for Missionary Moms 03:31 – Mission Prep Plus Tools 05:35 – Why Mission Stress Builds 06:27 – What Stress Actually Is 09:40 – When Stress Feels High Stakes 10:45 – 5 Things That Create Stress 18:02 – 5 Ways to Rethink Stress 22:15 – Boundaries + Self Trust 24:00 – Useful Pressure vs Overwhelm 26:30 – Repositioning Stress 28:24 – Outro Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]

255. How One Insight Can Change Everything

Episode 255: How One Insight Can Change Everything is all about how a single shift in perspective can completely transform your confidence, your direction, and the way you see yourself as a missionary, returned missionary, or missionary mom. In this episode, I share a personal story about an identity shift I experienced and how something I once saw as a weakness became one of my greatest strengths. We dive into how the meaning we assign to our experiences shapes our emotions, our actions, and ultimately our mission experience and post mission life. If you've ever felt like you need to prove yourself, questioned your qualifications, or believed that certain traits are holding you back on your mission, this episode will help you see things differently. I walk you through simple mindset tools to question your default thoughts, flip your perspective, and open yourself up to new insights. This is powerful work for missionaries struggling with confidence, comparison, anxiety, or feeling like they're not enough, and it applies just as much to life after the mission. You don't need more experience, more credentials, or more proof that you're capable. You may just need a clearer way of seeing yourself. When you shift the meaning you've been giving your experiences, everything can change. Episode 255: How One Insight Can Change Everything will show you how to start creating that shift on purpose. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 01:10 – Mother's Day + Missionary Moms 03:44 – Why One Insight Changes Everything 05:15 – The Instagram Question 07:20 – The Need to Prove Yourself 09:30 – Turning Weakness into Strength 14:00 – Are You Misreading Your Strengths? 17:30 – 3 Ways to Create Insight 20:45 – Insight Happens in a Moment 22:50 – Final Thoughts + Invitation Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]